One Less Diaper...One More Pain....Ugh

[Heidi]

I tend to be in the laid-back camp about potty training. 3 is fine; I've had some bright 3 year olds that weren't quite ready until just 3, and once they were, it took a day or two.

Past 3 1/2, though, I start to get a bit antsy, and at OVER 4, forget it! He should be able to dress and undress, put shoes on, and use the potty at that age. If there are no other developmental signs, he needs tough-love!

[Angelsj]

Sometimes parents need the tough love.
I have a 3.5 year old who comes in undressed (no shirt or socks) and insists his mother put them on before she leaves. I let this happen twice, and put a halt to it.
She put his things on, I took them off and gave them to the child to put on. She looked at me funny, but I told her he was quite capable, and lo and behold...he did it. Sigh.

[daycare]

thanks for all of the support ladies......

Sometimes things get to me and stress me out that I can't always think straight. This grannie did end up calling me and at the start of our conversations she said that she planned to call licensing on me because I was telling the child that they had to and was with holding things from him....

Of course I set her straight, told her that was not true, not too sure why mom would tell you that and by the end of the conversation she was ok and seemed pretty happy.

BOY oh BOY have I had one crazy week so far......I am so ready for Friday to be here..........

[blandino]

thanks for all of the support ladies......

Sometimes things get to me and stress me out that I can't always think straight. This grannie did end up calling me and at the start of our conversations she said that she planned to call licensing on me because I was telling the child that they had to and was with holding things from him....

Of course I set her straight, told her that was not true, not too sure why mom would tell you that and by the end of the conversation she was ok and seemed pretty happy.

BOY oh BOY have I had one crazy week so far......I am so ready for Friday to be here..........

Honestly, having someone say they are going to call licensing (even if their claims are untrue and unfounded), would be the end of our relationship. Having someone who really has no business being part of the DCF-DCP relationship, jumping the gun to call licensing would have made me irate.

[daycare]

Honestly, having someone say they are going to call licensing (even if their claims are untrue and unfounded), would be the end of our relationship. Having someone who really has no business being part of the DCF-DCP relationship, jumping the gun to call licensing would have made me irate.

the thing is, it was the grandmother, not the mother. I did not think that it was fair to this mother who was backing me to get termed because her ex MIL was being a pain in the butt. Now if it were the mother, who I have the contract signed with, I would.

I did tell her that although I understand she is concerned about the child, that in the future I will not be able to discuss anything with her other than if he had a good day or not. I would only be opt to talk with her should she be the one picking him up. If dad wants to call and ask any questions (he is also on the contract, but lives out of state) I will be more than happy to answer anything as long as it only has to do with the child.
I told her that my job here was to work with DCB and to assist mom when needed on potty training tips like she had asked.

I was pretty upset when the call came in, but I am glad that I answered it and squashed it. I just talked to the mother of the child and she is fuming mad at grannie. She could not stop saying sorry to me and said that grannie misunderstood just about everything she told her she was doing with PTing her son...

DCB was here all day and did not have one accident. I would not allow for him to be in diapers today...Nope sorry, you are a big boy now..........

[JoseyJo]

Honestly, having someone say they are going to call licensing (even if their claims are untrue and unfounded), would be the end of our relationship. Having someone who really has no business being part of the DCF-DCP relationship, jumping the gun to call licensing would have made me irate.

Yep! me too.

[blandino]

the thing is, it was the grandmother, not the mother. I did not think that it was fair to this mother who was backing me to get termed because her ex MIL was being a pain in the butt. Now if it were the mother, who I have the contract signed with, I would.

I did tell her that although I understand she is concerned about the child, that in the future I will not be able to discuss anything with her other than if he had a good day or not. I would only be opt to talk with her should she be the one picking him up. If dad wants to call and ask any questions (he is also on the contract, but lives out of state) I will be more than happy to answer anything as long as it only has to do with the child.
I told her that my job here was to work with DCB and to assist mom when needed on potty training tips like she had asked.

I was pretty upset when the call came in, but I am glad that I answered it and squashed it. I just talked to the mother of the child and she is fuming mad at grannie. She could not stop saying sorry to me and said that grannie misunderstood just about everything she told her she was doing with PTing her son...

DCB was here all day and did not have one accident. I would not allow for him to be in diapers today...Nope sorry, you are a big boy now..........

That all makes a lot more sense. Grannie needs to back off.

I have my first over 3 and not potty trained child, his first day was yesterday. He is 39 months old, and I am trying to sort through the same thing, even though he is a lot younger. It just isn't something I have had to deal with before.