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Back on the subject of the 14 year old special needs girl I agreed to watch. i don't care if her mom googles this and read it that's how done I am. This is the worst daycare experience I have had and not because of the child. i know it is quite a narrative, but it takes this much to tell the tale.
The girl showed up one Thursday to try it out. (I do school age care,so no big age difference) She was overly excited and very rough with the other kids without knowing and i had a few other issues with her that first day. I called the mom the next day since she was off work. I was going to discuss the things that happened. Her brother had picked her up the previous day. I didn't know if I would keep her, but if I could come up with a plan with mom I was also going to remind her that payment was due on Friday. She told me she was at the doctor and couldn't talk. She said we'd talk later and never called back. I was relieved and thought you know what... it's out of my hair. I don't have to worry about it anymore. She was a no-show the next week, so I thought that chapter of my life was over.
A week later I was in the shower and I heard the text go off on my phone. I'm not sure how she got my cell # as I have a home phone. She had tried to call. Then she sent a text that said something about a family emergency and she needs my help. The next text said, "You have a weird vocemail and it's not suitable for daycare." Excuse me its not even an inappropriate voicemail. It's a joke VM for my friends and How did sh eget the number anyway. The only reason she made the comment about it was because I didn't answer because I was in the shower at 9:00 on a Sunday evening! I was not avoiding her and was not obligated to answer a call that late either way.
I called her back and she gave me this looong story about how her brother was on life support and she didn't want to take the little girl to the hospital with her. Which I am learning now(or I feel) that this was a big lie to play on my sympathy, so that I would take her back. I wouldn't have done it had it not been for the sad story. the little girl comes back and the mom goes to work everyday, NOT the hospital. Every Friday she sends the brother for pickup and does not pay me. She avoids my phone calls and then texts on Sunday evening to say that she will send the money on the morning.
This Friday they did not attend. I texted Friday and said I'm in town shopping for my daughter's party. The money is due today meet me in town. I also reminded her that I have a 3 strike rule that hse signed. This would be her third late payment, and I would have to end our relationship if she could not comply. She texted back with I don't get paid until Friday evening and I work out of town. I'm going to send the money to the bday party on Saturday. i ****ed it up and said OK. She DID NOT come to the party, without even a call to say we cannot make it.
I assumed that she would be a no-show again and was happy once more to be done with it. Every weekend I have to live with the uncertainty of if she will be a no-show, when i will get paid, and how to schedule my assistant's hours. Business as usual. I paid my assistant, told her the hours and shopped for the week without taking this child's extensive grocery needs into mind. That's what drives me crazy. It's so random. I don't know how to prepare. Will she be here or not? My assistant stays later to help me with this child, so I am depending on her tuition to cover my fees for extra help. I am actually more watching her out of the goodness of my heart because I am putting out more than I put in.
Mom texts me last night and says she will be out on Monday and back Tuesday.. HELLOOOO! WE ARE DONE! I told you this on Friday. I gave you another chance and you stood me up on Saturday. Then you decide I will not get paid on Monday. You'll pay me Tuesday.What?
My response was this
via text)
"I can no longer keep ___________ . I have never had so much uncertainty about an arrangement. __________ is the sweetest little girl, and it saddens me to have to come to this decision. Thank you for being a part of our group , and i wish you the best of luck."
Mom texts me all into the night with sad texts about the dying family member that I only hear about when I cut off relations with her. It's a lie,and she's trying to play my sympathy again. The girl knows nothing about the dying member. This mom lies all the time to me, to her child for no reason. I have yet to respond.
I know this was long, but I feel so much better!!!!! THANKS!!!!!
The girl showed up one Thursday to try it out. (I do school age care,so no big age difference) She was overly excited and very rough with the other kids without knowing and i had a few other issues with her that first day. I called the mom the next day since she was off work. I was going to discuss the things that happened. Her brother had picked her up the previous day. I didn't know if I would keep her, but if I could come up with a plan with mom I was also going to remind her that payment was due on Friday. She told me she was at the doctor and couldn't talk. She said we'd talk later and never called back. I was relieved and thought you know what... it's out of my hair. I don't have to worry about it anymore. She was a no-show the next week, so I thought that chapter of my life was over.
A week later I was in the shower and I heard the text go off on my phone. I'm not sure how she got my cell # as I have a home phone. She had tried to call. Then she sent a text that said something about a family emergency and she needs my help. The next text said, "You have a weird vocemail and it's not suitable for daycare." Excuse me its not even an inappropriate voicemail. It's a joke VM for my friends and How did sh eget the number anyway. The only reason she made the comment about it was because I didn't answer because I was in the shower at 9:00 on a Sunday evening! I was not avoiding her and was not obligated to answer a call that late either way.
I called her back and she gave me this looong story about how her brother was on life support and she didn't want to take the little girl to the hospital with her. Which I am learning now(or I feel) that this was a big lie to play on my sympathy, so that I would take her back. I wouldn't have done it had it not been for the sad story. the little girl comes back and the mom goes to work everyday, NOT the hospital. Every Friday she sends the brother for pickup and does not pay me. She avoids my phone calls and then texts on Sunday evening to say that she will send the money on the morning.
This Friday they did not attend. I texted Friday and said I'm in town shopping for my daughter's party. The money is due today meet me in town. I also reminded her that I have a 3 strike rule that hse signed. This would be her third late payment, and I would have to end our relationship if she could not comply. She texted back with I don't get paid until Friday evening and I work out of town. I'm going to send the money to the bday party on Saturday. i ****ed it up and said OK. She DID NOT come to the party, without even a call to say we cannot make it.
I assumed that she would be a no-show again and was happy once more to be done with it. Every weekend I have to live with the uncertainty of if she will be a no-show, when i will get paid, and how to schedule my assistant's hours. Business as usual. I paid my assistant, told her the hours and shopped for the week without taking this child's extensive grocery needs into mind. That's what drives me crazy. It's so random. I don't know how to prepare. Will she be here or not? My assistant stays later to help me with this child, so I am depending on her tuition to cover my fees for extra help. I am actually more watching her out of the goodness of my heart because I am putting out more than I put in.
Mom texts me last night and says she will be out on Monday and back Tuesday.. HELLOOOO! WE ARE DONE! I told you this on Friday. I gave you another chance and you stood me up on Saturday. Then you decide I will not get paid on Monday. You'll pay me Tuesday.What?
My response was this
via text)"I can no longer keep ___________ . I have never had so much uncertainty about an arrangement. __________ is the sweetest little girl, and it saddens me to have to come to this decision. Thank you for being a part of our group , and i wish you the best of luck."
Mom texts me all into the night with sad texts about the dying family member that I only hear about when I cut off relations with her. It's a lie,and she's trying to play my sympathy again. The girl knows nothing about the dying member. This mom lies all the time to me, to her child for no reason. I have yet to respond.
I know this was long, but I feel so much better!!!!! THANKS!!!!!
's while reading that. 
I'm just happy to be able to stand up and get myself out of a miserable situation. I figure f they aren't being sympathetic to my needs when I bend over backwards why should I deal with it? She obviously was not very appreciative of my services.
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