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You are NOT being the bad parent. The opposite is true you are being a GREAT parent because you want to raise a wonderful child who knows her limits and has a calm spirit.
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with kids like this it's one and done......
I used to get frustrated with my two year old as well...
#1 rule for all kids WE DONT TOUCH ANYONE.......
I have 5-3yr olds and 4-2yr olds....I used to allow touching, it would always start out innocent and nice and then end up that someone hurt the other. SO now we do not touch each other unless I say it is ok.
We always ASK before we touch anything.
i would also try to be a little more proactive than reactive about stuff...
when she earns feeding the fish by being a good listener she can get up there to feed the fish ONLY and then must get down immediately. Since this is where the issue begins after feeding the fish, I would stop her right there and get her down. Dont give her the chance to touch anything else. You already know that she WILL touch something so cut it off right then and there.
Do the same thing about being proactive about everything................Watch for her cues and cut her off before they happen. I know this sounds crazy, but you can do it. Especially with your own child. I know my sons cues, especially when I know he is about to have a melt down or when I see him getting frustrated. As soon as I see him getting frustrated I will go and just give him a big hug and say......I see that you are getting frustrated and could use a big hug to make you feel better. This has really really helped calm him and get him to take a step back before acting out........
This age is such a cute age, but soooooo difficult as they go through so many different phases and growth...
good luck to you, I promise it gets better....Comment
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My daughter has severe ADHD and with that comes very bad impulse control issues. She also has sensory processing issues etc.
I learned a long time ago, from her psychologist when she was first diagnosed.
PICK YOUR BATTLES.
That small sentence returned my sanity and brought a lot of peace to my house.
With these kids, fighting every battle makes it much worse.
Wen they told me that sentence I thought they were nuts. But I certainly learned how write they were.Comment
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Just want to say, I'm watching SuperNanny for the first time. Downloaded the first and second season. If any one is familiar Andrea, from season one episode 1, is a glimps into my future. A lot of the things she implements, I already do. But I'm going to consider the chair and work on my stern yet calm voice. I don't have this problem with my dcks, just fyi. It's just her. I can't see who recommended me watching this show but THANKS. It's terrifying and relieving at the same time.Comment
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. I know that what I have to do, I just hate feeling like a bad parent because of it. Its so draining.
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