About To Term For Biting And Pinching-Any Last Ditch Suggestions?

[Laurel]

Haha I had a hard time at first too! If you have a laptop turn it sideways to look at the picture correctly-it's sideways!

Haha, yeah I see it now. It is an ariel view but sideways.

Laurel

[Laurel]

The gates are pressure mounted. The floor has a numbered rug. I'm not sure why it posted that way. I took it right.

Oh okay, got it!

Is it in a hallway maybe cause the walls look close together?

Laurel

[LaLa1923]

Oh okay, got it!

Is it in a hallway maybe cause the walls look close together?

Laurel

yes, it's a hallway.

[Laurel]

yes, it's a hallway.

Thanks, that gives me an idea for something else I could do. My room is one large room with no hall leading to it. I could convert an unused bedroom into my daycare room though if I wanted too. Interesting idea.

Thanks for the picture!

Laurel

[LaLa1923]

Any update? What happened??

[Sunchimes]

I guess I'm going to keep him. I called the 2 on my waiting list, and they aren't going to work out for a replacement.

My husband has taken up residence in the play room to be another pair of eyes this week. This wasn't a great idea. He has fallen for this little one and is coming up with all sorts of reasons for keeping him. I should have known-he is crazy about every kid I've ever had here. He's a tough old guy with a marshmallow heart.

I did talk to the "victim's" therapist today and she gave me some great ideas. I talked about them in the other biting thread posted today. So, I guess he's here unless it gets worse. He didn't bite anyone yesterday or today although there were a couple of bad pinches and some hair pulling.

[harperluu]

I'm not sure what others mean by shadowing, but this is what my shadowing looks like:

The biter is always with me, wherever I go the biter goes. And I mean everywhere. And when they are with me, they are sitting so close to me they are touching me. If I change diapers the biter sits by me when I change diapers. If I am in the kitchen the biter is sitting next to me in the kitchen. When I can sit on the play floor the biter sits right next to me on the play floor. It is a very boring existence for the biter. They cannot play where they want, when the want. If I am feeding a baby, the biter is in a booster at the table with an activity right next to me. I don't shadow them, they shadow me.

A stern NO BITING is the only interaction I'll give the biter about the biting.

I would also wear the bitee and have them with me as much as possible once the shadowing has gone on for a few successful days. The key has been to break the cycle and have lots and lots of successful hours in a day before the biter is allowed to be a few inches from me. Then a foot from me.

While kids certainly experiment with biting at 18 months, repeated targeting and biting on a regular basis is learned. They are getting some payoff, whether real or perceived. Create zero opportunities for biting until they have not bitten for several days.

Also, when I have a biter I usually strip down my program to bare bones for a few weeks so that I can have constant, close proximity, one-on-one attention on the biter.

Once I've established this plan of action for the biter, I'll give the parents a written notice of X number of weeks and if the biting hasn't subsided then term. Document all biting incidence or attempted unsuccessful incidents and give to the parents each evening.