Not Sure What To Do

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Some weeks I am totally happy with this family, and other weeks I am at my wits end, and want to term. (I am speaking about the dcg/family I am usually seeking advice from on here). I have gotten much better at communication with this family, but it's the little policies they break almost every week that frustrate me. I decided to advertise, and I have an interested family looking for part time for 2 kids. I could potentially make the same amount of money on the 2 pt kids that I make from one full time dcg.

The thing is, I really love dcg, and would feel horrible about leaving them in a difficult spot to find another daycare now that most preschools are in session. I have bent over backwards for this family, hardly ever taking a day off, including after having a baby, and feel a little drained, honestly. In a perfect world, I would like to only take part timers, so I can spend more time with my little ones while they are still home.

But, the guilt is getting to me, and I don't know if it's worth it to stick it out another year (they plan on having a baby and sending him/her here) or should I just move forward with the new family?

[MyAngels]

It's my opinion that you should do what's right for you, your family and program. Ask yourself, if the situation were reversed would they consider your feelings if they were planning on changing care? Probably not.

[cheerfuldom]

Move forward. I am assuming you have done your best to abide by your own contract policies and remind/insist that they abide by them too. If that is not working, do you really want to deal with this for years to come if they have a baby and that child stays with you till kinder?

[Leigh]

You must do what works for YOU, this family certainly will not. If you're not ready to term, then simply STOP bending over backwards for them. Send them a copy of the contract they signed, highlighting the important stuff, if necessary, and let them know that from now on, you are not deviating from it at all in an effort to be fair to all.

Remember that this is YOUR business-they don't run it unless you let them...take control and you will feel a huge weight lift from your shoulders. You wrote that contract to be convenient for YOU-now make it that way.

[Play Care]

You must do what works for YOU, this family certainly will not. If you're not ready to term, then simply STOP bending over backwards for them. Send them a copy of the contract they signed, highlighting the important stuff, if necessary, and let them know that from now on, you are not deviating from it at all in an effort to be fair to all.

Remember that this is YOUR business-they don't run it unless you let them...take control and you will feel a huge weight lift from your shoulders. You wrote that contract to be convenient for YOU-now make it that way.

As much as you love this dck, the second you stop working for those parents they will drop you. Think about it.

[daycarediva]

As much as you love this dck, the second you stop working for those parents they will drop you. Think about it.

Yup, do what's best for you/your family.

Daycare families will ALWAYS put their families first, you should do the same.

[Blackcat31]

"When you say yes to others, make sure you aren't saying no to yourself."

Sounds to me like you KNOW what you should do but you are hesitant due to your feelings about dcg......but you need to take some time and really ask yourself, is this family as committed and/or as loyal to you are you are being to them?

NEVER put a daycare family's needs before your own.

[Brooksie]

Yup, do what's best for you/your family.

Daycare families will ALWAYS put their families first, you should do the same.

[Maria2013]

Some weeks I am totally happy with this family, and other weeks I am at my wits end, and want to term. (I am speaking about the dcg/family I am usually seeking advice from on here). I have gotten much better at communication with this family, but it's the little policies they break almost every week that frustrate me. I decided to advertise, and I have an interested family looking for part time for 2 kids. I could potentially make the same amount of money on the 2 pt kids that I make from one full time dcg.

The thing is, I really love dcg, and would feel horrible about leaving them in a difficult spot to find another daycare now that most preschools are in session. I have bent over backwards for this family, hardly ever taking a day off, including after having a baby, and feel a little drained, honestly. In a perfect world, I would like to only take part timers, so I can spend more time with my little ones while they are still home.

But, the guilt is getting to me, and I don't know if it's worth it to stick it out another year (they plan on having a baby and sending him/her here) or should I just move forward with the new family?

that was me in the beginning, because I was attached to the kids and didn't want to lose them, I put up with a lot from the parents....today I know, if the parents and I can't come to an understanding I will not continue to work for them, and that is that :hug: