I'm Pretty Sure DCM LIKES It When DCbaby Cries!

[crazydaycarelady]

I've seen this before but it always just amazes me!

Dcm was hanging around at drop-off and commenting on how dcbaby seemed happy. She kept hanging around and then finally picked him up and rather then hand him off to me she walked him across the room, set him down, and then walked away. Of course he cried, she seemed happy, so she left.

[littlemissmuffet]

I have seen many parents like this over the years and I just can't imagine being that way myself. If I had to leave my child in daycare and they happily went inside and went straight to play I would be DELIGHTED and let her enjoy her new-found sense of independence and freedom! Some parents are completely selfish - they think if the child isn't in complete histerics when dropped that the child doesn't like them or miss them So over parents being bigger babies than the REAL babies we look after.

[mrsnj]

Had them too! I do not understand it myself. I love the parent who will stand there saying over and over "Bye bye. Mommy is going. John. Mommy is going. Bye honey. I will see you later... Bye bye" Until the child cries! It is like they need to know they will be missed. One would think that them arriving happy and running off would be a better situation. Guess not.

[Willow]

I'm not usually real blunt with my daycare parents but that is one time I'd point blank ask what the heck they thought they were doing. There is no way I'd be able to sit there and allow a parent to upset a child intentionally for their own selfish needs!

[MBF]

I had a dad like this, caused big issues at the front door. I spoke to him about it, then the boy would be crying before he came in. I hung around the door the next day at drop off, he was stirring him up in the driveway instead! we had a BIG talk after that, it didn't end, so it led to the only termination I have done in 9 years. I put up with it too long, what a relief after he left!

[Blackcat31]

I had a DCM once that would say "goodbye" until her child cried.

When I confronted her about it, her answer was "Well, atleast I know they miss me" :confused:

I simply told her that if she continued to delay leaving until the child cried, she would be required to take the child with her.

I TOTALLY 100% understand how hard it is to leave your child but I will NEVER condone doing something that is emotionally harmful to the child just so the parent feels better.

They are the adult.....**** it up buttercup!

[daycarediva]

I have a dcm like this, too. Only her CHILD doesn't take the bait and NEVER gets upset. I LOVE IT.

"Bye bye honey, Momma is leaving now!"

"bye, momma!"

"Can Momma get another hug and kiss? I'm going to miss you!"

"ok, Momma!" (hug and kiss)

child walks away and engages herself in play

"Awww, won't you miss Momma, too!?"

"yup but I playing now and you be back later, k?"

continue, until I feel nauseous and the child starts to ignore the parent. ::

[melilley]

I had twins at a center that I used to work at. The mom would drop off and sit around and have breakfast, talk..etc. She would leave, they would cry. Then about 5 minutes later, dad would come, sit, talk, they would cry when he left, but there were times when they wouldn't cry and he would stand at the door saying "bye" until they cried.
I had another parent who's child would be fine at drop off and he would go to the door, turn around and call his child's name. If the child didn't look, he would call his name until he looked and then he would cry. Happened a lot.

Weird, I just don't get it. Maybe it makes them feel special because their child cried for them?

[MsLaura529]

Ugh, I HATED leaving if my child was crying when I dropped her off - it happened very rarely, but it happened on those "off" days. I don't understand why a parent would WANT that to happen.

I have one DCM who will sit there and repeatedly say "bye DCG. Buh bye, momma's going to miss you so much. I'm going to miss you. You be a good girl. I'm going to miss you so much DCG. Bye bye. Give momma a hug and a kiss. I'm going to miss you, Bye-bye" ... and DCG kind of just stands there and ignores her, haha.