Those With A Behavioral Intervention Plan, Would You Mind Sharing Or Giving Insight?

[daycarediva]

I have a biter.

He is a little quirky, definitely has sensory issues kinda kid. He twirls hair, rubs certain fabric, really dislikes certain textures, that kind of thing. 2.5, no developmental issues.

He has been here since Jan, and I have very few issues, up until last week. He bit another child, I was able to stop it almost instantly. No marks, but I did send home an incident report with biter and bitees family. Fast forward to Monday, and he is biting 2-3x/day! I have been able to stop them all so far.

He is now my shadow. Everywhere I go, he goes. He pretty much hates me at this point.

Today a child was standing in front of him in line to use the potty. The child was just standing there talking to the kid in front of him, and dcb leaned in to bite his neck! I asked dcb why he did it and he said "I don't know, I naughty boy!" and started to cry!

He isn't teething.

Mom and Dad are getting divorced and Dad moved out the weekend before last.

I don't think either of them are taking it as seriously as I am. He is capable of understanding it's wrong, and capable of using his words, so I find it unacceptable. Over the weekend, he bit a friends child, and drew blood. The child had to be seen by a pediatrician and is on antibiotics! Dcm LAUGHED about it and said "Well, she was being a little stinker and he told her to stop pushing his car." I think she got from the look on my face that I was horrified. Who justifies that?

I just called and spoke with the dcm. She has agreed to do a behavioral intervention plan, and I want to include something about if it doesn't improve, become manageable, blah blah blah, I can term at will. Anyone have a good form I can use?

[Heidi]

I don't think this is quite what you're asking for, but I can't help you there since I don't use them.

There might be some helpful tools here for recording the behavior and finding strategies, though:

http://csefel.vanderbilt.edu/resources/strategies.html

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

I would be more than happy to e-mail you the Behavior Intervention Plan that I have issued in the past. PM me your e-mail address. After the behavior intervention plan comes suspension (for 3 more incidents, or however many more you are willing to accept). After suspension, they are termed the next time that behavior crops up.

[Blackcat31]

More threads on biting https://www.daycare.com/forum/tags.php?tag=biting

Here is a fantastic site about biting in early childhood http://ecap.crc.illinois.edu/poptopics/biting.html

[JoseyJo]

I would be more than happy to e-mail you the Behavior Intervention Plan that I have issued in the past. PM me your e-mail address. After the behavior intervention plan comes suspension (for 3 more incidents, or however many more you are willing to accept). After suspension, they are termed the next time that behavior crops up.

Can you email me this plan please? Thanks so much!!

[NeedaVaca]

If it's a sensory issue they might consider getting him a chewy tube. There are several different types but they fasten to his clothes and he can bite that instead. You can google it to see more about it. When he feels that need to bite he gets directed to his chewy tube.

[JoseyJo]

Not a sensory issue for me- The problem I am having is an almost 5 yo dcb who has been with us for 3.5 years touching other children inappropriately (maybe better wording for that, I will explain).

These are the things he does:
-Squeezing other children's (and adults) arms repeatedly (not hard, but in a squeezing shaking manner that is unsettling when he does it to you)

-Pressing his full body against them and "vibrating"(maybe not the right word but doing a tremor/shake/wiggle thing with his whole body up against theirs)

-Putting his hand on their arm or leg and rubbing it repeatedly

-Putting his face in their face or on their body and rubbing it on them

-Grabbing both their ears with his hands and jerking on them lightly but repeatedly

-Other behaviors of this same ilk where he is getting into their personal space and touching them in manners they don't like- but not hurting them

We have always had issues with him doing these things. He is VERY high energy, cannot sit still, can run our very large fenceline for 30 minutes without getting tired. He is very large for his age, stocky and very strong. He is going to kindergarten next year. We have done everything we can think of to get him to stop. Talking to him many different ways, having his friends tell him to stop and why when he does it, redirecting to another activity, giving him things to do to keep him busy, TO, everything imaginable we have tried. He also does these things to his mother and grandmother and they tell him to stop, but in a whiney voice and then let him continue to do it. He even puts his hands down his mother's shirt into her bra on a regular basis and she tells him to stop, he doesn't and she just whines "Stooopppp" and lets him continue. They do not discipline him on ANYTHING and usually reward him for bad behavior, for example yesterday he was being very naughty when they were out shopping so they hurried up their shopping and took him to buy a lot of very expensive toys and to the arcade so he would behave.

We have had numerous problems with this child and dcm- she refuses to follow any rule she doesn't want to follow (such as short d/o p/u, call before you arrive, no toys at school, don't arrive in the middle of breakfast) and for whatever reason he thinks he doesn't need to listen to us, in our daycare, if his mom disagrees with what we are doing (which would be to give him any boundaries or consequences).

The thing I am most worried about is that one of our other dc parents will see him doing one of those behaviors to their child and become very upset and pull their child- to me it is a disturbing thing to see, even though it doesn't hurt them. I am especially worried about it when he does it to a younger/smaller/or female child as it "looks" much worse in my eyes as he is the size of a 1st grader.

I want to do a behavior plan explaining the problem, what we plan to do here from now on (which is going to be immediate TO as soon as he touches someone inappropriately, then after 3 TO for that in a day he needs to be picked up), also saying they need to not allow it at home either. And if the behavior is not drastically improved in X number of weeks she will need to find a different daycare.