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My 3 month old daughter just started daycare 2 weeks ago. At first we loved our provider. She was very nice and seemed to love our baby! Tonight at 9 pm I texted her and said we have to stop by we left one of her bottles there. The provider texted back and said no I am closed you can get it tomorrow. Since she is an in home daycare provider and is a business we are allowed in the house whenever we need to. So we went over anyways to get the bottle. She was in the backyard with a bunch of people, drinking a glass of wine and having a cigarette! I immediately told her that we won't be brining our daughter to her anymore. I don't know how she managed to hide the cigarette smell. What if she had been drinking while watching the children?! Am I suppose to call the police or department of human services?
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this must be a joke!
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well I see what you are saying, but as providers, we are people too and live normal lives just like everyone else.
You are right that you do have access to her house, but it is only when your child is there. YOU Do not have any rights to going into her house when your child is not there, or after normal hours of operation. Even licensing from the state has the right to come into a daycare outside of the normal business hours of operation.
I am not too sure what she was doing has to do with turning her into the police or any services, she was not doing anything that was against the law. Unless she is a 24/7 daycare and had kids there at that time, there is nothing wrong with living your life in your home, home daycare or not.
I understand that you may not be ok with people who participate in these type of activities, I too would not want my child to go to a provider that smoked, but did you even ask her if she smokes all the time or only when she drinks? Did you talk to her about it????
Not to sound mean, but is this a joke? Did I just fall for one?Comment
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Yes, you should quit! The provider will be so much better off without you!Comment
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Wow! If I was that provider, you would have been termed on the spot. (It's in my contract that I have that right.)
You do not have the right to go to her home 24/7. She is not in business 24/7. You only have the right to go there when your child is in care - during drop-off and pick-up.
Just because you dropped by at 9PM, when she specifically told you not to come, and found her sitting in her own backyard having a glass of wine and a cigarette is none of your business. CPS nor the police care as what she was doing was totally legal. She obviously did not have children in care.
As a long time provider, my home is just that, MY HOME. I open it during certain hours to care for children. You as a parent are not entitled to show up whenever you want.
I do not smoke or drink, but if I did at night after the kids left, that would be none of your concern. It's not illegal.Comment
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First of all... I see a few HUGE red flags here. And not related to the provider, but related to YOUR behavior...
(1) just because providers have an "open door policy" doesn't mean you can show up any time you want when your child isn't there. That's called AFTER HOURS and TRESSPASSING since she told you no you could get it tomorrow. Providers aren't even required to answer the phone or texts after hours so yu were lucky she even did that.
(2) what she does in HER time is NONE OF YUR BUSINESS. SHE IS ALLOWED TO HAVE A LIFE OUTSIDE OF HER DAYCARE. You may not have smelled cigarette smoke because maybe she only does it after hours or only socially.
(3) nothing she did was illegal or against daycare regulations.
(4) if I were her, and I told you that you could get the bottle the next day, and you showed up during MY TIME... I'd have teenaged services.
You seem to think because she is yur provider that you OWN her time after business hours. But you do not. While having a glass of wine and smoking is against regulations DURING business hours, the same doesn't hold true on her own time.
Se is allowed to have 40 people over for beer pong if she wants to and it's none of your business.
Wen McDonald's closes that doesn't give you the right to walk up into the door and steal a hamburger.
What you did was steal her personal time. She was OFF THE CLOCK.
You should be ashamed.
Pulling is your choice, but please remember if she requires a two weeks paid in full, yu are required by law to pay it. And she can sue you for it and she will win.
In the future I hope you understand that you don't OWN your provider. And what she does or doesn't do outside of business hours are NONE OF YUR BUSINESS. Ad she isn't required to disclose ANYTHING.Comment
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Are you freaking serious? NO, you do NOT have the right into her home anytime you want. You have the right to enter her home ONLY while YOUR child is in her care. So what if she was smoking a cigarette and drinking a glass of wine? They're both legal. I'm certain she wasn't "hiding" cigarette smell, I'm sure she doesn't smoke in her home. I'd say that your provider dodged a bullet-you are insane. No, you aren't supposed to call the police or DHS...she did nothing wrong.
WOW...you'd have never heard the end of it had you pulled that crap at my home.Comment
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It can't be real! It has to be someone trying to get everyone riled up!
If not - OP you did that woman a favor by promising you wouldn't return! I'm sure she had a drink and a smoke to celebrate!!! ::
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I'm not even gonna touch the "should I call the police or CPS" that in itself is RIDICULOUS.
But I would like to ask, OP can afford a daycare provider but can't afford to have more then 1 bottle at home. Or was this particular bottle made of GOLD that You just had to go get it right then and there? Really?!Comment
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This is NOT a joke! She is in the wrong, not me! She is not a 24/7 provider but she is a in home daycare provider and it is a business! I am allowed in the house anytime I need to be! Daycare providers are not allowed to smoke or to drink! They care for children! Providers don't have "personal" or "me" time where they can do whatever they want!! Why wouldn't the cops or department of humans services be involved in this?Comment
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Where's the Troll Spray when we need it.......Comment
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Cheap and pettyComment
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