I have a very smart, verbal young 2-year-old here who was mostly with his stay-at-home mom before coming here. He is here part-time. He is quite sweet and understands how we should play with our friends--he says things like "Be nice" and "share" and "no hitting" to himself, like as a reminder to himself around the others. However, whenever another child gets near him, even if that child isn't interacting with DCB... he yells and panicks. The other day, a younger baby (1.5 year old) toddled near him, and he almost started crying and threw his shovel and bucket in the sand and ran off.
That's just if a child comes near. If someone interacts with him, he screams and does things like throws his toys at the other child, hits, and kicks. He is my oldest one here. All of the other kids are 1 to 1.5. I am worried he will hurt the littler children, but when he hits and kicks it is clearly to get the other kid to move away. He is not trying to hurt them. He barely makes contact. I'm just afraid he will and that someone will get injured.
How would you help this kid? He is bothered by the other children just being around. I only have one or two other kids here when he's present. Today, there is only my son. My son was playing on the other side of the room, but DCB kept saying "No, no, no (my son's name)" just because my son was present--not looking at DCB, not talking to him, nowhere near him. Just in the room. He says "No, no (my son's name)" A LOT... we hear it often throughout the day. I worry what my son will think hearing this! It's not a healthy thing to grow up hearing. Especially because he's not doing anything wrong.
DCB listens to me very well and can talk in almost complete sentences. I've been telling him that "hitting hurts" and "other kids come to daycare and play here" and "we share all the toys at daycare." He repeats these things and seems to understand. When he hit my son this morning for approaching him when he was playing with a toy, I explained the rule and DCB said "Time out now?" I haven't done a time out with him, but we did sit quietly in the chair after he hit. He gets that it is not okay to hit!
The family is very involved and on board with working with me. I really like this boy and the parents. FYI: He's only been here 2 weeks and he only comes 4 days per week. Mom mentioned when she enrolled him that part of the reason they want him in daycare is to help with socialization. Dad has mentioned that he needs to learn to be around other kids. They both seem aware of where he needs to be in terms of getting along with others.
What would you do in this case??? Before long, I will have full enrollment and will have more than just one or two other kids here. I imagine that will make it harder for this little guy.
That's just if a child comes near. If someone interacts with him, he screams and does things like throws his toys at the other child, hits, and kicks. He is my oldest one here. All of the other kids are 1 to 1.5. I am worried he will hurt the littler children, but when he hits and kicks it is clearly to get the other kid to move away. He is not trying to hurt them. He barely makes contact. I'm just afraid he will and that someone will get injured.
How would you help this kid? He is bothered by the other children just being around. I only have one or two other kids here when he's present. Today, there is only my son. My son was playing on the other side of the room, but DCB kept saying "No, no, no (my son's name)" just because my son was present--not looking at DCB, not talking to him, nowhere near him. Just in the room. He says "No, no (my son's name)" A LOT... we hear it often throughout the day. I worry what my son will think hearing this! It's not a healthy thing to grow up hearing. Especially because he's not doing anything wrong.
DCB listens to me very well and can talk in almost complete sentences. I've been telling him that "hitting hurts" and "other kids come to daycare and play here" and "we share all the toys at daycare." He repeats these things and seems to understand. When he hit my son this morning for approaching him when he was playing with a toy, I explained the rule and DCB said "Time out now?" I haven't done a time out with him, but we did sit quietly in the chair after he hit. He gets that it is not okay to hit!
The family is very involved and on board with working with me. I really like this boy and the parents. FYI: He's only been here 2 weeks and he only comes 4 days per week. Mom mentioned when she enrolled him that part of the reason they want him in daycare is to help with socialization. Dad has mentioned that he needs to learn to be around other kids. They both seem aware of where he needs to be in terms of getting along with others.
What would you do in this case??? Before long, I will have full enrollment and will have more than just one or two other kids here. I imagine that will make it harder for this little guy.
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