Does Anyone Have Preschoolers With Sequencing Issues?

[daycare]

All 5 of my kids are the same age (up to half a year younger), she has been here the longest and our routine is very fixed so I know it is kid particular.

If I say "tidy up and come to the kitchen for lunch" she tidies up and then stands there while every other kid comes running into the kitchen. I have to go get her.

If I say tidy up and then get your shoes to go outside she tidies and then stands there.

If she puts one shoe on she says "I did it!" and will continue repeating that until I acknowledge her and say "good job now put on your other shoe"

She'll put on the other shoe and repeat "I did it" until I say "great now go get your hat"

is english her first language??

[Cradle2crayons]

All 5 of my kids are the same age (up to half a year younger), she has been here the longest and our routine is very fixed so I know it is kid particular.

If I say "tidy up and come to the kitchen for lunch" she tidies up and then stands there while every other kid comes running into the kitchen. I have to go get her.

If I say tidy up and then get your shoes to go outside she tidies and then stands there.

If she puts one shoe on she says "I did it!" and will continue repeating that until I acknowledge her and say "good job now put on your other shoe"

She'll put on the other shoe and repeat "I did it" until I say "great now go get your hat"

Ok so what I'm getting is that she only completes part one of any instructional pattern. And she should be able to handle more than step one. Gotcha. Well if mom isn't on board for an evaluation I'd say there isn't much yu can do.

[canadiancare]

is english her first language??

yes it is

I live in white bread suburbia- all my kids are anglophones with professional, educated parents there are no cultural or economic factors that should affect development.

[Evansmom]

I just wanted to chime in.
I've seen this behavior from kids over the years too and have experienced 2 situations as to the reasons I've seen it happen. One is like BC said, extreme helicopter parenting and the other I've seen is with a child who is very timid and the parents are way too strict with discipline for this child's temperament. Does that make sense? The parents spank and harshly discipline this timid child and she's terrified to give a "wrong" answer or response to anything. It's so sad to watch.

[Hunni Bee]

I had this kid, but she was 5 instead of 3.

During art, I'd ask what color paper everyone wanted to use. She'd watch all the other kids choose their paper and just sit there. I'd have to prompt her. Get scissors - same scenario. Cut, ask for glue, put your work away, clean up...she would just sit there, and if I refused acknowledge her sitting there, she'd cry. Repeat with every other activity throughout the day.

There were no delays...it was a combo of princess complex and babying parents. I had to get tough with her - you don't finish your work, you miss some of outside time til you do. You don't put on your shoes, you go outside in your socks. You don't go potty by yourself, you might have an accident.

Your girl is younger and you said she has some delays...I don't know if that's appropriate for her. I'd always ask my girl "what are you supposed to be doing now" and she'd tell me exactly - while she sat there. Can your girl do that?

[canadiancare]

No she repeats the question back at me or stays silent and stares at me. I do report cards at the end of June which are basically developmental checklists and red flags. I'm on vacation this week so I will send mom some step by steps to work on for expectations. I won't know if she is really doing it but if she is and there is no improvement maybe she'll see it.

[spinnymarie]

I had this kid, but she was 5 instead of 3.

During art, I'd ask what color paper everyone wanted to use. She'd watch all the other kids choose their paper and just sit there. I'd have to prompt her. Get scissors - same scenario. Cut, ask for glue, put your work away, clean up...she would just sit there, and if I refused acknowledge her sitting there, she'd cry. Repeat with every other activity throughout the day.

There were no delays...it was a combo of princess complex and babying parents. I had to get tough with her - you don't finish your work, you miss some of outside time til you do. You don't put on your shoes, you go outside in your socks. You don't go potty by yourself, you might have an accident.

Your girl is younger and you said she has some delays...I don't know if that's appropriate for her. I'd always ask my girl "what are you supposed to be doing now" and she'd tell me exactly - while she sat there. Can your girl do that?

I had the same kid in my kindergarten class one year -- and I agree, I finally just told her it was her choice to sit and do nothing, and we would be moving on without her - but she'd miss something she liked while finished what needed to be done. I agree, as well, that it could easily be language processing, or simply a function of child+parenting. Honestly, if she just stood in the bathroom, I'd leave her there. ANd if she tried to come out of the bathroom I'd say, have you gone to the bathroom yet? You need to go to the bathroom before you leave. Or, have you washed your hands yet? You have to wash hands before you leave.