Poll: Hugging After A Time Out

[Former Teacher]

I was just wondering if anyone here hugs a child after the child was in time out.

Thanks!

[LaLa1923]

I basically do what super nanny does. I always ask for an apology, give them a hug and let them know I love them. I also let them know I definitely know they can make a better decision/choice.

[BumbleBee]

If they want a hug, yes. If they don't, no. Some kids aren't huggers and that's ok.

[SilverSabre25]

I hug my two year old...but that's partly because giving a hug is how he says "Sorry". It's very cute. He's also generally very upset after a time out.

The other kids I have right now rarely (never?) cry in time out, and I don't really feel like they need a hug. When the time out is up, I reiterate that I expect them to make better choices and send them back to playing.

[Willow]

I don't see the point of offering positive reinforcement for completion of a time out/take a break.

To put it bluntly, you don't get a cookie because you were compliant AFTER doing wrong.


You do however get a cookie for not doing wrong in the first place though, and I love to dish out hugs to reinforce unprompted positive behaviors.

[LoraJenkins]

I may get bashed for this but, usually if a time out is used here it was a VERY bad behavior and I am NOT rewarding it with a hug. I use time-outs rarely and as a last resort. The Littles get hugs, high-fives, tickles all day.

[Play Care]

I may get bashed for this but, usually if a time out is used here it was a VERY bad behavior and I am NOT rewarding it with a hug. I use time-outs rarely and as a last resort. The Littles get hugs, high-fives, tickles all day.

[Familycare71]

I basically do what super nanny does. I always ask for an apology, give them a hug and let them know I love them. I also let them know I definitely know they can make a better decision/choice.

[Heidi]

I may get bashed for this but, usually if a time out is used here it was a VERY bad behavior and I am NOT rewarding it with a hug. I use time-outs rarely and as a last resort. The Littles get hugs, high-fives, tickles all day.

[littlemissmuffet]

I may get bashed for this but, usually if a time out is used here it was a VERY bad behavior and I am NOT rewarding it with a hug. I use time-outs rarely and as a last resort. The Littles get hugs, high-fives, tickles all day.

[Blackcat31]

I may get bashed for this but, usually if a time out is used here it was a VERY bad behavior and I am NOT rewarding it with a hug. I use time-outs rarely and as a last resort. The Littles get hugs, high-fives, tickles all day.

I also agree with Lora (and Willow). I don't offer hugs after time out.

I also do NOT require the kids to apologize.

In certain situations for older kids I would but not for the little ones.

[MyAngels]

I may get bashed for this but, usually if a time out is used here it was a VERY bad behavior and I am NOT rewarding it with a hug. I use time-outs rarely and as a last resort. The Littles get hugs, high-fives, tickles all day.

Another

[Unregistered]

No time out in California per licensing

[AnneCordelia]

I agree with Willow and Black cat.

I have one family in care who has an aggressive 3yo that tends towards pushing others. When they see it they have her hug her victim in apology. I'm not down with that either. You just shoved the kid...they don't want you near them to give them a hug.