DCG Pees On Purpose In Time-Out!

[Brustkt]

I had one of those. After the first time she did it, I put a towel on a metal chair and left her there. I think she was three, so three minutes. She stopped screaming to tell me, "I peed."
I shrugged, "You can clean that up when you are done with time out."
A minute later she stopped yelling, sat for her three minutes, helped me clean up, changed her clothes, and never peed again.
Make it a non issue for YOU, but an issue for her.

All that said, I am not sure I would use time out for sassy. I usually just redirect speech or laugh and tell them, "That is not going to happen here, we are going to do this..."

"I am the boss."
No, you are not the boss. This is MY house and here I am the boss.
"I think YOU need to pick those up." Ha!
That is not going to happen. YOU put them there, and you are not going to go to the next fun thing until you pick them up.
Ad nauseum.

Yes...I agree with not using TO for her sassy, but I asked her mom what approach they are taking with it and she said TO, so we are trying to be consistent.
It goes something like this:
"Dcg, stop picking your nose please!"
Reply, "I'm not"
Me,; "I'm watching you pick your nose, so please go wash your hands and stop!"
Reply, "No I'm NOT!"

This goes on and on and on, with her finger up her nose the entire time!

[Cradle2crayons]

Yes...I agree with not using TO for her sassy, but I asked her mom what approach they are taking with it and she said TO, so we are trying to be consistent.
It goes something like this:
"Dcg, stop picking your nose please!"
Reply, "I'm not"
Me,; "I'm watching you pick your nose, so please go wash your hands and stop!"
Reply, "No I'm NOT!"

This goes on and on and on, with her finger up her nose the entire time!

Well obviously at isn't working well for ya! :hug:

I will never sit there and argue with a child.

In the above example yu are giving her way too much power to get on yr nerves.

The child knows she's picking her nose. My response "is something about your nose bothering you? Here's a Kleenex, blow real big for miss Lynn and lets go wash your hands"!

If I learned nothing from my ten year old ADHD child with sensory issues... Is PICK YOUR BATTLES AND DO NOT ARGUE WITH THEM. All that results from that is at you get irritated and they get the result they want by irritating you.

She gets a rise from you and so her reward is to keep doing it.

[Maria2013]

It is important not to react to the pants peeing..

I would give her TO in an easy to clean spot and let her go ahead and pee her pants, I would change her only after the time out is over showing her it does not effect me at all

[Heidi]

Avoid giving her the opportunity to argue in the first place like PP said. Ignore as much as you can. Use humor when you can to diffuse. Laughing at her sassiness like "yeah, right, like THAT's going to get you anywhere" works around here.

I also take away privileges that are directly related to the "crime". So, abuse a toy, and you loose the privilege of using it.

When timeouts are absolutely your only option, then do as the other PP said and sit her on a towel. If she pees, underreact and make her do as much as she can to fix it.

[Angelsj]

Avoid giving her the opportunity to argue in the first place like PP said. Ignore as much as you can. Use humor when you can to diffuse. Laughing at her sassiness like "yeah, right, like THAT's going to get you anywhere" works around here.

I also take away privileges that are directly related to the "crime". So, abuse a toy, and you loose the privilege of using it.

When timeouts are absolutely your only option, then do as the other PP said and sit her on a towel. If she pees, underreact and make her do as much as she can to fix it.

Agreed. I laugh at a lot of their little sassy comments.
"Does that EVER work here?"
Or redirect the speech. Tell them what will work and don't give them what they want until it does.
"I can have a banana." (Yes, I hear that daily) "Try, may I have a banana please?" And no banana until they ask correctly.
I agree with C2C too, don't argue, just handle it. Wipe the kid's nose and take them to wash their hands.

[Cradle2crayons]

Agreed. I laugh at a lot of their little sassy comments.
"Does that EVER work here?"
Or redirect the speech. Tell them what will work and don't give them what they want until it does.
"I can have a banana." (Yes, I hear that daily) "Try, may I have a banana please?" And no banana until they ask correctly.
I agree with C2C too, don't argue, just handle it. Wipe the kid's nose and take them to wash their hands.

we used to always say (and its mostly still true)... My daughter would argue with a tree.

[lovemylife]

. My daughter would argue with a tree.

Hahaha! Mine too.