Amen!! Advice isn't always what we want to hear.
And not many of us here just don't need the money, what little we do make. Me included. Terming is tough. And a last option for me. But there are a few reasons I would term, and only a few. First being non payment. Second being violence. And biting falls under that category.
When it comes to violence, I do everything in my power. I don't simply term.
Bt in a case like this, my family's monetary well being are not as important as my ability to provide that. And what I mean is a parent reporting me because their kid gets bit constantly or hurt in my home. And if a home provider gets shut down pending an investigation, how will they support their family?? If a parent sues and insurance drops us, then what. What if they drop my home owners too.
What if I'm found by licensing or the powers that be as neglectful because I didn't stop e victim from being hurt. What if ey revoke my license ??
What if a child in my care gets a serious infection or gets hospitalized. Then what.
All of the above things would greatly hinder my ability to provide for my family.
I know I'm listing all worse case scenario.
And also, I understand why terming is hard financially. We all understand.
What I'm saying is, what's work with at least heavily interviewing for the spot while still working with the biters family.
As far as options OP, I think you already know yu have tried all of the usual things. My only advice is to sit down with mom and make a plan. Have the mom talk to the pediatrician. They may have ideas we haven't thought of. There may be options that are more appropriate for mom to pull off than you are allowed to do.
For example, I have a friend who tried everything for her son to quit biting. Her pediatrician said to get some of that bad tasting thumb ****ing stuff and every time the child bit, to put some either on his paci and out it into his mouth or dab the applicator on his lips with a very very form NO NO NO BITING!! And after twice, the child never got again and he had been a long term biter and nothing had worked. That may not be something a group provider can do, but mom can do it if she wants to. It won't hurt him.
If mom hasn't tried biting back, maybe that's something to think about. Not that I'm condoning that. But sometimes desperate times call for desperate measures yanno??
And not many of us here just don't need the money, what little we do make. Me included. Terming is tough. And a last option for me. But there are a few reasons I would term, and only a few. First being non payment. Second being violence. And biting falls under that category.
When it comes to violence, I do everything in my power. I don't simply term.
Bt in a case like this, my family's monetary well being are not as important as my ability to provide that. And what I mean is a parent reporting me because their kid gets bit constantly or hurt in my home. And if a home provider gets shut down pending an investigation, how will they support their family?? If a parent sues and insurance drops us, then what. What if they drop my home owners too.
What if I'm found by licensing or the powers that be as neglectful because I didn't stop e victim from being hurt. What if ey revoke my license ??
What if a child in my care gets a serious infection or gets hospitalized. Then what.
All of the above things would greatly hinder my ability to provide for my family.
I know I'm listing all worse case scenario.
And also, I understand why terming is hard financially. We all understand.
What I'm saying is, what's work with at least heavily interviewing for the spot while still working with the biters family.
As far as options OP, I think you already know yu have tried all of the usual things. My only advice is to sit down with mom and make a plan. Have the mom talk to the pediatrician. They may have ideas we haven't thought of. There may be options that are more appropriate for mom to pull off than you are allowed to do.
For example, I have a friend who tried everything for her son to quit biting. Her pediatrician said to get some of that bad tasting thumb ****ing stuff and every time the child bit, to put some either on his paci and out it into his mouth or dab the applicator on his lips with a very very form NO NO NO BITING!! And after twice, the child never got again and he had been a long term biter and nothing had worked. That may not be something a group provider can do, but mom can do it if she wants to. It won't hurt him.
If mom hasn't tried biting back, maybe that's something to think about. Not that I'm condoning that. But sometimes desperate times call for desperate measures yanno??
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