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I have had a 4 year old boy in my daycare for 8 months now. He used to be a happy playful kid. Come in running and wanting to play! The last 2 months have been very difficult, he is going through separation anxiety with his mom and doesn't want her to leave in the morning so she comes and cuddles with him on the rocker for a few minutes and leaves. All this started after the mom told me her and his dad are having problems. They have had DHS involved in the past for domestic violence. This morning has been really bad, he has been crying and throwing a fit which he never does after his mom is gone. The mother told me that her husband was yelling and screaming at her all night because he was drunk. I know the separation anxiety is due to the fighting but the mother doesn't believe that's the problem. I have talked to the child and he hasn't said anything worrisome about his home life. I'm not sure if what's going on is enough to report it to DHS. Thanks!
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Do you know if they still have a case open? If they do I would call and report that Dad is drinking and yelling and that you are seeing a diff in dcb. If there isn't a case open MY OPINION is that it won't be enough to warrant one.
I am in NY and have, on occasion, called and talked to someone about weather or not a case should be reported- they are a great resource and it eased my mind that I looked into it-
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The case has been closed. It was closed shortly before the issues started happening.
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Wake her up. Tell her you will *not* enable this harm to her child any longer. She either starts protecting him at home (by keeping the idiot out of the house when he's like that), or she needs to leave. If she does nothing you will be forced to terminate her contract as it's clear as day the psychological damage this bologna is doing to him.
Tell her YOU love him and will do what's necessary to get her to see that what she is currently allowing IS hurting him.....and far more than she knows. I'd probably push it a step further and ask if that's what she's hoping he grows up to be like because right now she is CONDONING the example his father is setting for him.
Children most frequently become what is modeled to them by their same sex parent.Comment
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Thank you
I will call them to see if it is enough to report him. I will also talk to the mother tonight. I really hope she leaves him. I love this boy and I don't want to see him go!Comment
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I hope everything works out. Please keep us updated!Comment
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Personally I would not term... You are a steady presence in his life- I would stay as close and updated with this family as I could so that when it was time I would be there!
That being said: I was an emergency foster parent to a 15 year old for 7 months because this is what I did. So it def can come with challenges -
This boy isn't in school- as long as it is ok for you (mentally and emotionally) stick with the little boy-Comment
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