Rude Girl

[Unregistered]

I post in here all the time, but a kid is on my iPad and apparently my username and password are not saved on this computer.

ANYWAY, I need to vent about a 4 year old girl. Sure she is bossy like some girls are, but she goes beyond bossy and right into rude. She tells me my house smells like a skunk or that I stink or picks out other physical flaws. It really does hurt my feelings. Today I just could not wait for her to leave. Am I alone in this, or do any of you have kids like this?

[Leigh]

I post in here all the time, but a kid is on my iPad and apparently my username and password are not saved on this computer.

ANYWAY, I need to vent about a 4 year old girl. Sure she is bossy like some girls are, but she goes beyond bossy and right into rude. She tells me my house smells like a skunk or that I stink or picks out other physical flaws. It really does hurt my feelings. Today I just could not wait for her to leave. Am I alone in this, or do any of you have kids like this?

I would just tell the little one that her behavior is rude and not appreciated nor appropriate, and that she needs to keep her "opinions" to herself, and remind her as often as needed that saying mean things to ANYONE is not allowed at your home.

[Blackcat31]

I would just tell the little one that her behavior is rude and not appreciated nor appropriate, and that she needs to keep her "opinions" to herself, and remind her as often as needed that saying mean things to ANYONE is not allowed at your home.

I agree. I would also bring this up with the parents.

All too often, kids behave like their parents and this little girl may hear her mom, dad or other close family member talk rudely about others so she may just be following the behavior she knows...kwim?

I am sorry she hurts your feelings...mean words hurt no matter who they are coming from. :hug:

[momofboys]

Sorry about that! It does hurt - I once watched a SA boy (he was 8 at the time, old enough to know better) tell me that his dad hated me. It did hurt my feelings a lot. And if I had the backbone I did now I would have confronted the parents about that unacceptable behavior (was very early in my childcare career). I have no doubts that the dad said those things but I think they boy was saying them to me to get a rise out of me. Mean. I would tell her that her words are hurtful & we are ALWAYS kind to everyone. It might be worthwhile to bring it up to the parents.:hug:

[itlw8]

This is very common for 4 yr olds even 6 year olds. they just do not have a filter yet. BUT they do need to learn their words can hurt people. Correct but nicely. explain it can hurt feelings and make people sad. If she is being hateful and saying those things. then take it a step further she is hurting on purpose... Say your words hurt it is rude to say that. then a short time out if it continues. Ask her to apologize. Do tell her many things are true... I am fat but it is not nice to call me fat. We need to be nice to people. Thank her for saying nice things

[Starburst]

Honestly, I think is only saying these things to get under your skin. Is she new? Maybe she misses her old daycare or just being with her mom/family and thinks that if she misbehaves enough you will kick her out and/or her mom will take her back to the old place or quit her job and stay home with her, etc.