Binky Swappers

[Brooksie]

So sick of BINKYS. I'm either spending too much time looking for them, washing them or prying them out of the wrong childs mouth. I have 2 with binkies. 13 and 14 months. One of them is a biter which is why I try to have it present and the other is my extreme crier who has some major issues going on. If I'm not holding him he LOSES it big time. I've posted multiple times about his extreme behavior. Him having the blanket and binky is our way of trying to get him to self soothe and be a bit more emotionally independent.

I just had to remove the binkies from the boys because they kept stealing each others binkies, popping them in their mouths and then flipping out on each other for either taking their binky or for not having the others. Now my extreme crier is in shambles on the floor. I feel like this kid is going to need a binky until hes 14. I just can't stand them.

DD stopped using hers at 12 months. It was a quick transition and she was fine. No big deal. Now I have to deal with them with these older ones and it drives me crazy. I also have a 2.5 year old who has one for naps which is just blasphemous to me. I hate going to stores and seeing 2 and 3 year olds with a binky in their mouth. I can't help but shake me head and scoff. I want to be able to have a no binky rule after 18 mo and also only at nap for the younger ones but I will tear my hair out if I have to listen to this kids scream any more. And the binky was our solution to not having to hold him ALL DAY LONG.

I just hate hate HATE them

[blandino]

Recently I started requiring that binkies be on clips/straps for this very reason.

After 12-18 months, I limit them to nap only. As far as getting rid of them at nap... Right now I have 2 24 month olds who take them at nap, and one 39 month old - yes, 39 months. He is new this week, and mom showed up with a paci for nap. I didn't know what to think. But truth be told, if they are still getting pacis at home to sleep, I am not willing to mess up nap, the other children's sleep and my small break, just to take a paci away at nap. Normally I am the one wanting parents to advance their child and give up their baby things - but in that area, I totally wait for the parents to do it.

[nannyde]

I don't do binkies. I've never liked them. Way too much work.

[JoseyJo]

I'm just gonna put this out there- feel free to ignore if it's offensive..

HOW do you do it? There is no way I could handle those 2 kids, let alone the others in my care and my own kids- even w/ my assistant. To me extreme crier needs his own nanny and constant biter needs his own too!

How do you get anything done? How do you do any activities? How do you give individual attention to the other kids? How do you make it through the day with any sanity after being on constant level 10 watching the biter and the extreme noise pollution from the crier?

This may seem really rude but know what I did today? Today is our "fun day" we do preschool M-TH. I free played with the kids until breakfast, they free played w/ my supervision from the kitchen while I made breakfast, we all ate together, they read books quietly while my assistant and I cleaned up. We did circle time and funny song time, we did process art for an hour, right now they are watching our 1 weekly movie (aladdin today!) w/ dc assistant while I make lunch, planned our theme for next month, and read this forum! I dont' think I could have done any of that if I had the extreme crier and the biter...

Honestly- just props to you for your level of patience doing that day in day out. NO WAY would I do it!

[Brooksie]

I'm just gonna put this out there- feel free to ignore if it's offensive..

HOW do you do it? There is no way I could handle those 2 kids, let alone the others in my care and my own kids- even w/ my assistant. To me extreme crier needs his own nanny and constant biter needs his own too!

How do you get anything done? How do you do any activities? How do you give individual attention to the other kids? How do you make it through the day with any sanity after being on constant level 10 watching the biter and the extreme noise pollution from the crier?

This may seem really rude but know what I did today? Today is our "fun day" we do preschool M-TH. I free played with the kids until breakfast, they free played w/ my supervision from the kitchen while I made breakfast, we all ate together, they read books quietly while my assistant and I cleaned up. We did circle time and funny song time, we did process art for an hour, right now they are watching our 1 weekly movie (aladdin today!) w/ dc assistant while I make lunch, planned our theme for next month, and read this forum! I dont' think I could have done any of that if I had the extreme crier and the biter...

Honestly- just props to you for your level of patience doing that day in day out. NO WAY would I do it!

Haha I never said I still have my sanity! This past month has been very difficult and its for sure wearing on me. I'm trying to get the crier to work through it on its own but it is stressful. The biter is getting a bit better. He actually made no attempt yesterday which was amazing. But I don't think we are out of the woods yet.

This morning we started with cars and trucks. Then made it through circle time. Did a color mixing/sun (paper plate) painting activity. Then we built with wooden blocks. Moved on to our Dance Along Videos (koo koo kangroo and choo choo soul) to get the kids moving since it was too wet to go outside this morning. Then it was lunch, story time and now nap. I have a curriculum I loosely follow because of my ages, but I don't do a preschool program. Although I make sure to meet all the developmental needs and all the kids are on par with their ASQs.

I have no assistant. Its just me. With these two kids today I also have my 2.5yo dd and then a 13yo with special needs (CP). Yes, the crier cried, and yes, the biter was closely supervised. I'm not really sure HOW I do it. But somehow it all gets done and every one loves it here. (maybe not me so much: but I make it work

Edit: Next week my P/T 2.5 dkg will be starting full time, too. needless to say I won't be expanding my program for a while, at least until the crier gets a grip.

[JoseyJo]

Amazing! Again, props to you- I'm telling you, I couldn't do it. If you can handle it I am sure you are going to make a HUGE difference in those kid's lives, and if you can't just know that you are an AMAZING person for trying this hard!

[Meeko]

Pacifiers.....UGH! Nasty, gross, ugly mouth plugs!

[Brooksie]

Amazing! Again, props to you- I'm telling you, I couldn't do it. If you can handle it I am sure you are going to make a HUGE difference in those kid's lives, and if you can't just know that you are an AMAZING person for trying this hard!

thanks

[craftymissbeth]

I don't have a crier or biter like you do, but a 15 month old and 14 month old (who was only here for the summer). The 14 month old used a pacifier at home and his mom brought it with him everyday. He had one here in his cubby for naptime, but as soon as he was in my arms at drop-off he handed me the pacifier and I handed it to mom with a smile. My 15 month old dck doesn't use a bink, but she would still take it from him even when it was on a clip on his shirt and stick it straight in her mouth. Monkey See Monkey Do

If he had been a crier or biter I would have torn my hair out

[JoseyJo]

I don't have a crier or biter like you do, but a 15 month old and 14 month old (who was only here for the summer). The 14 month old used a pacifier at home and his mom brought it with him everyday. He had one here in his cubby for naptime, but as soon as he was in my arms at drop-off he handed me the pacifier and I handed it to mom with a smile. My 15 month old dck doesn't use a bink, but she would still take it from him even when it was on a clip on his shirt and stick it straight in her mouth. Monkey See Monkey Do

If he had been a crier or biter I would have torn my hair out

That's what we do with binkies. They come out as soon as they walk in the door and go in the cubby until they are walking back out the door! We haven't ever had one who even "needed" one at nap. Parents always thought they did but they were just fine without

[jenn]

I only allow pacifiers in the pack and play for napping. Their pacifier goes in there as soon as they arrive and stays there until parents pick them up.

[Brooksie]

I only allow pacifiers in the pack and play for napping. Their pacifier goes in there as soon as they arrive and stays there until parents pick them up.

I want to enforce this rule so badly!!!! I can't wait until I can. These boys need to work through their issues first or everyone is going to lose their minds. I think I might try the binky tether at least to help with them getting lost.

[Familycare71]

I don't personally have an issue with pacifiers. It is a good oral release for littles who don't have other ways to release that energy with out it. But... I was a thumb ****er so maybe I relate on some level
At about 2 (depending on the kid earlier) the paci is only for nap. I have had kids who would say: can I go lay down? They would go lay down, have a pack fix, and come back and join the group.
That said I usually have kids give them up here much earlier than home. I think one main reason is that I don't make a fuss about it.
My only exception is infants who spit or throw their paci and then scream. Then it goes away here.