Just Plain Rude!

[sally]

On Friday evening I found out my parent's best friend had passed away. He was 77 and I had known him since I was 7 years old. He was basically like an Uncle to me. His funeral was set for Tuesday. So i took that day off. Plus I had to drive an hour to get there and visit with his family. I only had 1 dcf to call for that day off. When I talked to dcm she was po'd and thought I should have given her more of a heads up. Hmmm how many people plan ahead of time when they pass away. He hadn't been in the best of health but we hadn't expected this. This morning she asked me in a snarky voive if I had fun at the funeral?? I'm so tired of this family. My husband says to ignore it because we need the income but I don't know how much more I can put up with. This is my major pain in the butt family.

[SilverSabre25]

Somehow I bet she doubts that you went to a funeral. Perhaps I'm cynical but that's how it sounds to me.

I would be hoppin' mad at her if I were you. Like, practically term worthy, especially if there are other problems.

i'm sorry for your loss :hug:

[Familycare71]

Ugh!!! People!! Years ago my grandfather passed and when I told one of my dcm she was annoyed about the time I had to take off and said: well I don't know what ill do for for dc! Well- gee I'm sorry my grandfather dieing was an inconvenience to you!!:mad

So sorry for your loss!!!lovethis

[MyAngels]

I'm sorry for your loss :hug:. Some people are just jerks . I'd start looking for a replacement family and give her her walking papers the minute you find one.

[Brooksie]

If someone had asked me if I had FUN at a funeral I would have termed immediately. That's entirely too disrespectful. I would have told her to get out of my house that instant. I don't tolerate that kind of disrespect and unprofessionalism

[BumbleBee]

I'm sorry and BIG :hug:

[Play Care]

If someone had asked me if I had FUN at a funeral I would have termed immediately. That's entirely too disrespectful. I would have told her to get out of my house that instant. I don't tolerate that kind of disrespect and unprofessionalism

If you can't term, you do need to address this head on "Dc mom, a very good friend of the family passed away. Why would you ask me if that was fun? I find that to be in very poor taste." Just because you provide a service for them doesn't mean you have to put up with disrespect.

[Scout]

If you can't term, you do need to address this head on "Dc mom, a very good friend of the family passed away. Why would you ask me if that was fun? I find that to be in very poor taste." Just because you provide a service for them doesn't mean you have to put up with disrespect.

This is good advice. Some people just don't know good manners. Sad but, true.

[mom2many]

That is beyond horrible

I'm so sorry for you loss and I would definitely be actively looking to replace this child. No excuse for a comment like that and I would be really upset if I was in your place. I could never work with someone that treated me like that. I hope you find someone and can give her the boot soon! :hug:

[JoseyJo]

That is beyond horrible

I'm so sorry for you loss and I would definitely be actively looking to replace this child. No excuse for a comment like that and I would be really upset if I was in your place. I could never work with someone that treated me like that. I hope you find someone and can give her the boot soon! :hug:

Agreed!

[Hunni Bee]

Omg what is wrong with people???

I thought the jerks who were making rude comments about the gift their providers daughter gave her was bad, but this is way worse.

She'd have to go. I feel like you can address it, but their was no way she didn't know that was offensive. She will say something like that again, unless you completely blast her about it.

Please don't permit her to get by on that one. We wouldn't allow a child to treat another child that insensitively, so we definitely have to stop allowing their parents to treat us that way.

[DaycareMomma]

I am so sorry they said that to you!

If I were you, I'd have a letter waiting on Monday morning for them saying something like:

Dcm,

I wanted to address your comment you made last week after the funeral of a family friend. Consider this your only warning, if you ever disrespect me in my house again, you will be immediately termed.

Signed,
provider

[daycarediva]

I am so sorry they said that to you!

If I were you, I'd have a letter waiting on Monday morning for them saying something like:

Dcm,

I wanted to address your comment you made last week after the funeral of a family friend. Consider this your only warning, if you ever disrespect me in my house again, you will be immediately termed.

Signed,
provider

I wouldn't put it in a letter, I would say that directly to her face.

[Josiegirl]

Oh my that was a horrible thing for her to say. No class or kindness from her at all. I swear sometimes they'll expect us to care for their child while on our own death beds. I've had one or two like that myself, when my mother was dying. First thing out of dcm's moms mouth was Oh no, who will I get to care for C****? Not my problem lady, my mother is dying.

I am sorry this woman showed such disrespect to you. If you truly cannot just give her the boot, then actively recruit for another family, then joyfully send her out the door. I'm so sorry for your loss. Good friends are hard to come by.

[Laurel]

If you can't term, you do need to address this head on "Dc mom, a very good friend of the family passed away. Why would you ask me if that was fun? I find that to be in very poor taste." Just because you provide a service for them doesn't mean you have to put up with disrespect.

Laurel