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  • mrsnj
    New Daycare.com Member
    • Jan 2013
    • 465

    And...Divorce Mom Strikes Again

    Her daughter (We will call her A) comes on Monday with a 'canker sore' on her tonsil which is sore but otherwise good to go, she tells me at drop off. The next two days are daddy days. Wed A tells me she was throwing up Sunday night and had a fever too!! NOT what mom said. At that point she had been here two and half days but acting ok. Dad knows nothing about it. A is home yesterday cause her and another DCG (We will call her B) are going to the beach together but A's younger sister comes for the day and gets picked up by mom. B comes in this morning and tells me that the younger sister threw up in moms car on the way home!!! I am waiting for a call cause they arrive late everyday and was going to tell her younger child cannot come....

    Meanwhile.....
    I get a text from another DCP asking if I knew the sisters had hand foot and mouth!!!!?? Seems (insert not a nice word) DCM posted it on her FACEBOOK PAGE! A 'friend' of divorce mom forwards it to my mad DCP and all hell broke loose. You see....mad DCP is friends with three other families here!! I am now getting texting left and right from very upset parents!

    I text divorce mom (and dad) and tell her that it came to my attention that that girls are contagious and cannot return without a dr note and the younger one cannot return until Monday. SHE texts me to complain that I sent a group text and included her husband. No I am sorry I was caught. No sorry I exposed the kids. I send her the facebook message I received and told her she REALLY needs to be aware of what she is doing and posting that your children are contagious and you brought them to DC is not ok!!!!!!!!!!! That i have some very upset parents. She claims she didn't know. She took A to the dr Monday before coming (which I didn't know) and they didn't tell her she was contagious. Really? Cause she goes to MY peds and they would have told her AND told her not to bring the girls! IF she took A I guarantee there was a dr note.

    Just sent B home cause she has it. And it seems half the kids who attended that party last Sat (that I complained about in last Fridays VBS post) are now sick. But 'she didn't know'. But she knew enough to post it on FB! She knew half the party kids were sick and dropping like flies. She knew A had more than a canker sore in her mouth. She knew A threw up and A had a fever. God knows if she knew about younger sister! She knew her sick girls were going to Dads who lives with his girlfriend and her kids and didn't tell them! What I know if that SHE KNEW and I didn't!

    Now I have three DC kids sick. Three other families who are pissed off. And a virus going through that I had no clue about.

    Can I simply tell you how MAD I AM????????
  • LaLa1923
    mommyof5-and going crazy
    • Oct 2012
    • 1103

    #2


    This entire thing is ridiculous. I think you need to sit down with dad, and mom and have a talk.

    However, I probably would have termed them immediately.

    I am so sorry you're going through this!!

    TGIF!!!!!! :hug::hug::hug:

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    • daycare
      Advanced Daycare.com *********
      • Feb 2011
      • 16259

      #3
      If this were me, I would be terming this family today....walking papers now. I would then let all of your families know that you did.....

      If you keep this family, the other families may see it that you really don't care that the other children got sick and that it's about money..

      WHO DOES THIS? OMG I feel for you right now. I would be STEAMING MAD.....

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      • Familycare71
        Daycare.com Member
        • Apr 2011
        • 1716

        #4
        WOW- that is one hot mess!!! All because one mom didnt keep her kids home! Grrrrr I'm mad for u!!!

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        • NeedaVaca
          Daycare.com Member
          • Mar 2012
          • 2276

          #5
          Originally posted by daycare
          If this were me, I would be terming this family today....walking papers now. I would then let all of your families know that you did.....

          If you keep this family, the other families may see it that you really don't care that the other children got sick and that it's about money..

          WHO DOES THIS? OMG I feel for you right now. I would be STEAMING MAD.....
          100% There is just no way I would continue to deal with this family. Your other DCP's will probably have a lot of respect for you if you term (and the added bonus for you, they will know you don't mess around with this kind of BS).

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          • Sugar Magnolia
            Blossoms Blooming
            • Apr 2011
            • 2647

            #6
            Next! To this mom.......

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            • MarinaVanessa
              Family Childcare Home
              • Jan 2010
              • 7211

              #7
              Wow, so sorry you are going through this. On top of what you are going through now you'll probably not going to like that HFM is extremely contagious and you will have to disinfect everything. And yes I mean everything. Surfaces, rugs, carpets, furniture, toys, blankets etc. You were in contact with the sick children which means that you more than likely touched just about everything in your home. HFM won't effect you but if the HFM was on you and you went to bed without showering, touched doorknobs etc you could potentially keep spreading it around your home and back to the kids .

              HFM is not that bad to get if you're a child unless the child gets a severe case in which the child is extremely uncomfortable and usually won't eat or drink much which is great but it's still super easy to keep spreading.

              As far as DCM goes ... well, that's up to you. Have you spoken to them both and made the policies clear yet (DCM & DCD)? If you have then it doesn't seem like DCM is taking you seriously and now it is affecting your business. You could possibly loose clients due to her actions. If you havn't talked to them yet then you really need to ASAP. As in yesterday.

              Good luck with the HFM control :hug:lovethis

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              • butterfly
                Daycare.com Member
                • Nov 2012
                • 1627

                #8
                Originally posted by daycare
                If this were me, I would be terming this family today....walking papers now. I would then let all of your families know that you did.....

                If you keep this family, the other families may see it that you really don't care that the other children got sick and that it's about money..

                WHO DOES THIS? OMG I feel for you right now. I would be STEAMING MAD.....

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                • EntropyControlSpecialist
                  Embracing the chaos.
                  • Mar 2012
                  • 7466

                  #9
                  Originally posted by LaLa1923


                  This entire thing is ridiculous. I think you need to sit down with dad, and mom and have a talk.

                  However, I probably would have termed them immediately.

                  I am so sorry you're going through this!!

                  TGIF!!!!!! :hug::hug::hug:
                  ABSOLUTELY!

                  I just termed a family that had sick children all the time and a Mom who just couldn't follow the rules regarding sickness. It was a dramatic end but I am so glad I don't have to worry about it anymore. Parents like that will NEVER change. I repeat: never.

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                  • Patches
                    Daycare.com Member
                    • Dec 2012
                    • 1154

                    #10
                    Originally posted by daycare
                    If this were me, I would be terming this family today....walking papers now. I would then let all of your families know that you did.....

                    If you keep this family, the other families may see it that you really don't care that the other children got sick and that it's about money..

                    WHO DOES THIS? OMG I feel for you right now. I would be STEAMING MAD.....
                    I completely agree! This is outrageous!

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                    • Heidi
                      Daycare.com Member
                      • Sep 2011
                      • 7121

                      #11
                      Originally posted by NeedaVaca
                      100% There is just no way I would continue to deal with this family. Your other DCP's will probably have a lot of respect for you if you term (and the added bonus for you, they will know you don't mess around with this kind of BS).


                      I think you need to hit her fast and hard, and I think you need to make an example out of her. I'm not usually quite so harsh, either, but this is a no brainer for me.

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                      • countrymom
                        Daycare.com Member
                        • Aug 2010
                        • 4874

                        #12
                        don't you just love facebook. I'm not even sure what I would do because I would be so mad it take me a day to cool off.

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                        • Unregistered

                          #13
                          I think you risk loosing your other families if you choose to keep this family on.

                          By letting them go you loose the stress the mom is stirring up, you show your other families that you wish to protect the health of the children as much as possible, and by terminating for not following your illness policy you will have all the other parents thinking twice before sending an ill child.

                          Which families do you value more and wish to keep?

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                          • Familycare71
                            Daycare.com Member
                            • Apr 2011
                            • 1716

                            #14
                            Originally posted by MarinaVanessa
                            Wow, so sorry you are going through this. On top of what you are going through now you'll probably not going to like that HFM is extremely contagious and you will have to disinfect everything. And yes I mean everything. Surfaces, rugs, carpets, furniture, toys, blankets etc. You were in contact with the sick children which means that you more than likely touched just about everything in your home. HFM won't effect you but if the HFM was on you and you went to bed without showering, touched doorknobs etc you could potentially keep spreading it around your home and back to the kids .

                            HFM is not that bad to get if you're a child unless the child gets a severe case in which the child is extremely uncomfortable and usually won't eat or drink much which is great but it's still super easy to keep spreading.

                            As far as DCM goes ... well, that's up to you. Have you spoken to them both and made the policies clear yet (DCM & DCD)? If you have then it doesn't seem like DCM is taking you seriously and now it is affecting your business. You could possibly loose clients due to her actions. If you havn't talked to them yet then you really need to ASAP. As in yesterday.

                            Good luck with the HFM control :hug:lovethis
                            I have never treated hfm differently than any other virus and it has t stayed and cycled... I've never heard that before...
                            They also have new protocol regarding it and daycare inclusion. If they no longer have a fever they are allowed back - unless they can't participate in normal activities... I personally don't let them come if their blisters are oozing unless they are easily covered.

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                            • e.j.
                              Daycare.com Member
                              • Dec 2010
                              • 3738

                              #15
                              Originally posted by Unregistered
                              I think you risk loosing your other families if you choose to keep this family on.

                              By letting them go you loose the stress the mom is stirring up, you show your other families that you wish to protect the health of the children as much as possible, and by terminating for not following your illness policy you will have all the other parents thinking twice before sending an ill child.

                              Which families do you value more and wish to keep?
                              Generally, I don't allow dc parents to tell me how to run my business but given the anger your other parents are expressing over this and the fact that their kids have been impacted by this mother's thoughtlessness, I would term her immediately. I'd hate to see you lose familes who respect you and your policies because you chose to keep working with this woman when she seems to be giving you nothing but grief.

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