I Don’t Like You Or Your House, I Don't Want To Come Here Anymore

[Unregistered]

do you think that it has anything to do with the fact that we are now on summer break and our activities are way more fun than normal. DCK is seeing that everyone is having fun, but her. I think that it she is finally understanding that when she makes a bad decision, there will be a consequence.

I wonder too if she is doing it because at home there is not consistency and therefore is continuing to do this hoping for a different result but instead is getting the same result every time.

I am bothered by this and I am some what worried that DCP will pull........

[Willow]

If you do more that can definitely be stressful and overwhelming, even if the things you are doing are fun.

A LOT of kids push boundaries if they get overwhelmed.

[jenn]

I think it's a game. A game I don't have time to play-with the child or the adult.

I have dealt with this in daycare and when I taught kindergarten.

My response to a kid saying they don't like it here or don't want to come..."I'm sorry you feel that way". I don't try to reason it out or put any more energy into it. I think sometimes at this age they are really looking for a response and when they don't get one, they move on.

My response to parents that are concerned about their child's happiness in coming and while being here is "He/she seems to have fun during the day, except when behavior corrections occur. If you think he/she would be happier somewhere else, remember I need 2 weeks notice." I don't say it rudely, just matter of fact.

I know it can be a concern to lose and child and then have to find a replacement, but sometimes it just has to happen. Don't take it personally.

[WImom]

Here is an article. I just happened to read it this morning since I have a child that does the same as yours. http://extension.missouri.edu/p/GH6119
I thought it had good info.

[Unregistered]

So I did what willow suggested and talked with mom. Mom informed me that this has been going on for sometime. DCG is coming home crying or as soon as they have to get in the car she starts crying that she does not want to come here anymore.

I fell really really sad that the child is doing this....DCP requested a meeting with me and I just don't even know what to say now....

[Play Care]

So I did what willow suggested and talked with mom. Mom informed me that this has been going on for sometime. DCG is coming home crying or as soon as they have to get in the car she starts crying that she does not want to come here anymore.

I fell really really sad that the child is doing this....DCP requested a meeting with me and I just don't even know what to say now....

I think you've already gotten some great advice on what to say to mom. But honestly it sounds as if this child is no longer a good fit for your care. "Dc mom, I have loved caring for Sally, but it seems as though she has been unhappy, perhaps she would thrive in another environment."

[jenn]

I would write up a "Parting Ways" letter to give to them first thing tomorrow. No meeting necessary.

Dear DCP,
I enjoy caring for your daughter. However, due to the fact that your child is so unhappy here and no longer enjoys the care I provide, I respectfully step down from being her care provider. I can give you 2 weeks to find alternative care, if needed. I hope you can find a new environment that she will thrive in, as we all want what is best for her.
Sincerely,


In my experience, once this power struggle starts between you/parent/child, it is a no win situation. You cannot bend over backward to make this child happy at all times. You do not want to worry each day what she says when she leaves. If the girl continues to complain, the parents will eventually terminate anyway.