Not Allowing A Child To Nap? Abuse?

[Maria2013]

I think that's just horrible and am glad you aren't giving in to that demand even though it meant losing a client. I know I've seen people post articles/studies on here about how important sleep is and how napping actually helps them sleep better at night. I can't find them from my phone but I'm sure someone can pull them up. I would print them out and give them to mom at pick up. I would say something like, "I know you want what's best for little johny so I thought I'd print these out for you. A lot of parents are misguided in thinking withholding a nap will help their child sleep better at night, and it's actually incredibly detrimental to their development".

[jenboo]

I used to work in a center where a dcm wanted her 4 yr old to only nap one hour instead of two. This little dcb was up early and so tired. He was a beast to wake up and would literally stand in one spot for an hour crying because he was so mad we woke him up. I started writing on his daily paper that he only slept one hour....I couldn't see him so miserable anymore.
Well, one day a teacher forgot to put that he only slept one hour. The next morning dcm came in complaining that he stayed up until midnight because of sleeping the whole two hours...
I never heard a single complaint any day where he slept two hours but I only wrote that he slept for one::

I'm not convinced that a two hour nap in the middle of the day will keep a child up all night. Especially when they are so tired.

[Leigh]

I'm not convinced that a two hour nap in the middle of the day will keep a child up all night. Especially when they are so tired.[/QUOTE]

Because it WON'T keep a kid up all night. The naps actually HELP a child sleep at night. If they don't nap in the daytime when their body produces the melatonin telling the body to sleep, they'll get a "second wind" when the melatonin levels drop, and get hyper. A good napper is nearly always a good night time sleeper.

[Memc2001]

I don't know if I would call it "abuse" but maybe stick it more in the neglect column or bad judgment. Anyway, don't let her bad parenting be your problem anymore. Term ASAP.

[Sunshine74]

I used to work in a center where a dcm wanted her 4 yr old to only nap one hour instead of two. This little dcb was up early and so tired. He was a beast to wake up and would literally stand in one spot for an hour crying because he was so mad we woke him up. I started writing on his daily paper that he only slept one hour....I couldn't see him so miserable anymore.
Well, one day a teacher forgot to put that he only slept one hour. The next morning dcm came in complaining that he stayed up until midnight because of sleeping the whole two hours...
I never heard a single complaint any day where he slept two hours but I only wrote that he slept for one::

I'm not convinced that a two hour nap in the middle of the day will keep a child up all night. Especially when they are so tired.

We had a DCB just like this- only his mom wanted his nap shortened to no longer then and hour when he was under 2! But we ended up doing the same thing you did. After about a week, she stopped asking how long he slept and just assumed he only slept an hour. One time though, she made a comment about how great he was going to bed since he was only napping for an hour at daycare

[cheerfuldom]

I just have to say....I take offense at the word "abuse" being slung to and fro against every mom who chooses to parent in a different way from others. Coming from a person that had serious REAL trauma as a child, I would love to grow up in a home where the worst thing was my mom not wanting me to nap.

I am not saying keeping this boy up the right thing to do....but is it really abuse? really? when there are children out there being beaten, starved, molested, abandoned?

come on now!

if non napping families does not work with your program, professionally let this family go and find someone willing to work around this preference. but dont go calling ABUSE! or calling family services and labeling this mom as a horrible person.

[cheerfuldom]

I don't know if I would call it "abuse" but maybe stick it more in the neglect column or bad judgment. Anyway, don't let her bad parenting be your problem anymore. Term ASAP.

exactly.

[Cradle2crayons]

I have the same situation. I have a dcg who is 2 yrs old. Mom says to not give her a morning nap, but can put her down as early as 12:30pm for afternoon nap. Mom had just gone back to work when DCG came to my home daycare and was used to sleeping in until around 9am. now DCG has to get up at around 6am to come to my house, so she is really tired when she gets here. She is very whinny,crabby in the morning and that is because she is still tired and wants to go back to bed. She would try and fall asleep in the chair or on the floor in the playroom and I was feeling really like a mean daycare provider for trying to keep her awake when I knew this poor girl was so tired. I talked to Mom about it and said that I thought she maybe could use a very short nap after she got here since she was used to sleeping that late. Mom said no, don't put her down until the afternoon. Wow! I thought your poor daughter is so tired and that you might feel bad for her and want her to get a little bit more sleep. But No!
What is wrong with parents these days that they don't want the best for them. I do give naps and parents are told that when they start here,so it should be no issue for them. So now what I do is if I think she is tired and starts to fall asleep in the chair or floor, I do put her down for at least half an hour anyway and just don't say anything to the Mom. I just can't stand to watch this poor little girl so tired and all she wants to do is sleep a little bit more. Maybe that is wrong, but man, I feel like a mean person watching her try and stay awake and having to make her stay awake. I wouldn't make my own child stay awake when I know that they were tired. That is just mean!

I've had moms like this before too. This is what I do::::

"Mom you have two options::
(1) I can lay your child back down for a quick morning nap
Or
(2) I can call you for pick up every single day because kids can't stay if they can't participate in the activities of daycare

The moms always choose the nap