Question About Milk

[Shell]

Recently, dcm has been dropping off and stating that dcg won't drink milk at home, and says that she will need a cup from me. She makes it out that dcg won't drink at home, but I am beginning to wonder if it is because of the price of organic vs. regular milk, and she would prefer me to take on this additional cost.
Dcm and I have never really discussed how much milk she gets per day, but these additional morning requests are somewhat costly for me (other kids drink regular, just this child is on organic). How much milk do you give to the kids per day? Since I'm not on a food program, I'm not sure how much I am expected to provide outside of the usual cup at lunch time.

[JoseyJo]

I just serve milk w/ breakfast and lunch. The serving size for 1-2yo is 1/2 cup per meal and 3-5yo is 3/4 cup per meal. After they drink their milk at the meal they can have "seconds" of water. We drink water at snack and anytime they are thirsty during the day.

[butterfly]

Put a stop to that now! I had a parent do the same thing. They would request a cup of milk at pick up each day. I started telling them that I would get them a cup of water or they need to bring the cup back filled with milk in the morning otherwise I wouldn't have enough milk for meals that week.

I thought it was absolutely ridiculous that the parents expected me to give them a to-go cup. I'm not a take out restuarant. Sheesh.

[Blackcat31]

I'm sorry...it might just be me but I am not understanding what you mean?

How does mom want milk from you?

I serve milk with meals and snacks at the designated times ONLY.

I don't allow food OR drinks to be brought from home, nor do I send them home EVER.

If mom is requesting the cup to be filled so DCG can drink it on HER time, I would simply say "No, I am sorry but I don't send food/drinks home and we ONLY get them at the designated meal times."

If she wants to buy and leave organic milk at your house for those times she needs a cup to go, great but if she isn't buying it, she shouldn't be getting it on HER time.

[sharlan]

I absolutely would NOT provide organic milk for this child. I would only provide what the other children drink. If Mom wants organic, Mom can buy it.

My kids only get milk with breakfast and lunch. They drink water the rest of the time.

[butterfly]

I absolutely would NOT provide organic milk for this child. I would only provide what the other children drink. If Mom wants organic, Mom can buy it.

My kids only get milk with breakfast and lunch. They drink water the rest of the time.

[melilley]

I know that you are not on the food program, but they require us to give milk at Breakfast and Lunch and we can pick 2 out of 4 components for snack and one can be milk. Here are their requirements (you can use them as a guide if you want)
For ages 1-2 1/2 cup
For ages 3-5 3/4 cup
For ages 6-12 1 cup

If I were you, I would tell her that you provide milk that isn't organic, but if she wants organic, she has to supply it or ask for an additional fee and you can buy it when you go shopping. I only supply non-organic milk and also a substitute for my child who has a milk intolerance. If a parent were to request organic, I would def. tell them that what I offer and they can bring it if they wish.

I personally give them at least the minimum, but for some I do give more if they want it.

[Leigh]

I absolutely would NOT provide organic milk for this child. I would only provide what the other children drink. If Mom wants organic, Mom can buy it.

My kids only get milk with breakfast and lunch. They drink water the rest of the time.

I would to the same.

[Cat Herder]

I absolutely would NOT provide organic milk for this child. I would only provide what the other children drink. If Mom wants organic, Mom can buy it.

My kids only get milk with breakfast and lunch. They drink water the rest of the time.

Agreed....

(well I serve 100% juice at snacks, water all day )

*1% or 2% (depending on your preference) anything else DCM buys.

[Familycare71]

I absolutely would NOT provide organic milk for this child. I would only provide what the other children drink. If Mom wants organic, Mom can buy it.

My kids only get milk with breakfast and lunch. They drink water the rest of the time.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

I absolutely would NOT provide organic milk for this child. I would only provide what the other children drink. If Mom wants organic, Mom can buy it.

My kids only get milk with breakfast and lunch. They drink water the rest of the time.

Same here. I would not be taking on the cost for this child to have something different than the other children.

[cheerfuldom]

I would have mom provide organic milk OR let her know that you provide X amount at X times and anything that a child needs above that is to be provided by the parents. dont let her pressure you into parenting this child....thats her job!

[Margarete]

A lot of kids eat differently at different places. My own daughter only wants milk when the other kids are here and drinking it (and at grandma's). She doesn't ask or want it otherwise (only has it with cereal on the weekends), which probably has to do with me and my husband not drinking it for the most part (we do get dairy from other sources). I wouldn't necessarily think she's just doing it to push the cost on you, but regardless it is an 'extra' cost'
I would have her bring some extra 'organic' milk, or pay a bit more for her daughter to cover it. A lot of people have in their contract that children must be clean, fed, dry when they come. This seems to fit in that category, and you have to decide what works for you.

[crunchymama]

If I'm understanding this correctly, mom wants you to give the little girl a cup of milk as soon as she gets to your house in the morning. If I were in that position, I would mention to mom that you serve milk with meals, and water is available the rest of the time.
Or you could just mention it to mom. Something like "hey sue, please bring a sippy cup of milk for little sally from now on. Her extra morning cup of milk is causing us to run short"

[LK5kids]

What the ??????

I serve only organic but I would NEVER do it because a parent requested it and it was not my policy!

You need to stop NOW! Mom can bring it if she wants you to serve it and you agree to do so. That is still extra work for you and a bit of a hassle in my mind!

I serve milk @ bf & lunch and once in a very great while at snack.