DCG 2.5 Years Cry Every Morning

[littleblossoms]

I need help and advice.

I had this child since ahe 9 months old, i moved and they follow me. She always love to come to daycare always happy, playing, loud.

All of a sudden for a week now she comes every morning crying as soon as the car pulls up.

I tried cuddle - she still cry
I tried putting her to bed - she evenually stop crying.

I think what it is turni g into is that this child wants to be entertain by adults. It won't happen.

Any advice what to do?

Mom said this morning now i amnthinkimg it is you

[Maria2013]

Mom said this morning now i amnthinkimg it is you

you mean she blames you? I'm not sure I would continue to work for someone who doesn't feel I'm doing a good job

How old is the child now?

[Angelsj]

I would find that highly annoying, but I would probably talk to the mom.
"What exactly do you think I am doing that is causing a problem? What would you like to see changed?"
Open a dialogue. You might also ask about changes at home, and if anything is different for her now. I am not saying change things for her, but let the mom know random irritating comments are not ok.
All that aside, it is not all that strange for a child to suddenly start crying at drop off. It may have a reward. I would just tell the kiddo. "It's ok, I am sure you will be fine. Just sit here in the relax corner (any quiet place will do) and come join us when you are finished crying," then go about your business. I would do something very fun with the other kids. She will get tired of being left out and come join.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

Mom said this morning now i amnthinkimg it is you

I would ask what has changed at home. Many factors, like the parents relationships with one another, new work schedules, new activities going on after daycare, the child not getting enough rest, a new rushed routine in the morning, etc. bother a child. Perhaps the child is not getting enough quality mom time at home.

I would NOT tolerate a parent saying they think it is me. Seriously? Talk to me and we'll figure out WHAT has changed that might be causing this to occur.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

I would find that highly annoying, but I would probably talk to the mom.
"What exactly do you think I am doing that is causing a problem? What would you like to see changed?"
Open a dialogue. You might also ask about changes at home, and if anything is different for her now. I am not saying change things for her, but let the mom know random irritating comments are not ok.
All that aside, it is not all that strange for a child to suddenly start crying at drop off. It may have a reward. I would just tell the kiddo. "It's ok, I am sure you will be fine. Just sit here in the relax corner (any quiet place will do) and come join us when you are finished crying," then go about your business. I would do something very fun with the other kids. She will get tired of being left out and come join.

This is what I have done in the past for children who tantrum at drop-offs. It stopped quickly.

[Heidi]

[QUOTE=Angelsj;382583]I would find that highly annoying, but I would probably talk to the mom.
"What exactly do you think I am doing that is causing a problem? What would you like to see changed?"
Open a dialogue. You might also ask about changes at home, and if anything is different for her now. I am not saying change things for her, but let the mom know random irritating comments are not ok.
All that aside, it is not all that strange for a child to suddenly start crying at drop off. It may have a reward. I would just tell the kiddo. "It's ok, I am sure you will be fine. Just sit here in the relax corner (any quiet place will do) and come join us when you are finished crying," then go about your business. I would do something very fun with the other kids. She will get tired of being left out and come join.[/QUOTE]

Same here....I say it kindly and gently, but after all this time, it's NOT that dcg is insecure. It's most likely that she's going through a "I hate transitions and I hate having everything controlled by adults" phase. Handle it kindly but firmly. Wave bye-bye out the window, then move on. If she wails, give her a nice spot to wail, and a stuffed animal to cuddle, and move about your day. Once she rejoins the group, say something nice like "oh, I'm so glad you're ready to play"

[littleblossoms]

I put the child she will be three in two months, in a corner and told her when she will like to join us she can, but she just continue crying.

This child is always with an Ipad and TV even in the car, as soon as mom pick up the TV is on in the car. We don't watch TV here. Her mom did say last week twice that she went to bed late like 11pm and is up at 6 to come to daycare.

This evening I will speak to mom but I decided to put her down and she fall asleep in ten mins so go figure she is tired that is why she is crying. no she won't sleep at home or on the car drive if she has tv on