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What do you do when a kid comes in and cries for mom. Sometimes I feel like I might be a little "unfeeling", so I wanted your take on it! I do comfort and reassure that mommy is going to pick up later and then maybe tell him/her what we are doing today. This morning 3yo dcg cried and cried for her mom. I took her to a spot where she could "feel better" and gave her a toy. I told her that she can get up and play when she feels better. It just felt so "time-out-ish"....and I don't want it to be time out. Finally another kid came in and she got to playing with her. In the past I've had parents come in and try to comfort a crying child which usually makes it worse. My parents all know each other because they work either at the school or the local hospital together. They talk amongst each other....so I am always uncomfortable that it will be reported to the crying child's mom that her daughter/son was crying. I am always honest about this...I always tell the parents if they had a rough morning. I am not very much of a coddler.....so this is why I'm asking what you do????
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I do pretty much the same...
It really depends on how sincere it is kmim? Sometimes the kid really is sad- and so I offer comfort. Sometimes they start sad and then it just continues ... When that happens I cuddle until it changes and then say: ok- it's time to play you know mommy will be back and we will have a fun day until then. If they still are fake fitting then I do say- maybe u need some alone time to calm down- here is a book when your settled come join us
. And the. There are the kids that do it for attention- they get a quick hug and a reminder that they are safe and need to get it together... If they don't stop on their own they are offered alone time-
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I am unfeeling then as well. I will give them a hug and short snuggle, reassure that Mom/Dad is coming after (nap/snack/other kids Mom) and then tell them about our day. If they aren't done crying at that point, I say "Why don't you go to the cozy corner and take a rest until you're ready to play."Comment
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I pretty much do the same. Another trick I learned from a preschool my own child went to was the teacher would ask them if they wanted to draw a picture or dictate a note for their mom. I have used that as I think it is a good idea.
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Thank you!
It's awkward when a mom comes in and a child is crying. I am trying to not give that child
TOO MUCH attention because it just feeds the problem. So, the mom goes over and talks in a childlike and ultra-worried voice....."what's wrong honeyyyy??" You know what I mean? Then I feel like a heel when I say, "She'll be alright".....which then gets reported to this child's mom. The parents don't see this day after day. They don't see that feeding the problem with TOO MUCH attention exasperates the situation and causes a daily problem. They don't understand we are trying to give the kids tools to handle these situations. We don't want to send "that kid" off to school.....you know, as the kid in kindergarten crying every day for mama.Comment
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