Help! First Time-er At Terming

[preschoolteacher]

Wow.

Yes, I would terminate!!!

[daycarediva]

I wanted to add so everyone knows a little about the parenting style of dcb's parents...yesterday at pickup time my neighbor had stopped by for all of a minute (we were outside playing) and my neighbor's son had his little powered car with him. Dcb wanted to play with it but I told him that wasn't ours to play with and his dad was literally pulling onto our street anyway.

Well dcd got out of car and immediately dcb has a meltdown and screams/cries/punches his dad/kicks his dad "where it counts" (which he does almost daily and dcd says nothing) and says that I am unfair because I wouldn't let him ride the car. (all the while my neighbor's son was on it...not like it was just sitting there either). dcd ends up carrying child to car and has to force him into his seat to buckle. dad says child actually has a larger version at home and was surprised that he was upset over it.

ok, so this morning dcb comes and dcd says "tell miss melissa what you got last night". dcb says "I got a lightning mcqueen power wheel like "neighbor boys". Dad says dcb cried for over an hour last night about not having THAT SAME TOY so they went out and bought it for him. OH WOW. I swear to you my jaw dropped. This boy is soooo manipulative! So he already had a power wheel but since it wasn't the SAME one he NEEDED another?

So after having the worst day at daycare dcb gets rewarded for screaming over a power wheel by getting a brand new $200 toy? Makes sense, right?



Must be why my little incentive chart doesn't work. LOL.

Oh god TERM.

I would tell them EXACTLY why.

There is a new trend of 'non-parenting' that DRIVES ME CRAZY these days!

[MonkeyingAround]

Thanks everyone!

I just wrote up a term letter and dated it for Friday. I am giving them a 2 week notice. I just hope they wake up and start taking action with this little guy.

[TheGoodLife]

Thanks everyone!

I just wrote up a term letter and dated it for Friday. I am giving them a 2 week notice. I just hope they wake up and start taking action with this little guy.

Good luck!

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

Thank you for your input. I appreciate it. You are very right. His parents definitely need to change things and fast. They are due with baby #2 in Dec so its not going to get any easier for them.

I also had a child like this and their second child began imitating the first child. I set up a behavior plan and the child was suspended on their first day back with that plan (3 incidents and you're suspended, the child had 4 severe incidents). Mom said she knew the child was out of control and Dad said it was my fault. They were termed. I felt such relief after they were gone. When a child consume almost all of your energy and their bad behaviors aren't improving, it's time to let them go.

[MyAngels]

Thanks everyone!

I just wrote up a term letter and dated it for Friday. I am giving them a 2 week notice. I just hope they wake up and start taking action with this little guy.

Keep us posted as to how it goes.