DCG Pees On Purpose In Time-Out!

[Brustkt]

I have a 2 3/4 dcg that is very sassy to begin with...seriously talks back to me like she is 13. I have been putting her in TO when she is sassy, and now she is peeing her pants while in TO because she is angry with me. Any advice? Her mom just smiled and said, yes...she did that to me once.

[Leigh]

Put her in a diaper before time out?

I would honestly just change her pants and put her BACK in time out to finish it...tell her that peeing doesn't get her "released" from time out. And make sure time-out is on a hard surface-not carpet or a chair.

[lovemylife]

Oh my goodness! I have had a child do that. I would put her in time out and she would say you better let me out or I'm going to pee my pants! It's like what in the world? I had to start making her go pee before time out because she would go every single time. It was very frustrating!

[butterfly]

I'm not sure what I'd do in that situation. I'd be kinda ticked.

Is there another form of discipline you could try? Instead of timeouts, remove her favorite toy? redirect to another activity?

Time outs are rare here - they don't seem to be very effective for me.

Just last week I put a little guy in time out and when his time was up. I talked to him and let him join the others. Then he screamed that he wanted to go BACK TO TIME OUT!!! :confused: I don't think my kids get the concept of time out. ::

[Leigh]

I'm not sure what I'd do in that situation. I'd be kinda ticked.

Is there another form of discipline you could try? Instead of timeouts, remove her favorite toy? redirect to another activity?

Time outs are rare here - they don't seem to be very effective for me.

Just last week I put a little guy in time out and when his time was up. I talked to him and let him join the others. Then he screamed that he wanted to go BACK TO TIME OUT!!! :confused: I don't think my kids get the concept of time out. ::

I agree that time out is not always effective, and sometimes REALLY not effective for some kids. However, at my home, hitting ALWAYS gets a time out. Always. I save it for the serious stuff, or it loses it's effectiveness...you really have to base discipline on each child. I have one that must go to time out nearly once a day. Another who I can just say "please leave this alone" or whatever, and it never happens again.

[Brustkt]

It IS frustrating! Especially since she is already so sassy! I guess I will make her go potty before a time out. I just feel it loses some effectiveness if its not right after her sassy comment but I am sick of cleaning her and her pee up!

[Leigh]

It IS frustrating! Especially since she is already so sassy! I guess I will make her go potty before a time out. I just feel it loses some effectiveness if its not right after her sassy comment but I am sick of cleaning her and her pee up!

It is important not to react to the pants peeing...just deal with it matter of factly and continue to deal with things the same way. Even if time out is not working for her, this is not the time to change your discipline program...the peeing must stop before you do that, or she will likely continue to pee herself to get her way.

[Unregistered]

perhaps tell dcm or dcd that if dcg has another "accident" while in care that they will have to start providing pull-ups until she is accident free for two weeks. put it back on them!

imo sassy behavior like that is almost always a direct result of misguided parenting

[Willow]

If she thinks peeing in her pants is a game/power struggle tool she can use to manipulate discipline I'd take the privilege of underwear out of the equation.

I don't care what the reason is behind an accident. If a child is having accidents with any regularity then they belong in diapers.


Let her know that when she wants her underwear back she'll show you by not peeing in them anymore. No anger. No frustration. Just fact.

[Familycare71]

If she thinks peeing in her pants is a game/power struggle tool she can use to manipulate discipline I'd take the privilege of underwear out of the equation.

I don't care what the reason is behind an accident. If a child is having accidents with any regularity then they belong in diapers.


Let her know that when she wants her underwear back she'll show you by not peeing in them anymore. No anger. No frustration. Just fact.

[Brustkt]

I think I will go this route. Yesterday she was excited to put on a pull-up after her time-out incident and I really don't want that. I think she needs to go back into diapers. Thanks Ladies!

[Brustkt]

If she thinks peeing in her pants is a game/power struggle tool she can use to manipulate discipline I'd take the privilege of underwear out of the equation.

I don't care what the reason is behind an accident. If a child is having accidents with any regularity then they belong in diapers.


Let her know that when she wants her underwear back she'll show you by not peeing in them anymore. No anger. No frustration. Just fact.

Hit the wrong "quote" button Willow!

[Willow]

I think I will go this route. Yesterday she was excited to put on a pull-up after her time-out incident and I really don't want that. I think she needs to go back into diapers. Thanks Ladies!

Mom and dad might think it's harsh but I'd ban pull ups in the future. They're way too "fun" and make having accidents more of a novelty than a learning experience

[Size18]

If she thinks peeing in her pants is a game/power struggle tool she can use to manipulate discipline I'd take the privilege of underwear out of the equation.

I don't care what the reason is behind an accident. If a child is having accidents with any regularity then they belong in diapers.


Let her know that when she wants her underwear back she'll show you by not peeing in them anymore. No anger. No frustration. Just fact.

Ditto.

[Angelsj]

It is important not to react to the pants peeing...just deal with it matter of factly and continue to deal with things the same way. Even if time out is not working for her, this is not the time to change your discipline program...the peeing must stop before you do that, or she will likely continue to pee herself to get her way.

I had one of those. After the first time she did it, I put a towel on a metal chair and left her there. I think she was three, so three minutes. She stopped screaming to tell me, "I peed."
I shrugged, "You can clean that up when you are done with time out."
A minute later she stopped yelling, sat for her three minutes, helped me clean up, changed her clothes, and never peed again.
Make it a non issue for YOU, but an issue for her.

All that said, I am not sure I would use time out for sassy. I usually just redirect speech or laugh and tell them, "That is not going to happen here, we are going to do this..."

"I am the boss."
No, you are not the boss. This is MY house and here I am the boss.
"I think YOU need to pick those up." Ha!
That is not going to happen. YOU put them there, and you are not going to go to the next fun thing until you pick them up.
Ad nauseum.