How Do You Keep Up?

[laundryduchess@yahoo.com]

I think your husband should thank his lucky stars that he has YOU. If my husband said that to me I think I'd have to inform him that when he lives at work and stays there 24/7 he can use that excuse but until then he will respect me,.. the things I do for my family, and the way I raise our children. And continue to assist me in this journey. I must say that I would not be the woman I am today without my DH. He does appreciate everything I do, He supports me 100 % in every way. This whole journey to be accredited has taken alot of family resources, both time, and money. Its taken me away alot for classes and training. But the growing self esteem and professional pride has been worth it for all of us. My son who is away at college called me last week to tell me that he heard a conversation at a conference talking about a lady in our home county (he is in another) who was doing certain things, so he listened closer. He realized they were talking about HIS MOMMA!!!! He was so proud. I think ours is a unique profession that is very difficult to seperate home from work. I hope your dh realizes how amazing you are. =-) Im not nearly as patient or giving. .

My husband says that the home is my job, and at his job he has to do cleaning.

I can get him to help sometimes, but not as much as I need him too. Drives me insane because he has 3 full days off and does nothing. I get 2 and I still have to take care of my 2 children. And my 7 yr old, I have a hard time even getting her to keep up with her room, never mind anything else.

I am tired of the fights, and I am tired of being overwhelmed.

[PAMommy1228]

same argument here. He says "I don't ask you to come and clean my desk at work"
<insert eye rolling here>

So I make him do even more of the NON daycare related stuff. Now he does all of the bath times for our kids. He handles my son's home work and getting him ready for school the next day - I even started making him do the grocery shopping.

If he can't assist with anything daycare related - and I can't assist with anything related to his job well then every single thing that has NOTHING to do with our jobs will be split 50/50

and the best part? I refuse.. flat out REFUSE to do any housework that isn't direcly related to my daycare kids during MY work day. whey he mentioned once that I should be able to get laundry done during the day I simply said "I don't ask you to do your laundry during your work day do I?"

Our latest argument is in the mornings. I have to pick up and get all the kids out the door WHILE getting ready for dck. He wakes up, showers and walks out the door. I told him from now on he is going to get his own kids up and ready for the day and get out the door - or we'll atleast split it 50/50 but there is NO reason that I have to handle all of it in the mornings .

UGH sounds like my house. He gets up and goes to work while I am getting the dck kids in the door, and trying to get my daughter out the door for school. And weekends, somehow magically I got to wake at the break of dawn to take care of our children while he sleeps in. I wish I had such luxuries.

[PAMommy1228]

UUUUUUUUUGHHHH!!!!! And when do YOU get a day off????

That's my argument to my hubby. Although truth be told, he's fantastic about helping me clean and never expects me to do it all. Actually, every Sunday night he's down in the playroom helping me sanitize my toys <3

The arguments come on his Wednesdays off when he wants to veg out, watch TV and do nothing, and our daughter wants his attention. "It's my day off, I just want to relax" he says. :: Yeah right, bud. Get your butt in the car and take her grocery shopping!

Apparently I do not. I have my 2 kids to take care of. He gets 1 weekend day off a week, but I am still mostly responsible for everything. Like this weekend, he goes at about 5 pm, "what are you making the kids for dinner?"

I laughed and said "Your a chef, get up and figure it out"

[PAMommy1228]

I think your husband should thank his lucky stars that he has YOU. If my husband said that to me I think I'd have to inform him that when he lives at work and stays there 24/7 he can use that excuse but until then he will respect me,.. the things I do for my family, and the way I raise our children. And continue to assist me in this journey. I must say that I would not be the woman I am today without my DH. He does appreciate everything I do, He supports me 100 % in every way. This whole journey to be accredited has taken alot of family resources, both time, and money. Its taken me away alot for classes and training. But the growing self esteem and professional pride has been worth it for all of us. My son who is away at college called me last week to tell me that he heard a conversation at a conference talking about a lady in our home county (he is in another) who was doing certain things, so he listened closer. He realized they were talking about HIS MOMMA!!!! He was so proud. I think ours is a unique profession that is very difficult to seperate home from work. I hope your dh realizes how amazing you are. =-) Im not nearly as patient or giving. .

He better thank his lucky stars

I am not a clean freak by nature, I am just embarrassed when my parents come over and my floors look like they have not been washed for weeks.

He does help out if I nag enough, but it takes so much energy to nag, and then we are just at each other's throats and it just doesn't make for a lovely day, so I **** it up.

[SunflowerMama]

I have the world's greatest new mop EVER and I very quickly mop over the floor using just scalding hot water. It does the trick. My floors pass the white sock test after that.

What kind of mop do you have? I hate mine and I have all wood floors so a new mop that I could sweep over the floors in the morning would be awesome!

[laundryduchess@yahoo.com]

What mop??? You cant post like this and leave us hanging!!!!

What kind of mop do you have? I hate mine and I have all wood floors so a new mop that I could sweep over the floors in the morning would be awesome!

[DancingQueen]

here is a link to the mop click here

I actually got ****ered at one of those in person infomercials at the local big fair. I have been struggling with clean floors for a while. i have every swiffer, wet mop, dry mop, old nasty sponge mop.. you name it - I've got it and none of them make my floor feel clean.

I bought the mop with 2 pads, 2 microfiber dust pads and it also came with 2 of the multi purpose cloths.

I love the fact that these pads just velcor onto the bottom of the mop. And the velcro has no chance of coming loose anytime soon it is STRONG. When I finish a room I pull off the pad - run it under hot water, ring it out and do the next room. I have been able to thoroughly clean my floors with just the hot water - but I just started using the vinegar/water solution. When I'm done I just ring them out with hot water and put them on the porch to dry and use again. AFter a couple of days they start to get a little icky so I toss them in the washing machine (they said make sure you use no fabric softener) and they are as good as new.

The cloths that came with them I figured were no better than any other micro fiber cloth. But I was wrong. The thing cleans like my magic eraser!!! I'm not kidding. I LOVE the system and would recomend it to anyone. it was expensive but worth every penny. and the fact that I don't have to replace mop heads, or buy refillable bottles of cleaner or buy pads for them.. makes it worth it.

[DancingQueen]

oh and the part of the mop that the pad adhears to has little round circles. two on each side of the pole.
those are for things that don't want to come off your floor. You put your foot on it and push hard back and forth with your foot while you are sliding themop bak and forth. When I saw him doing that live I thought "that is just stupid" but seriously? It works..LOL

[DWTC]

I only have infants so it is easier because i dont have the messes with toys and stuff. Generally though I can do some things while they nap, or if they are watching Elmo, I can fold a quick load of laundry. I do work on cleaning in the am too and at night when they leave, like vaccum for the next day. I am OCD so my house is in pretty clean & organizied shape to begin with, and that REALLY helps!

I get up early before daycare starts about two hours before and clean I'm a bit OCD. I clean all four bathrooms vaccumm throw a load of laundry in and mop the floors make my kids lunches then sit for a few minutes to relax before the day starts. It does help that most of my daycare is kept in the basement so I make sure before nap we clean up and after nap its done and we head outside. It is never ending

You both must mean anally retentive?

[melskids]

i'm CDO. its like OCD, except the letters are in alphabetical order like they're supposed to be

[DWTC]

i'm CDO. its like OCD, except the letters are in alphabetical order like they're supposed to be

LOL!! Nice!

[JJPlaycare]

I wish I had some CDO! LOL That is hillarious, thanks for the chuckle! ::

[Lucy]

i'm CDO. its like OCD, except the letters are in alphabetical order like they're supposed to be

Ok, that one made me laugh!! Thanks. ::

[legomom922]

You both must mean anally retentive?

YUP!!::