The Hardest Part About Daycare For Me....

[Soccermom]

I always give my 100% to all my DCKS and give them as much love as I do my own kids. They play great and seem happy here with me all day but still they cry when their parents drop them off and run screaming from me when I try to take them from mom and dad at drop off like I am some big mean monster.....it breaks my heart and just makes me want to give up on littles altogether. It makes me feel like the parents must think I am beating their children behind closed doors or something!
I have been doing only SA for 2 years and decided to give the littles a try again this year but I am already regretting my choice....

[Familycare71]

I always give my 100% to all my DCKS and give them as much love as I do my own kids. They play great and seem happy here with me all day but still they cry when their parents drop them off and run screaming from me when I try to take them from mom and dad at drop off like I am some big mean monster.....it breaks my heart and just makes me want to give up on littles altogether. It makes me feel like the parents must think I am beating their children behind closed doors or something!
I have been doing only SA for 2 years and decided to give the littles a try again this year but I am already regretting my choice....

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It has nothing to do with you. It is about transition, "loss" of
A parent who they didnt spend much time with, uncertainty about returns(depending on age), being over tired, etc...
Try to not take it personally- act matter a fact. A quick hug, reminder Mom and Dad always come back and go on with the day- before long they will be happy and playing

[cheerfuldom]

Kids run from everyone. They would run from Mary Poppins for goodness sake. If the parents really feel like there is a reason that their child has a hard time at drop off, they can find other care. You need to have more confidence in who you are as a provider and able to say that these kids are just kids, thats what kids do and it no reflection on what you are and are not doing as a provider. I have had two kids here with significant attachment issues and trust me, its MUCH more alarming when mom and dad leave and the kids have NO reaction whatsoever from their parents coming and going.

[Play Care]

Kids run from everyone. They would run from Mary Poppins for goodness sake. If the parents really feel like there is a reason that their child has a hard time at drop off, they can find other care. You need to have more confidence in who you are as a provider and able to say that these kids are just kids, thats what kids do and it no reflection on what you are and are not doing as a provider. I have had two kids here with significant attachment issues and trust me, its MUCH more alarming when mom and dad leave and the kids have NO reaction whatsoever from their parents coming and going.

[daycarediva]

Kids run from everyone. They would run from Mary Poppins for goodness sake. If the parents really feel like there is a reason that their child has a hard time at drop off, they can find other care. You need to have more confidence in who you are as a provider and able to say that these kids are just kids, thats what kids do and it no reflection on what you are and are not doing as a provider. I have had two kids here with significant attachment issues and trust me, its MUCH more alarming when mom and dad leave and the kids have NO reaction whatsoever from their parents coming and going.

Or screaming/crying/clinging to ME at pick up. Those situations scare me.

I do NOT take it personal when a kid cries at drop off, or tells me they miss Mom/Dad. Of COURSE they miss Mom and Dad! Some are in care 50 hours a week, with their custodial parent only 3 nights a week and every other weekend, when you break that down in hours, they spend more time with ME than either parent COMBINED.

As they get older and separation anxiety decreases, they come in happy and excited for the day, still saying 'I miss Mom' but talking to their friends, asking what we are going to do today, what's for lunch, taking off their shoes and getting themselves ready with a quick goodbye to Mom. It gets easier.

Also, GOD BLESS YOU for doing SA. They drive me B O N K E R S!

[butterfly]

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It has nothing to do with you. It is about transition, "loss" of
A parent who they didnt spend much time with, uncertainty about returns(depending on age), being over tired, etc...
Try to not take it personally- act matter a fact. A quick hug, reminder Mom and Dad always come back and go on with the day- before long they will be happy and playing

I have kids who cry to come but cry to go home too. I think it has so much to do with how parents act at drop off. The parents that drag it out trying to "comfort" their kids actually seem to encourage the crying.

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[Blackcat31]

I wanna cry too when I have to leave my house and go to work. But since I am over the age of 5, I am thinking it's probably not appropriate so I try to just hold it in.

I can't imagine how stressful it must be to a child in the morning.

The real "evidence" for not wanting to be there is whether they stop or not after the parents leave...kwim?

If they calm down and join the group as normal within 30 minutes of drop off....it's all good.

[daycarediva]

I wanna cry too when I have to leave my house and go to work. But since I am over the age of 5, I am thinking it's probably not appropriate so I try to just hold it in.

I can't imagine how stressful it must be to a child in the morning.

The real "evidence" for not wanting to be there is whether they stop or not after the parents leave...kwim?

If they calm down and join the group as normal within 30 minutes of drop off....it's all good.

The bolded made me LOL!!! SO TRUE!

Agree with the rest, completely!

[caregiver]

I wanna cry too when I have to leave my house and go to work. But since I am over the age of 5, I am thinking it's probably not appropriate so I try to just hold it in.

I can't imagine how stressful it must be to a child in the morning.

The real "evidence" for not wanting to be there is whether they stop or not after the parents leave...kwim?

If they calm down and join the group as normal within 30 minutes of drop off....it's all good.

I totally agree with you!

[My3cents]

I wanna cry too when I have to leave my house and go to work. But since I am over the age of 5, I am thinking it's probably not appropriate so I try to just hold it in.

I can't imagine how stressful it must be to a child in the morning.

The real "evidence" for not wanting to be there is whether they stop or not after the parents leave...kwim?

If they calm down and join the group as normal within 30 minutes of drop off....it's all good.

I needed this. I have one that has been pulling this in the morning. It makes you feel horrible as a provider, makes the parents feel horrible and the child is feeling horrible. Once the parent leaves and I show no attention to the behavior the child stops and gets along with the day. Yesterday this one didn't want to leave- didn't want to come and then didn't want to leave. UGH!!!