DCM Is Annoyed That DCG Hasn't Had Lunch When She Picks Up At 11:00am!!

[crazydaycarelady]

This is the craziest situation. Single dcm drops off almost 2yo dcg about 8:45. She comes back to get her at 11:30, takes her home to breastfeed and have nap and then brings her back for the afternoon until 5:30. It is inconvenient to say the least since lunchtime is around 11:30 and naptime starts at 1:00.

The last few days dcm has come at 11:00 and then acted annoyed that dcg has not had lunch! Gimme a break! Today she took her at 11:00 then brought her back at 1:00 having napped but not having had lunch.

I have tried to get dcm to just leave dcg here for nap but she has apparently never been put down without breastfeeding first.

I charge her for a full day but my assistant and I are both annoyed with this situation. Why wouldn't dcm just leave her here and get her work done? Sometimes she has to go back at night with dcg because she didn't get all her work done during the day.

[Crazy8]

That is insane. I would never agree to that in the first place!! How long has this been going on? I would just tell mom that while you tried this arrangement just isn't working for your group. But if you are willing to keep doing this I would keep an exact lunch time and when she questions it just look at your watch and say lunch is served at 11:30. I also would not allow her to be brought back until nap time is over.

Yes, mom has issues but you are letting it affect you and it really doesn't have to.

[nannyde]

I would not do this. It forces you into doing two arrivals and two departures a day. It also forces you to have a kid up at nap time.

[Familycare71]

I would not do this. It forces you into doing two arrivals and two departures a day. It also forces you to have a kid up at nap time.

Exactly! If your willing to do it I agree w PP - return after nap or by 1 ready to go to nap! Make her have and keep consistent times! All in the name of babies schedule and needs of course!
But I'm pretty sure I wouldn't be participating at all-

[Laurel]

That is insane. I would never agree to that in the first place!! How long has this been going on? I would just tell mom that while you tried this arrangement just isn't working for your group. But if you are willing to keep doing this I would keep an exact lunch time and when she questions it just look at your watch and say lunch is served at 11:30. I also would not allow her to be brought back until nap time is over.

Yes, mom has issues but you are letting it affect you and it really doesn't have to.

Laurel

[Blackcat31]

I wouldn't agree to this either as I am not an advocate for multiple drop offs/pick ups in one day as it gets too crazy but IF I did have this arrangement with a parent, I would absolutely REQUIRE (NOT ask) that the mom pick up the child BEFORE lunch time and NOT bring her back until AFTER nap time or at nap time so she can nap.

NO way would I allow ONE parent's parenting style to affect my daily routine as that affects ALL the other kids you have.

If she arrived back at daycare at 1:00 and had already napped, I wouldn't accept her into care.

[crazydaycarelady]

The ONLY reason I allow her to drop off at 1:00 having already napped is because I have several SA who are up anyway. I agreed to do this thinking it was so ridiculous that it wouldn't last long but here we are 2 months later still doing it. I thought dcm would give up driving up to my house 4 times per day long ago!

[littlemissmuffet]

The ONLY reason I allow her to drop off at 1:00 having already napped is because I have several SA who are up anyway. I agreed to do this thinking it was so ridiculous that it wouldn't last long but here we are 2 months later still doing it. I thought dcm would give up driving up to my house 4 times per day long ago!

Big difference between a schoolagers being up during nap and an almost 2 year old being up during nap...

I would simply tell mom the arrangement isn't working out any longer.

One of the first subjects in my PPHB is ONE drop off/ONE pick-up per day!

[crazydaycarelady]

I agree, especially because in a few weeks when those SA go back to school I am NOT having 1 kid up! Dcm will have to decide to leave her here for nap or go elsewhere.

[Blackcat31]

I agree, especially because in a few weeks when those SA go back to school I am NOT having 1 kid up! Dcm will have to decide to leave her here for nap or go elsewhere.

I'd write her a "warning" letter now to let her know that the current arrangement is no longer working and honestly since DCG is getting to be so old, it might be a better idea to get her on track with the other kids her age.

NOT saying I don't support extended breastfeeding but as a provider I am 100% willing to be flexible for infants but when the child starts reaching preschool age, I am not quite as flexible.....

[DaisyMamma]

OMG
I don't think I would have allowed this weird schedule to begin with.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

I support extended breastfeeding and find this situation to be ridiculous. If Mom wants her to have breastmilk before nap, have her send it in a sippy cup. This multiple drop-offs and pick-ups thing while disregarding your schedule is not okay.

[Unregistered]

Two yr old breastfeeding ?

[UtahMomma]

Ughhh I have this same issue with a single DCM. Multiple times she has picked up at 4:30pm and asks if they had dinner. Umm....no, we had a snack at 3:15 and dinner is not until after 5:30. She always makes a very dramatic sigh and huffy breath. God forbid you have to feed your kids one meal.

[cheerfuldom]

Two yr old breastfeeding ?

Its extremely common, especially in countries outside the US. It might seem abnormal for many Americans but it is extremely common and accepted in many other countries. there is also a huge movement within the US that advocates for child led weaning and extended breastfeeding.