Is It Common For Moms To Nurse At Daycare?

[cheerfuldom]

If I could manage it and it didn't disrupt the flow of our day, I'd be supportive about it.

Some times it has worked fantastically and other times it was a nightmare.

It really just depends on the current group of kids I have, the mom, the situation and the schedule.

It has NOTHING to do with supporting or not supporting breastfeeding.

...but has everything to do with whether or not I can manage my group, my schedule and my routine while accommodating the mother nursing.

exactly.

[Angelsj]

I have had several mothers nurse - either on their lunch or after work.

I had one mom come nurse most every lunch and after work for 6 mos. She sat in the living room (we hang out in the family room). The kids would go in and out and chatter to her. We didn't make an issue of it and neither did the kids.

A couple of other mothers would nurse at pick-up, sitting in the middle of the kids. We didn't make an issue out of it and the kids didn't seem to notice anything different.

Exactly this. The other kids get used to parents being around. I don't boot any parents out. Several of them hang around, so one hanging to breast feed is not weird here, and the kids don't even notice.

[MissAnn]

Exactly this. The other kids get used to parents being around. I don't boot any parents out. Several of them hang around, so one hanging to breast feed is not weird here, and the kids don't even notice.

But....at least in my case....parents notice. Most of mine would be fine. One mom would freak out if someone breastfed in view of the kids. She once told me she was afraid her daughter would begin to notice the difference between boys and girls. I informed her that her daughter is 4 and already knows. She said...thanks to you and your open door bathroom. Anyway....this mom would not be happy with a breast feeding mom.

[Familycare71]

But....at least in my case....parents notice. Most of mine would be fine. One mom would freak out if someone breastfed in view of the kids. She once told me she was afraid her daughter would begin to notice the difference between boys and girls. I informed her that her daughter is 4 and already knows. She said...thanks to you and your open door bathroom. Anyway....this mom would not be happy with a breast feeding mom.

really!?! They are developmentally supposed to notice!! Good grief- :confused:

[Angelsj]

But....at least in my case....parents notice. Most of mine would be fine. One mom would freak out if someone breastfed in view of the kids. She once told me she was afraid her daughter would begin to notice the difference between boys and girls. I informed her that her daughter is 4 and already knows. She said...thanks to you and your open door bathroom. Anyway....this mom would not be happy with a breast feeding mom.

To each provider their own, but if a parent EVER spoke to me that way, they would be gone. Disagreeing with my policies is fine, even asking questions about how I do things, fine.
I once had a mom ask me why I give the kids apple juice (watered down 1/3 juice to 2/3 water) in the summer time. If she had said at that time "I would really prefer he just get water, no juice" I would have had no problem with that. If she had said, "Thanks to you, he won't drink water at home" she would have been gone.

I have no problem with parents who are respectful, but disagree. I would not mind a parent who wanted the kids to not use the bathroom at the same time or closing the door for kids who are well behaved in there. But using that type of attitude to disagree is not acceptable to me.
And it is my house. If I want to allow someone to nurse in my house, and a parent doesn't like that, they have the problem, not me.

[MissAnn]

really!?! They are developmentally supposed to notice!! Good grief- :confused:

She called me at 10:00 PM on a Saturday with her concerns. I told her I would minimize visibility (of penises haha) by shutting the door as far as I could but not all the way because I have a stool in the way and the door will not shut. I regret this because now all the kids are curious and try to peek in. What was a nonissue has become an issue. She also said I needed to tell all the other parents "what's going on here". I told her they have all seen how I handle bathrooming at pick up and drop off and in all my years she is the only one who has voiced a concern. BTW I would never allow her daughter in a bathroom with the door shut since she tries to get away with not pottying and then wetting her mat.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

I wouldn't have a problem with a mom coming to do so, but it WOULD need to be in an area separate from the other children.
I do not have an issue with people nursing around the daycare kids because I will be doing it within the next 38 days or so when my daughter is born. This was NOT something I asked permission to do. I informed my clients that I WOULD be doing it. None had an issue.
What I DO have an issue with is people being around the daycare kids who are not approved by licensing. I don't allow them to be around other children for longer than a brief drop-off and a brief pick-up. I explain it as a safety concern and they understand.

[Angelsj]

She also said I needed to tell all the other parents "what's going on here".

I am incredibly mellow with kids/parents/drop off and pick up and so many other issues, but this would get her walking papers IMMEDIATELY. What exactly does she believe is "going on?"

[Familycare71]

She called me at 10:00 PM on a Saturday with her concerns. I told her I would minimize visibility (of penises haha) by shutting the door as far as I could but not all the way because I have a stool in the way and the door will not shut. I regret this because now all the kids are curious and try to peek in. What was a nonissue has become an issue. She also said I needed to tell all the other parents "what's going on here". I told her they have all seen how I handle bathrooming at pick up and drop off and in all my years she is the only one who has voiced a concern. BTW I would never allow her daughter in a bathroom with the door shut since she tries to get away with not pottying and then wetting her mat.

:confused:
People will forever amaze me!!

[Unregistered]

I'm fine with mom's nursing, but where I say. It isn't shunning, it called controlling my daycare environment. A) I don't need the kids distracted/showing off and B) She doesn't have clearance to be around the other kids.

If that doesn't suit her, she will have to nurse in the car before she leaves or something.

[melilley]

I have one mom who breastfeeds her 11mo old almost everyday at pickup. It doesn't bother me, but I think that this particular mom does to show off and that bothers me. (this dcm thinks that her kids have everything under the sun and is always having them tested for different things-she has a degree in Elem. ed-special ed and not joking-she tells me that she thinks that her kids have this and that and I only laugh when the tests turn out negative -I think she does this for attention-that's why I say that I think she breastfeeds for attention) She only lives 10 minutes away and says the he wants to eat and he tells her by "talking" and touching her. Well he does the same to me!!! She even says that he wants to eat even when she picks up and I tell her that he JUST ate snack and drank milk (they also give him almond milk). So she will sit in the playroom and the child will nurse...for only a few seconds, every time. And she always has to tell her son "don't show everyone, Ms. M has them too, or L. You're flashing me..haha..sorry-even when I don't even notice.
I totally support breastfeeding and don't mind if they do it here, but when the parent makes a big deal out of it, that bothers me.