My definition of "having" something is it being physically in your possession OR your attention being clearly on it.
My kids lately having been screaming "But I had it first!!"..."had it" meaning wanting it, looking at it, thinking about it, walking towards it, having it ten minutes ago...rarely actually having it.
The only remedy I give is for them to ask the other person to use it when they're done. If the items where actually wrenched out of the child's hands (rare) then I have them give it back.
Just wondering what you guys do.
My kids lately having been screaming "But I had it first!!"..."had it" meaning wanting it, looking at it, thinking about it, walking towards it, having it ten minutes ago...rarely actually having it.

The only remedy I give is for them to ask the other person to use it when they're done. If the items where actually wrenched out of the child's hands (rare) then I have them give it back.
Just wondering what you guys do.
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