Facebook Faux Pas.

[My3cents]

I have this DC family that have been with me for about 2.5 yrs.

I have gotten up at 5:30 for them to arrive at 6am for free. I open at 7:30am.

I have driven the 2 kids to and from pre school every Tuesday and Thursday for free.

I charge $550.00 per month, per child to be there 2-3 days a week.

She used to pay me $30 per child, per day. They are here usually 2 sometimes 3 days a week. Now she pays $15 for one, B/A and $35 for the other.

She said that they have to budget and save money so they think its fair to only pay a half day for her oldest, cause he is now B/A.

They go on 4 vacations a year, Pay thousands for the boy to play hockey, hundreds on the girl for soccer, dance, swimming.

If the kids don't come in the morning or at all, They take that pay off my next months check.

So long story short, they were supposed to come here early this morning, and never showed up. I texted her and said , so I guess the kids wont be early today?

She's like OMG, I forgot to hit send last night. Sorry. BTW hubby is home with girl today, she is puking. But the son will be over to play soon.

DCD texts me and said I sent DCB over on his bike he should be right there.

It is July 2 and they still haven't paid me.

I ranted over facebook about this, but had her blocked so she couldn't see it. Some how she did. So she lost it. I don't blame her. I know it wasn't professional, but she has never, ever seen anything else I have ever posted. I apologized to her profusely.

Anyway, I told her I was feeling used, undervalued, and unappreciated, Im on the verge of closing down cause I cant live on $300.00 a month or less from them. She apologized and said next time just talk to me. I have, I have even changed my contract in the hopes that they would abide. They haven't.

She thinks coffee and thank yous are enough.

I know I have let them do this to me, but I have had enough. Im broke and frustrated.

So after all this, She still didn't come by to pay me today. Dad said send DCB home on his bike.

Is it true that most of these parents really don't care about how we feel? I just thought that they would have a little more respect than that.

No way, you come in and get your child. This is in my policy book- I don't care how old the kid is or if he rode in on his motorcycle, which he better not have because the parent had better bring that kid in and acknowledge me in the morning

[Margarete]

Someone I know was able to see 'private' facebook information from one of their devices (a bug, that I think has been fixed now), but not their computer. She used it to get pictures of the bio-mom of the kids she adopted, along with some of their infant and sibling pictures, so she could give them to her kids when they are older. I always assume that anything I post is pretty much 'public', but filter it mostly when I know some people would be more interested, or not interested in something I post.

[Blackcat31]

I truly and fully believe that NOTHING on the internet is 100% private or inaccessible to others....ever.

[AmyKidsCo]

I truly and fully believe that NOTHING on the internet is 100% private or inaccessible to others....ever.

Very true. There are ways to get around pretty much any privacy setting, if you know how. If you don't want it read, don't write it.

Back to the OP, I don't think parents don't care, but when push comes to shove they're going to do what's best for them.

You need to look at the Three Choices of Life:
1. I'm happy. The parent can do whatever they want.
2. I'm not happy. The parent has to do _____________ to make me happy or they're out.
3. I quit. I'm not happy but not willing to make the parent do _____________ to make me happy.

(My favorite choice, "Whine about it but don't do anything else" isn't an option. )

Tom Copeland writes about it in his blog:

http://www.tomcopelandblog.com/2011/12/the-three-choices-of-life.html

[MISSN]

I used to fear losing clients all the time. The "What if they leave and I don't get paid?", the "What if they badmouth me because I charged them a LF" etc...etc....the list went on.

Then after I got screwed out of over $600 from one woman (LONG story but she lied about something HUGE and I believed her so being someone who wants to save everyone, I gave her a break and told her to pay later).

3 weeks later, she's still going "through" this big thing and said she didn't have the money for her 3 kids. I realized at that point, I HAD to tell her, Sorry, Rue Ann (I don't mind posting her REAL name because she is scamming lots of people all the time!), I can't do it anymore. Come to find out, she had every intention to defraud me along with others.

I did THREE weeks of work for FREE.

That was when I realized I should have NOT made her situation my problem, and simply told her "I'm sorry xxxxx happened to you, but I really cannot keep the kids without payment" I might have even did daily pay in the AM had I thought about it, so at least the days she didn't bring payment, I could refuse the kids. But nope, foolishly, I believed her whole story because it was SO bad how could it NOT be true?!

I would rather do NO work and have time with my family and an opportunity for a break, dr appts, running errands, taking a class, anything than to work for free. No matter HOW ood her kids were, they weren't easy and I deserved to be paid for the time I put in with them.

Also, I will not allow my dck's to ride a bike to daycare. What if something happens? I'd never know til it's too late. Sorry, dad, sign your kid in or find a way to get them here with another signor, but do not expect me to just sit and worry about where your child is.

Last, I would not sweat it too much that she saw the FB post. Tell her that you planned on telling her to her face anyway, but that you are frustrated that people walk all over you and this was the last straw and so you vented. Assuming you didn't name names, she obviously realized SHE is the "bad dcparent" and perhaps was embarrassed. That said, she didn't make it right yet, and that's just proof that you weren't wrong with what you said. Now, I wouldn't post about your dc on FB ever again, only because you never know who is reading and to maintain professionalism, it's just best to keep business out of personal.