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I have never had a mom nurse at my daycare-they send me milk that they have pumped. I have seen two posts in two days about moms lingering at pickup to nurse. Now, I am a huge supporter of nursing, but it would turn my daycare upside down if a mom wanted to sit and nurse at pickup time-the kids go wild when a parent sticks around ANY length of time. How many have moms nurse before taking their kids out the door? I guess if a mom requested it, I'd send her to my bedroom or basement to do it-there is no way I'd let a parent sit down in the middle of my daycare-she'd have 6 kids crawling all over her with "what's your name?", and 12 seconds later, fights would erupt.
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I haven't had it for a while - no nursing moms
. But the few I've had would come at lunch if it worked schedule wise for the feeding and sometimes would nurse at the end of the day if needed.
I never had a problem with it but warned them there would be questions from the kids- they always just hung out w the group- but I don't think there would be anything wrong w keeping them separate either. -
Well I haven't started my business yet but I did put in my policies that nursing moms can come by anytime during their contract hours to nurse (that would be most likely on their lunch break), and that it would be done in a room/area designated by me. But I think legally we have to have an open door policy for all parents anyway.
But if its before or after their contracted hours or at drop off/pick up time then I can see an issue, I would let them know that you need drop offs and pick ups to be as fast as possible because these are busy times for you and that you cannot let her stay too long to nurse at these times.Comment
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Personally I would have no problem.....but I have parents who don't want their kids to see other kids go potty at all......going home and reporting they saw Sally's mamma's booby? I just can't imagine. I nursed everywhere and I support breast feeding....but not everyone is comfortable with it.I haven't had it for a while - no nursing moms. But the few I've had would come at lunch if it worked schedule wise for the feeding and sometimes would nurse at the end of the day if needed.
I never had a problem with it but warned them there would be questions from the kids- they always just hung out w the group- but I don't think there would be anything wrong w keeping them separate either.Comment
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I have had several mothers nurse - either on their lunch or after work.
I had one mom come nurse most every lunch and after work for 6 mos. She sat in the living room (we hang out in the family room). The kids would go in and out and chatter to her. We didn't make an issue of it and neither did the kids.
A couple of other mothers would nurse at pick-up, sitting in the middle of the kids. We didn't make an issue out of it and the kids didn't seem to notice anything different.Comment
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I've only had one mom who would come to nurse during lunch breaks and it worked out perfectly! I used to text mom mid to late morning and we would work out whatever time around lunch that would work best (which was fine because I was flexible and she was very flexible with her job). In fact, I actually much preferred it because the baby would drink more from her than the bottle and the baby would be off my hands during my busiest time of the day for ~30-45 minutes while he nursed. Then he would always go down to sleep with her and sleep 2-3 times longer than when I would put him to sleep (he cat napped for me). I let her use one of the bedrooms for privacy, but I completely understand why many providers cannot do that. This was only a very temporary situation because the baby was with me very shortly, but I really don't see why it couldn't have worked for the long-run. I know I loved it and I'm fairly positive the mom loved it too!Comment
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I currently have a DCM that comes to nurse and it's really not a big deal, although I talked to her about what I expected and times that worked for the group. She says that stepping away or going into another room is "shaming" so she wants to stay where the group is. I have no problem with that but I told her there were 2 time periods that we unfortunately not doable. Evening pick up rush (5:15-5:45) and lunch time (11:30-12:15) are to hectic to deal with the kids being all over her when I need to get them change and ready or fed. My DCKs aren't really interested in what she's doing but they want to show her every toy or project in the house! :
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I also had to lay down the law with her (thanks to support here!) that she either showed up when I let her know DCG (2.5 months) would be hungry or DCG gets a bottle. She wanted to do it whenever she had time but never knew what time each day and it didn't always fit with the feeding schedule DCG was on that day. I can't spend all day trying to hold DCG off just to fit a feeding into DCM's schedule.Comment
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"She says that stepping away or going into another room is "shaming" so she wants to stay where the group is."I currently have a DCM that comes to nurse and it's really not a big deal, although I talked to her about what I expected and times that worked for the group. She says that stepping away or going into another room is "shaming" so she wants to stay where the group is. I have no problem with that but I told her there were 2 time periods that we unfortunately not doable. Evening pick up rush (5:15-5:45) and lunch time (11:30-12:15) are to hectic to deal with the kids being all over her when I need to get them change and ready or fed. My DCKs aren't really interested in what she's doing but they want to show her every toy or project in the house! ::
I also had to lay down the law with her (thanks to support here!) that she either showed up when I let her know DCG (2.5 months) would be hungry or DCG gets a bottle. She wanted to do it whenever she had time but never knew what time each day and it didn't always fit with the feeding schedule DCG was on that day. I can't spend all day trying to hold DCG off just to fit a feeding into DCM's schedule.
It's not her choice. YOUR house. YOUR rules.Comment
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I agree!!! When she brought up coming I gave her busy times that she had to work around and I also offered for her to use a different room if she wanted privacy or if she was only able to come during the "unavailable" times so that's when then shaming comment arose 
She's tried twice to ask about coming at noon but I stood firm, my DCKs don't nap well if they are hungry and I'm not messing everyone's schedule up for one parent.
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Good for yoy ! I would never tolerate this, don't have time for "special" I agree!!! When she brought up coming I gave her busy times that she had to work around and I also offered for her to use a different room if she wanted privacy or if she was only able to come during the "unavailable" times so that's when then shaming comment arose She's tried twice to ask about coming at noon but I stood firm, my DCKs don't nap well if they are hungry and I'm not messing everyone's schedule up for one parent.Comment
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Not all parents want to have to explain breastfeeding to their 4 year olds (if they don't have a younger child or didn't/don't breastfeed). Plus while in public, you can legally breastfeed where you please, covered or uncovered. BUT that does NOT apply to private property (whether it is a child care business or not). I would have explained that you believe 'nursing should be a time for you to relax bond with your baby'. If she pushed anymore I would said that any visitor during the day is disruptive to the other children so you try to minimize the amount of distractions to the group as possible.
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I really wouldnt be up for the disruption that coming and going causes and certainly not at pickup time. all my parents have lived within 10 minutes of the house, some less so its not that big of a deal for them to pack up baby and head home. It just doesnt work for me and the way my house is set up. It seems to work out fine for some of my moms to send pumped or frozen milk so I dont volunteer for them to come nurse here on lunch breaks and stuff. I wish I could but I have had several daycare provider friends all say that it never works out to offer that. I am glad no mom has insisted on it.Comment
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I'm not uncomfortable with breastfeeding, nor with other kids seeing it. I'm uncomfortable with the chaos that is created by a parent plopping down in the middle of the kids at the most stressful time of the day. I would welcome a mom stopping by at lunchtime and nursing (privately, because, again, the kids get crazy excited about visitors).Comment
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If I could manage it and it didn't disrupt the flow of our day, I'd be supportive about it.
Some times it has worked fantastically and other times it was a nightmare.
It really just depends on the current group of kids I have, the mom, the situation and the schedule.
It has NOTHING to do with supporting or not supporting breastfeeding.
...but has everything to do with whether or not I can manage my group, my schedule and my routine while accommodating the mother nursing.Comment
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