Breath In, Breath Out; And Thank The Heavens It's Friday!

[BumbleBee]

3 yo dcb started 7.5 months ago when he was just over 2.5 years. He was the kid who talked back, hit, spit, dumped toys, refused to pick up, ripped books, dumped his lunch on the floor, etc etc etc.

It's been an uphill battle but he's gotten MUCH better over the last 6 months. Hasn't spit in 6 months, picks up his toys 90% of the time, hasn't ripped a book in 5 months, hasn't hit in 4 months, talking back is absent about 80% of the time, hasn't dumped his lunch on the floor in about 3 months.

Until today. He ran off on our walk (HUGE no no), ripped a book on purpose,
peed in the bathroom trash can, spit in my face, jumped on the bookshelf-breaking it, threw a toy (another BIG no no) and to top it all off, dumped his lunch on the floor.

Now he's laying on his cot (away from the other kids) alternating between screaming "I'm hungry" and "I pee'd." He used to wet himself to get off his cot. I would put a pull-up on him. He'd use his hands to move the pull up so he could pee outside of it. Now his hands have to be where I can see them (I.e. on top of the blanket) for the duration of nap.) So yes, he did pee himself-but he has a pull up on.

Heaven help me!

[luv2bfrugal]

oh no! In my experience, they do have relapses!
Im glad its friday too!

[Familycare71]

:hug: :hug: :hug:

That's quite the day!!! Yay Friday!!! happyface

[BumbleBee]

Yeah, I'm guessing something happened yesterday at home (dcb wasn't here) yesterday. Not abuse wise, but there's no discipline, no rules, and the 4.5 yo girl runs the show at home. Monday's are tough w/dcb, but not this tough!

I know behavioral relapses are a fact of life-I just hate it when they happen!

[Maria2013]

Friday...the regenerating process is about to beginhappyface::

[AcornMama]

Friday...the regenerating process is about to beginhappyface::

[Brooksie]

Jeez you are way more tolerant than me. If a child has spit in my or any one else's face that would be immediate term. Bless you, and good luck!

[daycarediva]

I have his long lost twin brother in my care. We have a behavioral intervention plan, it has three 'big' incidents (listed them on the form) and then dcb is required to be picked up. Three pick ups in a week and dcb is suspended for 3 days.

I called for pick up ONCE. I really think the parents never thought I would do it. Guess what happened? dcb has NEVER gotten to 3 strikes again. His parents actually started disciplining him at home (or rather, following through on their words since they were essentially doing a 'threat but no action' )

[Play Care]

Jeez you are way more tolerant than me. If a child has spit in my or any one else's face that would be immediate term. Bless you, and good luck!

Same here, this job can be difficult enough without that abuse!
TGIF!

[Clara]

Great Job!

:hug:
Sounds like you are doing so good with this child. Some parents just need so much more help than others.

Just think, 2 days off, 2 days off

[Maria2013]

I have his long lost twin brother in my care. We have a behavioral intervention plan, it has three 'big' incidents (listed them on the form) and then dcb is required to be picked up. Three pick ups in a week and dcb is suspended for 3 days.

I called for pick up ONCE. I really think the parents never thought I would do it. Guess what happened? dcb has NEVER gotten to 3 strikes again. His parents actually started disciplining him at home (or rather, following through on their words since they were essentially doing a 'threat but no action' )

excellent policy I think I will adopt it myself

[countrymom]

acually I like the idea of the 3 strike rule. No child should be that bad no matter what and the spitting, he would sit in time out for a long time.

[BumbleBee]

acually I like the idea of the 3 strike rule. No child should be that bad no matter what and the spitting, he would sit in time out for a long time.

I respectfully disagree with you. This childs' history reads like a horror movie script with what he's endured. I, personally, do not believe that he is a bad child. The fact that he has come so far in such a short amount of time AND that he's gone a minimum of 3 months w/o any of the behaviors (until today) is encouraging. Many children I've come across, with his background, take years to put together a solid 3 months of appropriate behavior.

I am not excusing his behavior, though I know many will see it that way. Every single one of the behaviors he displayed today received swift and appropriate discipline.

It hurts to see a child relapse-especially when they've come so far in such a short amount of time. I hope and pray he is not regressing and this relapse was just that, a relapse. Was I angry? Yes. Frustrated? You bet. But most of all I was saddened to see him like that. I can't imagine what it feels like to be that out of control.

[Josiegirl]

Oh my. I'm usually a very patient provider but I don't think I could handle all of that in one day.
I just waved a little boy off to Kindergarten a few weeks ago and wasn't sad to see him go. Why? Because he displayed so many of those moments you talk about. And they weren't even all in one day but through out the whole year. He'd get mad and throw things, chairs, books, etc. He'd refuse to sit down and try to calm himself down, he was very loud and would get in everybody's face. He'd scream, literally, until he got it all out. He'd stick his leg out on purpose to trip everyone. Throw his dish across the table when he didn't like his meal, which was most of the time because mostly what he eats is pizza, pb & j and corn dogs. What's ironic was I requested his caseworker to visit me in action to see what *I* was doing wrong or could improve upon, and to watch his interaction with the rest of the kids here. For that 45 minutes he was a complete angel. I coulda smacked him!::

[LK5kids]

Oh, heaven help you!!! That is really extreme misbehavior! How do you do it?