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I have a mom who comes in for 20 minutes in the morning and plays with all the kids that are already here. She also stays for 20 minutes at pickup and plays with the kids. It is awkward.....she picks them up, gives them hugs and kisses. I know if I was a parent here I wouldn't want another parent kissing or hugging my baby! She is very nice and I'm sure she means well, but what can I do!? DCB is 4 years old, and is sitting there saying "bye mom" in mornings and "mom can we go home now" in the evenings. This occurs five days a week! ANY suggestions are welcome!
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I am not good at how to tell people things.
But I would tell dcm that it is disruptive to your program and that you need to carry on with your day. Let her know that you need her to drop and go just like the rest of the parents. I would also be telling the parent that becuase they don't have the licensing clearances, fingerprints, neg TB, CPR first aid and etc, they cannot participate with the children.
I would also maybe say something as soon as they got there. Welcome johnny, give mommy a big hug and kiss and tell her good-bye
I would say the same thing at pick up -
Tell her your insurance wouldn't allow her picking up others' kids..or that the other parents would not like it. I had a client want to pick up a baby girl I care for, asked if her parents would mind though. I said it was nnot a good idea. :
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Tell her if she's going to be hanging around so much and dealing with the kids she needs to be fingerprinted and background checked, CPR & First Aid certified, and have the requisite amount of annual training - oh, and you'll need several current and former references so that you can be sure she's qualified.
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You actually could do that. Say the state came for an inspection and it came up. Or maybe that they called.Tell her if she's going to be hanging around so much and dealing with the kids she needs to be fingerprinted and background checked, CPR & First Aid certified, and have the requisite amount of annual training - oh, and you'll need several current and former references so that you can be sure she's qualified.
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I'd just tell her the truth.
"Mary, I know you like to hang out and play with the kids, but I am at work. This is not just my home, it is my job. Your being here so long every morning and every evening is causing too much extra work for me. Our schedule is full, the time you take up causes me to have to postpone morning activities and that infringes snack and so on.
I don't want to upset you but I can't do my job and host you everyday. I need you to limit your time here to no more than two minutes, like everyone else starting today."
* Be prepared for her to threaten to leave. Do not back down. Don't feel you have done something wrong if she does. Some adults cannot accept NO and will act out badly. If she does, know it is a reflection of HER and not you.- Unless otherwise stated, all my posts are personal opinion and worth what you paid for them.
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Good idea!Tell her if she's going to be hanging around so much and dealing with the kids she needs to be fingerprinted and background checked, CPR & First Aid certified, and have the requisite amount of annual training - oh, and you'll need several current and former references so that you can be sure she's qualified.
I'm kidding. Well, kind of.
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