Not getting Paid...WWYD?

[Sunchimes]

I completely understand being tempted to put up with abuse (and it is abuse) because you are the only stability the little boy has in his life. I put up with way too much one time for that reason--and probably would still be tolerating it if they hadn't left of their own free will.

After one interview with a family that had so many red flags they could sail, I was going to take the family because the little girl was so sweet and was living a pretty rough life. Husband knows me well and was literally standing behind dcm waving his arms and shaking his head no. He's a good judge of character and has better self-protection skills than I do, so I stalled her while "we" thought about it. He said, "You can't save them all." I've since read that here, so he must be right.

But it's true. Sometimes you have to let go for the greater good-for you, for your family, and sometimes for the other kids. I keep reminding myself that kids have always had rough lives and grew up just fine. He's in school now, so he will have another pair of eyes looking out for him.

It's really, really hard I know. One more thing-if you decide to keep him after this, don't let anyone make you feel like it's a bad decision. It may be a bad decision for me, but only you can decide what is best for you. And if it is ok with you, then it's the right decision.

[Familycare71]

I completely understand being tempted to put up with abuse (and it is abuse) because you are the only stability the little boy has in his life. I put up with way too much one time for that reason--and probably would still be tolerating it if they hadn't left of their own free will.

After one interview with a family that had so many red flags they could sail, I was going to take the family because the little girl was so sweet and was living a pretty rough life. Husband knows me well and was literally standing behind dcm waving his arms and shaking his head no. He's a good judge of character and has better self-protection skills than I do, so I stalled her while "we" thought about it. He said, "You can't save them all." I've since read that here, so he must be right.

But it's true. Sometimes you have to let go for the greater good-for you, for your family, and sometimes for the other kids. I keep reminding myself that kids have always had rough lives and grew up just fine. He's in school now, so he will have another pair of eyes looking out for him.

It's really, really hard I know. One more thing-if you decide to keep him after this, don't let anyone make you feel like it's a bad decision. It may be a bad decision for me, but only you can decide what is best for you. And if it is ok with you, then it's the right decision.

[cheerfuldom]

I would let them self term. Tell them you can continue providing care if they are able to arrange drop offs at X time, pickups at X time, for X rate. If they can not work around what you can provide they will have to find other care but they will still owe Y amount by Y date. They MUST pay for care already received. If the Dad had an issue with the rate, why didnt he speak up before he accepted the service?

[Nebula]

I love my job, I love my kids- but it is that, a job and I run a home business. I have no problem terminating a client for non payment. I love what I do, which includes the business aspect of it. I rely on this job to make ends meet, and when I explain this to parents it usually moves things along. If not, then it's see ya time- but then again I am a bit tough & calloused LOL

[Cat Herder]

DCD didnt pay me because he thought I was charging too much.

My heart says stick it out.

I can take the new kid and still keep current dcb...

The parents are telling you they don't think what you offer their son is worth anything.

Believe them.

If you keep the kid without payment you are agreeing your services are worth nothing.

Sorry to be so blunt. Getting straight to the point is the only thing that I can see will help you right now.

Daycare is not a Charity. Many times it is not even a need, just "the norm" and culturally accepted as a way to fulfill ones wants.

Do the kid a bigger favor.... teach his parents that PARENTING is hard. Let them deal with the real costs their choices have. THAT will benefit the child more in the long run than enabling crappy parental behavior. (IMHO, parenting isn't just time "hands on" with kids, it is the ENTIRE planning and hard work involved in raising their own child)

:hug: , though.... I love how much you want to protect this kid, you just have to remember whose kid is actually paying the cost right now. (hint: yours. I learned that one the hard way, too )

[Leigh]

The parents are telling you they don't think what you offer their son is worth anything.

Believe them.

If you keep the kid without payment you are agreeing your services are worth nothing.

Sorry to be so blunt. Getting straight to the point is the only thing that I can see will help you right now.

Daycare is not a Charity. Many times it is not even a need, just "the norm" and culturally accepted as a way to fulfill ones wants.

Do the kid a bigger favor.... teach his parents that PARENTING is hard. Let them deal with the real costs their choices have. THAT will benefit the child more in the long run than enabling crappy parental behavior. (IMHO, parenting isn't just time "hands on" with kids, it is the ENTIRE planning and hard work involved in raising their own child)

:hug: , though.... I love how much you want to protect this kid, you just have to remember whose kid is actually paying the cost right now. (hint: yours. I learned that one the hard way, too )

A perfect answer^. Honestly, if I showed up at an interview with you and told you that I was going to drop my kid with you for 150 hours or so while I sat at home relaxing and I didn't think you deserved to be compensated, so I was just going to not pay you, would you accept me into your daycare? Sometimes, it's NOT about the kids. It's about the fact that the kid's parents are basically STEALING from you. I wouldn't allow it to go on for another minute. I swear. I would pick up the phone right now in the middle of the day and demand pickup or payment and then term either way.