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Has anyone ever experienced the loss of a child who used to be in your center, home whatever it may be ? We lost a child due to an accident ( not at daycare) a few months ago. I am so sad for the parents. The child used to bein my room ( part time) and moved up. I saw her regularly when mom picked up sibling in my room. I am still heartbroken, the younger sister just stated back a few weeks ago. She is too young to realize what happened, but I am sure she feels the loss in her own way. I don't want to keep giving mom the sympathy routine every time she drops off and picks up, I am sympathetic but she seems to want to move on to discussions about her surviving child. I feel so sad still. The teachers in the older sisters room have changed, so the director , asst director and a few other staff are the ones who were still here when she was here. She was a precious child and I am probably still grieving.
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I cannot get my arms around what she is going though. My BF lost a son & some days are harder than others for him. I would take mom's lead. If she is needing to take about things, do so. If she wants to talk about the weather, by all means tell her you are over the rain. Hug all the DC children, every chance you get.Comment
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I am so sorry
Last year a family in our area lost their precious 5 year old daughter to a brain tumor. One of the things mom has said is that people should always take the families lead when it comes to conversations. There are days she is barely holding on and trying hard to keep it together for the sake of her two other children and then someone comes up to her beside themselves with grief, it makes it that much harder.Comment
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yes, follow mom's lead. my family lost a 2 1/2 year old and now that it's been 3 years it helps to talk about her and keep her memory alive. I can not imagine being one of these parents.
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I am so sorry
Last year a family in our area lost their precious 5 year old daughter to a brain tumor. One of the things mom has said is that people should always take the families lead when it comes to conversations. There are days she is barely holding on and trying hard to keep it together for the sake of her two other children and then someone comes up to her beside themselves with grief, it makes it that much harder.. If you would like to express your sympathy and acknowledge her daughter and your memories a card would be a good idea- lets he know you are there to support how ever she needs
So sorry for all of you.
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A card would be perfect. That way you don't have to do it every time you see her , but she will remember your words when she sees you.Comment
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I lost a little guy last year in the storm of June 30th. I think that day will forever be in my memory. Not sure if anyone heard the story but him and his cousin died in that horrible storm while camping. I will never forget that Monday when gmom showed on my door step. I miss my little man so very much. Sometimes it seems unreal. What can you do on a situation like that but hold the family tight and grieve along with them. I think of the family often. The older son went through my daycare too. He survived that day. I sent them a memory ornament for Christmas and a card and angels made from the hands of all the children on the "anniversary". The family raised money and got benches at the zoo in the boys name. I think we might take a field trip and take a picture of the children on that bench to send to mom. I think people bombard after it happens and then move on with their lives but the parents continue to grieve. They need to be remembered and know that we love them. Even months and years later. It does make it better but I think it helps to know they are not ever alone.Comment
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So sorry. My mother in law lost a preschool child, but didn't regularly interact with the parents after. She teaches preschool to medically fragile children, so calling in the nurse is a regular occurrence, and even the occasional ambulance hospital run... but actually losing a child is something else entirely, and you are never prepared for. I don't know what she said to the child's classmates about it, or what was even allowed for privacy reasons.Comment
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I'm sorry for your loss.Comment
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I am sorry for your loss. I lost one of my little ones this past spring. I hadn't watched these two for several months due to poor choices on behalf of the mother. The little boy was killed by the boyfriend while she was at work. Breaks my heart because she knew she could always drop them off here! Let's see leave them with my drunk boyfriend or drop them off where they would be safe. The only good side is his older sister (3 at the time, he turned 2 the day of his funeral) is now in foster care. I pray they terminate all family rights and let her be adopted now while she stands a chance.
How do you deal with this seeing the mom? Let her move on. It is hard (my baby brother died in an auto accident when we were young) but needs to happen. It is good she is focusing on her other child. You need to too. She can't be faced, or the other child, with constant grief. Happy! You can help her by being happy and doing your job. That may sound harsh but it is what she needs. I am sure she has other support for her grief.Comment
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I have been doing this so long I suppose it was inevitable but I have lost one past dcb supposedly to "the choking game." He was found by his brother hanging from the closet rod at 12yos. I also have one now who was in a vehicle accident (her own fault, she was drunk) and is in the hospital in a coma, she'll never be the same.Comment
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not exactly the same thing, but I had a child leave for preschool and a month later his baby sibling (who I never watched, but saw at drop offs) was killed in a car accident. I didn't have to see them every day but I was so upset. I cried every time I thought about them even months later. I sent mom a card, and brought over a meal one time in the beginning. I attended the funeral. This was a few years ago and I still just want to hug her every time I see her. I just can't even imagine the pain.
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I haven't lost a daycare child, but have lost two daycare parents. One to complications during what should have been routine surgery and one to suicide.
Very difficult.Comment
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