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I have never had this happen before but today one of my dcb brought a birthday invitation to 2 of the other daycare kids. I didn't really think anything at first but then I realized that may not be fair to the other boy who wasn't invited. I know in school you are not allowed to hand out invitations for that reason. Part of me feels that he can invite who he wants, no one can make someone invite someone but then part of me feels sad for the other boy, so I was curious how other handle this.
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when my daughter was in daycare, we didn't give invitations to everyone, BUT it was discreet because i put the invitations in the children's cubbies so their parents would get them when they picked up. the kids didn't even know. i think it depends on if she came in and handed to the kids in front of the boy or not JMO. even if she had mailed them, if they're old enough to be talking - i'm sure the kid having the party would be sure to tell the boy he wasn't invited. in kindergarten, we mailed invitations and there were a few kids who we didn't invite. why would i make her invite someone she can't stand? there was one little girl that was just a straight brat to her all the time - no way would i make her invite her. but of course at school the kids who got invited would all talk about it so the ones who don't still realize it. -
I agree you can't like everyone and why would you want to invite someone you didn't want to come but in school there's 28 + kids in class here at daycare there's 4 so definetly singling someone out is obvious. thanksComment
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IMO, if everyone is not going to be invited, Mom should have mailed the invitations directly to their homes rather than have dcb bring them to daycare for only a select few. It's perfectly fine not to invite everyone but like a pp said, it needs to be discreet. Yes, the kids will probably talk about it after the fact but we can't really control that part of it.Comment
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i think you could make your policy that invitations need to be mailed and not exchanged at daycare, but you can't really tell the parents that they have to invite everyone - even if there are just a few kids. it wouldn't be fair if the others didn't get to go because they don't want one or two of the kids to come.Comment
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Personally, I've never understood the "invite one, invite all" rule at the elementary school level. Birthday parties are expensive, so it's not realistic to expect parents to invite 20-30 children to their child's party (especially since most parents of SA's just drop off their kids!). As far as daycare goes, I do think that it should be handled discreetly, but I don't think requiring that every child be invited is necessary. One idea, though, is to ask permission to distribute a contact info list for all parents of kids in your care - that way everyone will have mailing addresses for each child. You could even say "for birthday/holiday purposes".Comment
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thats wrong. i hope the one not invited doesnt know....i would suggest to the bday boys mom that invites need to be mailed and not left for you to do. feelings get hurt and kids Do know most times. good luck!Comment
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My parents are all really good about it. They secretly hand me envelops with the childrens names on them and then I hand the envelope to the parent at pick up. Nothing is said about it and the kids have no idea what we are passing along.
I admit that my son has invited some dck's to his parties but we keep it quiet. If it's ever mentioned I change the subject and so far that works.Comment
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