OMG FB Hit!

[Crazy8]

yikes! I love FB for communicating with parents and sharing things about the kids day but god I am hating so many of the other issues it can cause!!

Good luck. I hope she doesn't show up. If she did I'd be real tempted to tell her I never expected her to come back to the daycare that locks her child in a room all day and shut the door in her face!!

[bunnyslippers]

That stinks! When I was a public school teacher, I had a parent post something on Facebook about her autistic son coming home from school with scrapes and bruises. My superintendent saw it, and demanded the mother come in for a meeting with the district's lawyer. The mother was mortified that we had seen it, and never pulled anything like that again. Sometimes, people need to be called out for their stupid behavior. I hope you send BC's letter. I would be tempted to post my own rant on FB, but it probably isn't a productive step to take.

[mrsnj]

Well posting a rant on my fb page would not go far. Lol. MY page is locked

I am not a fb fan. But this is the second time fb has come into play in a month. First was a few wks ago when a mom brought her kids sick n posted she did it on fb then got caught by another parent who told on her! And now this. *rolling eyes*. People really need to think when they write things on public sites

[Anon]

I just started a new family on Wed. SA and 19 month old. The baby has adjusted perfect. A complete sweetheart! The SA child has been up my butt the whole time. The mother lied about her age which I was not pleased about. I noticed she was much bigger than my daughter but don't know the dad and figured she was taking after him in size. Began asking the SA child questions about her new school (she lived here, moved away and returned) as she should not have attended there before only for her to say she had. Which, make a long story short, told me she was older than she was due to her moving dates and the grades the school has in it. I got her bdate and she is older. Too old for me to be taking really. She is almost 10. If a child is old enough to start a period or get the beginning of boobs...kinda too told for here! She won't leave her sister alone. She bugs her all day till I have to chase her away cause she gets her sister upset! Finally mom says that she is going to stay at a friends house for the summer. Cool. Works for me as she was too old to come and wasn't fitting in. The baby would stay. I was fine with that arrangement.

Today they are a no show. I call moms cell and swore someone hung up on me. Odd. She is now almost two hours late. I remember you guys on here about FB so I go on............OMG I am livid!!!

She posts on there that she has taken her girls to a horrible provider. That I have done nothing but lie to her and that I LOCK HER DAUGHTER UP IN A ROOM ALL DAY LONG AND LEAVE HER! That she now has a diaper rash....who BTW not only arrived to ME with a diaper rash but diarrhea!!!! Of which mom brought cream the first day because of it and I told dad about the diarrhea and he tells me she gets it all the time......but I CAUSED IT by leaving her daughter locked up in the room all day! I don't play with her. I do nothing with her and and just horrible and lied!! That she had to come and do drop ins to make sure everything was ok. She never did. She came and dropped off and I didnt' hear from her the rest of the time. Step dad picked up! I texted her throughout the day and filled her in. Took pics and sent them so she knew they were doing well. And she posts that?!

SERIOUSLY!? SERIOUSLY??????!!!!

#1 If you thought I was so horrible why would you bring your kids?? First day..issue?...I would be saying something or pulling.

#2 You wouldn't talk to me about it? You post it on FB?

#3 You LIE about me. I mean openly LIE about me. You bring your kid with diarrhea and rash and one day a diaper full of poo but I DID IT? SERIOUSLY!?

I do not get it!!!! She is all nicey nicey to my face and you post that poo behind my back??? Who brings their kids and do not say something if they truely thought I was doing those things....which I doubt she does cause HELLO she knows she lied herself. What I do not get is why? What did I do that she feels she has to tell these things to her friends? Attention? Crazy? I mean really!

I have police officers kids here. I have DYFS workers kids here. Does she really think I do those things? That they bring their kids here and I do those things?? Oh but wait, she might not know that CAUSE SHE DIDN'T TALK TO ME!!

I want to post back and cannot. I want to email her and tell her where she can go but cannot. She claims in the post that her youngest will come here and Wed she will be looking elsewhere on her half day. But she isn't here today so I don't think she is coming back.

I don't know how to handle this cause right now, I am trying not to say exactly what I am thinking!!!!!!

SCREEN SHOT and e mail it to yourself. Save it for a rainy day. What she's doing is LIBEL and so long as what she says IS NOT TRUE, you have a right to sue her.


I'll tell you what happened to me:

I had a dcm who owed me $120 for her 2 children. Also, the school year was about to end and they wanted me to do FT care for the older child, and I said "$10 extra per day" and they didn't like it. I told them "However, I cannot take your children again til the $120 balance is paid and the first two weeks for summer are paid in advance as it seems as paying after-the-fact is not working".

They got ANGRY. I mean REALLY angry. They told me they would do WHATEVER they could to RUIN my business and get my license revoked.

The next day, they called acting like they were "sorry" and if I took their child back but on THEIR terms and they would not do any of this. I said "Um, no, you threatened me because YOU owe ME money and I refused to take your kid back and NOW you are trying to BRIBE me into taking your children back and THEN also asking me to lower the price for summer care? ARE YOU KIDDING ME?" And I hung up on them. Then I got another call "If you don't work with us, we're calling your licensor" I said "BE MY GUEST, BECAUSE I'M CALLING HER NOW!" And I did just that. I also called the State Licensing Board of Directors and got some advice.

About 10 minutes of talking to the provider, my E mail Dings. I get an E MAIL from these a-double-s holes stating what they said on the phone (woo hoo! I printed that shiznit out).

They said they would tell DHS/LICENSING: I didn't feed their children (Funny, I was on a food program so hmmmm....those unannounced visits where a state worker witnessed me feeding children and put this info in writing was awesome to have!), I beat the young one, and that I had physically abused the older one too, and they went as far to claim sexual abuse! I could NOT believe it. I thought maybe they'd claim some other BS, but to go that far disgusts me.

I obviously had an investigation on me and the investigation found a LOT of stuff out: ABOUT THE PARENTS!

I showed them the email. They interviewed all my kids that could talk, even the 4yo group. Obviously, I fed the kids and certainly did not beat or molest anyone! I could not even believe the mere suggestion. The case was dropped, BUT they felt the child WAS being abused still. Apparently the NEW provider had called in a complaint. Sadly, it was found upon investigation of the parent's home, the child was really being abused. So they accused ME to deflect the suspicion off themselves. Then the new provider outed them and they were completely shocked that they were caught.

There is SO much more to the disgusting stuff that was found out about the parents, not limited to filthy disgusting conditions of their home and other things that were pulled up (previous complaints from neighbors for unrelated things that were taken into consideration during the investigation).

Also, the older girl was advised to BULLY my kid at school. The older kid told another child that her MOTHER and fake Stepfather (they were not married and he didn't really want to be a dad to the older kid) told her to bother my kid to "get me back" and the other kid told me. I went promptly to the school and explained the situation and they also made a report to DHS.

So, you see, while it seems as a person's lies can ruin YOUR Life, usually the crap comes right back to bite them.

That said, YES my business was hurt for about a year. I got NO calls, and I saw people whispering. Once someone makes these allegations out loud or writes them on websites or tells other parents, it matters NOT that it is found out that I did nothing wrong and that the parents lied. People lose trust from lies. I would screen shot and make a comment and screen shot again. I'd say "You know, it's not wise to place LIES about someone's business in writing all over the web" And leave it at that. No matter WHAT else she says, IGNORE but screen shot it. Do NOT get into a back and forth. Whatever else she could possibly say would fall under the "lies" part of your post and if she keeps going on and on, you can use it against her in court.


I ended up not suing because these parents, who were pretty scummy, did not have anything to their names but cigarettes, beer, and drugs. Unfortunately, I was desperate for money and took ANY client I could get back then. Unwise, YES! Would I ever do that again? NO.

I am much more selective of my clients now and do NOT put up with bs. I even have a clause in contract that states if there is a problem with me they are to COMMUNICATE so we can work it out. I also tell the parents face to face that if I ever find them talking negatively about me, true or not, care is terminated. (Negative doesn't mean you've done anything bad. It could be as simple as not liking a policy. The point is the parent should be telling ME about it and not everyone else!)

I know that there are others who have had the same problems as me and have been accused of similar and it not being true. It really ****s when you're on the end as the accusee and people think you really did those things.

[mrsnj]

See thats the bs I don't want to get into. Take your stuff and bye bye. Clearly this woman has no issue lying. I want them gone and done.

Fun part? They attend the VBS that I run at my church. So somewhere...it is going to bite me. I can kick her out of here. I can't do that there.

[MotherNature]

document everything including screen shots of the FB comments

write up an immediate term letter and have someone you trust hand deliver directly to her at home or workplace so you have a witness that she got it. that will be faster than certified mail. make sure her remaining items are hand delivered

call your licensor so they are prepared for a false allegation from this mom

do not call this person or get into any sort of confrontation with her. term and b done with it.

sorry you got screwed, it happens to all of us

all of this exactly. And save your texts.

[Starburst]

I would take a picture of it just in case for your own personal files and then I would report it to FB officials that she is lying about your business; which is considered defamation of character and libel (when its spoken it's called slander, when written it's called libel).

[MotherNature]

wow, anonymous,
That's horrifying & scary. I hope your business has recovered & you have awesome clients now.