Children Who are the Boss

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

How long does it take to help a child recognize that they are not the boss at daycare?

I may be wording that harshly, so I apologize if that's the case. This child has never been in care before outside of Mom and Grandma and has been in charge for years. It is quite shocking to this child that they don't get to dictate what we are doing now that they are here and I'm wondering if anyone else has had a similar child in their care and how long it took for that child to acclimate to the daycare environment and realize that they aren't the person in charge.

[daycare]

How long does it take to help a child recognize that they are not the boss at daycare?

I may be wording that harshly, so I apologize if that's the case. This child has never been in care before outside of Mom and Grandma and has been in charge for years. It is quite shocking to this child that they don't get to dictate what we are doing now that they are here and I'm wondering if anyone else has had a similar child in their care and how long it took for that child to acclimate to the daycare environment and realize that they aren't the person in charge.

on day one when I tell them I am the boss here....

[CedarCreek]

Still trying to figure this one out. I have one that I have to constantly remind that this is my house and i'm in charge here. He always says "Not me?"

This is the same kid who's parents will take him along if he throws a fit at drop off. They are serious enablers.

[Familycare71]

Generally within the first day- they look at me like I have 2 heads for the first couple of weeks but they get it quickly. Usually around week three there is some testing but that is nipped quickly!
Although there are some very stubborn kids... They can take longer. When I e had them the grace period ends quickly and I make sure my reaction time can be fast. They get it eventually

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

on day one when I tell them I am the boss here....

:: I already tried that and I have repeated it several times. I told the child, "At daycare, Ms. ___ is the boss. At home, your Mommy and Daddy are the boss. One day, you will be a grown-up and get to be the boss, too. But, for right now I am the boss and we listen to what I say."

[JoseyJo]

:: I already tried that and I have repeated it several times. I told the child, "At daycare, Ms. ___ is the boss. At home, your Mommy and Daddy are the boss. One day, you will be a grown-up and get to be the boss, too. But, for right now I am the boss and we listen to what I say."

I do the "bossiest boss" routine -VERY strong leadership so they will KNOW that you are the boss. Less explanations and more actions (ie- "Stop, go back and use your walking feet" in a stern voice, then a big "Thank you! Good Job, Nice walking feet!" after- instead of "No, no, we don't run in the house use your walking feet!")

When I am giving instructions I am very serious, but then when they comply I am very happy/bubbly w/ lots of praise. That way they know I am not "mean", it's just that instructions are to be complied with the FIRST time here!

[MamaBearCanada]

:: I already tried that and I have repeated it several times. I told the child, "At daycare, Ms. ___ is the boss. At home, your Mommy and Daddy are the boss. One day, you will be a grown-up and get to be the boss, too. But, for right now I am the boss and we listen to what I say."

I would stick with "At daycare I am the boss" but leave out the part about his parents. They are not the boss and you don't want him to think that their behaviour is "boss" like then expect the same from you. I also do a brief talk about why children need to listen to me, how it keeps them safe, helps them make good decisions. It comes down to if I give you a choice you may choose, if I tell you then you do it.

[daycare]

I dont say anything other than....

I am the boss, ME. NOt you.....

I have one kid that for the first 3 months he was here (part timer) I had to remind him first thing every morning....I am the boss.....

[Familycare71]

I would stick with "At daycare I am the boss" but leave out the part about his parents. They are not the boss and you don't want him to think that their behaviour is "boss" like then expect the same from you. I also do a brief talk about why children need to listen to me, how it keeps them safe, helps them make good decisions. It comes down to if I give you a choice you may choose, if I tell you then you do it.

Yes- I agree! I have one little boy who even when his mom is here I tell him dcb remember fits aren't allowed at dc! Because I know darn well they are at home. Also when I have a new dck and they try to carry on and cry to get what they want I ask the other kids: hey guys? Does crying and throwing a fit work here? They all say no! Annoyed ::

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

Yes- I agree! I have one little boy who even when his mom is here I tell him dcb remember fits aren't allowed at dc! Because I know darn well they are at home. Also when I have a new dck and they try to carry on and cry to get what they want I ask the other kids: hey guys? Does crying and throwing a fit work here? They all say no! Annoyed ::

Mine will look at any child tantruming and say, "Please stop. You're hurting my ears." with a really irritated look on their face.

[daycare]

Mine will look at any child tantruming and say, "Please stop. You're hurting my ears." with a really irritated look on their face.

hahahah I have one that says that all the time.....well because usually all of the kids are saying it to him... I think it is just so funny.....I would love to tell that kid, now you know what KARMA is.....

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

hahahah I have one that says that all the time.....well because usually all of the kids are saying it to him... I think it is just so funny.....I would love to tell that kid, now you know what KARMA is.....

Ah, I also have one just like that. Loves to whine...