DAYCARE PARENTS DIVORCING - I Feel Like I Am In The Middle!

[MARSTELAC]

You all have such great ideas! Jen: I am going to suggest the e-mail updates.
Blackcat: it might just be the same family!! They have such issues with I bought this for joey/chucky and it cannot go to HIS/HER house too! So sad!!! I think I am just extra whiny this week because some of the kids have been brought to daycare ill and my backbone is missing......

[DancingQueen]

I'd seriously not answer him more than once per day. For the silly stuff. I have a dad that likes to call me a lot and I just don't take his calls. I figure if it is really important he'll leave me a voicemail message. Then I listen to the message (which usually isn't important) and I determine if it needs a call back or a quick text back later that night.
I make it pretty clear that I'm not at their beck and call. After hours or during hours. I have a life after hours and during hours I'm busy with the kids.

[laundrymom]

what if you waited until you got up in the morning to answer his calls.??? I mean,.. he calls you at 5 7 and even 8 pm to ask a question,... I would call him when I woke,.. for me it would be 330am, Im sure most of you arent as goofy as I am,... But around 7 I would call and tell him,.. Hi,. its me,.. I am returning your calls from last night,... This is the only time I can focus on you before I get busy for the day,..... What did you need? If he says,.. why are you calling so early,.. Just tell him again that you wanted to get back with him before you got busy for the day so you wouldnt forget,...

of course if it were me I would tell them we need a conference together at pick up today so please meet each other at my house. Then say,.. Im sorry,.. I need to be honest with you about something,.. when I tell one of you something, can you just relay the information to each other? it really bothers me when I get phone calls for issues Ive already spoken to someone about. I do my best every day to insure the person picking up gets the information from the day. I do not hide anything, I try to give specifics and make sure you know what happens here,. but I feel like I am being questioned because of a lack of trust on your parts. I feel like you are comparing daily happenings to see if Im lying or something. I would appreciate you both relaying information to each other and letting me enjoy my family in the evenings. If something comes up during the day I will text whoever picks up that day. Please just relay the information to each other. Then see what they say..... If they apologize and say no they trust you thats not the problem at all,.. then say fine,.. what is it then,.. because if it has anything to do with the relationship between the two of you it is UNFAIR to drag me into it. I am too busy to play divorce games with childcare clients. and see what they say.


You should not feel bad, embarrassed, or ashamed to stand up and say,... stop calling and reafirming (sp?) everything that happens at daycare.

Quali and Lil: I can understand both views you guys gave...my issue is that the kid switches between parents every 2 days. The dad is a lingerer both at drop off and pick up. He also contacts me every day via text to see how kids are and then calls constantly after I close to ask the most non-sensical questions....is that a word? my brain appears to be fried this a.m. even if I did make a copy of the notes each day for the other parent, I think I'd still get the calls from this guy. He has no real friends and his family lives far away. It is such a pain in the you know what to work all day then have to answer a call every stinking night about his child! (small vent?) and regarding copying the notes for the other parent, the mom always stops by HIS house and shows him the note on her way home (because she has to pick up the overnight bag). WAH!

[MARSTELAC]

Amen! I love you all (and I don't even know you!). My dh is picking up my 2011 contracts from the printer/binder today. I am going to put a sweet-as-pie cover letter with it that says something about my adoration of the kids and then something along the lines of a combination of everything above (in a nice manner of course) and send it to all the parents so as not to single out any one in particular. I do see a larger than normal raise coming from this family though (more like an inconvenience fee :-) ) to cover the added aggravation....

[Blackcat31]

what if you waited until you got up in the morning to answer his calls.??? I mean,.. he calls you at 5 7 and even 8 pm to ask a question,... I would call him when I woke,.. for me it would be 330am, Im sure most of you arent as goofy as I am,... But around 7 I would call and tell him,.. Hi,. its me,.. I am returning your calls from last night,... This is the only time I can focus on you before I get busy for the day,..... What did you need? If he says,.. why are you calling so early,.. Just tell him again that you wanted to get back with him before you got busy for the day so you wouldnt forget,...

That is absolutely the BEST solution I have ever heard for this type of problem!! :: That would be awesome and liberating too...You should totally do it!!!!