How HONEST are You?

[spud912]

I keep "normal" child behavior to myself so if I am asked how 2yo little Suzie did and all that Suzie did was have trouble with sharing, cried at nap and smeared lunch on the table then I'd say "She did fine. It was a good day". If 5yo little Johny showed that same behavior then I'd definitely bring it up "Johny had a difficult day today. We talked about it and I think he will do better tomorrow".

Unless it's behavior that's not typical for the childs age, stage of development, destructive or if it's aggressively physical behavior then I don't bother telling the parents. I just redirect the behavior myself and handle it as it comes. Keep in mind that I believe that children's behavior at daycare is handled at daycare and I would not expect a parent to discipline a child at home for something that happened at daycare (unless it's more severe) just as I would not discipline a child at daycare for something that happened at home.

This is what I was trying to say .

[TwinKristi]

Only if its severely bad behavior. I had one boy who was my best friend's son and boy did he misbehave. He says the most off-the-wall things and says bad words, often breaks toys, and once wouldn't stay in time out so I had to have his mom follow up at home. But typically it was just that he had a good day.
Most of mine are infants at this point so a good day vs a bad day is usually for a reason and letting parents know may cue them in to perhaps teething, ear infection, etc. and not just little Johnny being naughty.

[jenn]

I'm in the middle. Depends on the behavior and depends on the family.

If the child is acting age appropriate, I consider that a good day. If they are acting in a way not appropriate for the age or not within their normal daily behavior, I address it. I don't say "She hit 4 kids, spit out her food, and acted possessed", I say "She had trouble getting along with her friends and wasn't following our lunchtime rules."

Some parents are really concerned and want to help address any issues. I am more honest with them. If I know the parents are just asking because they feel like they are supposed to and/or aren't really going to be supportive in finding a solution to the behavior, I don't waste my time talking with them about it. I don't lie and say they did great if they didn't, but I don't elaborate either. "She had another difficult day. Hopefully tomorrow will be better".

[MotherNature]

I am in the middle. I will let them know if their child had a rough day and explain a little about what had happened. But I won't lie to them and tell them their child was great when all they did was cause fights

me too

[Maria2013]

I will let parents know if the kids misbehave in ways that could harm them or others
If it was just not sharing or not doing as told, I try not to show that I had a challenging day, I usually say things like "he needed a few (or quite a few) reminders but we made it through the day and tomorrow will be better
..and usually after a bad day I have a few really good ones

[kitykids3]

I am one who is honest. If it was minor stuff then I won't mention it, but usually I lay it out there how their day was, good or bad, or actually the mix. I would want to know. However, I do let them know it was taken care of here. I usually preface with a question about how things are at home.

[Familycare71]

If its age appropriate I don't share it. If it is age appropriate but excessive I might say oh- dck was spunky today!
If it is something I want them to catch onto (like my only child 3 yr old dck who still thinks he is a baby!) ill share little bits each day... Dck and I had a chat today about how he is a big boy and can show the littles how to follow the rules.
I always sugar coat! No parent wants to hear: your child made me rethink my career today!! ::

[originalkat]

I keep "normal" child behavior to myself so if I am asked how 2yo little Suzie did and all that Suzie did was have trouble with sharing, cried at nap and smeared lunch on the table then I'd say "She did fine. It was a good day". If 5yo little Johny showed that same behavior then I'd definitely bring it up "Johny had a difficult day today. We talked about it and I think he will do better tomorrow".

Unless it's behavior that's not typical for the childs age, stage of development, destructive or if it's aggressively physical behavior then I don't bother telling the parents. I just redirect the behavior myself and handle it as it comes. Keep in mind that I believe that children's behavior at daycare is handled at daycare and I would not expect a parent to discipline a child at home for something that happened at daycare (unless it's more severe) just as I would not discipline a child at daycare for something that happened at home.

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[e.j.]

I keep "normal" child behavior to myself so if I am asked how 2yo little Suzie did and all that Suzie did was have trouble with sharing, cried at nap and smeared lunch on the table then I'd say "She did fine. It was a good day". If 5yo little Johny showed that same behavior then I'd definitely bring it up "Johny had a difficult day today. We talked about it and I think he will do better tomorrow".

Unless it's behavior that's not typical for the childs age, stage of development, destructive or if it's aggressively physical behavior then I don't bother telling the parents. I just redirect the behavior myself and handle it as it comes. Keep in mind that I believe that children's behavior at daycare is handled at daycare and I would not expect a parent to discipline a child at home for something that happened at daycare (unless it's more severe) just as I would not discipline a child at daycare for something that happened at home.

What happens at day care, stays at day care unless there is an ongoing behavior problem that I can't resolve without parent involvement.

[Emsdayhome]

always honest...but I am spoiled with amazingly calm babies so I always have a good report. As they get older and enter the toddler stage and start with the whole "mine" garbage, I'll still be honest but I'll still be gentle in my info delivery I agree with a previous poster. Age appropriate behaviour is nothing worth mentioning in a negative light.