SD Has RINGWORM....Am I Overreacting?!!!

[LaLa1923]

My hubs called (he's away on business this week) and said his daughter has ringworm! OMG......I begged him to not get his two kids this weekend! ( we have joint custody and get them fri-mon) I don't want to chance it. I'm afraid I will get it or my youngest. If I get it the DCKS could get it.....ugh!!

Everything I read said it's highly contagious! Everything has to be washed, anything she touches. Bed linens need to be changed every day.


Am I overreacting?? Has anyone else experienced this??!

[satcook]

Yes, I do!

Would you also refuse visitation if she had the flu or a cold. Should mom always have to deal with her when she is sick? This is your husband's daughter!

If you keep ringworm covered it will be fine.

Lori

[Blackcat31]

Here is the technical fact sheet I have about it:

http://www.hennepin.us/files/HennepinUS/HSPHD/Public%20Health%20Protection/Epidemiology/Daycare%20Manual/1575_s6RINGWM.pdf

I don't mean this rudely so please don't be offended but I think that it is just something you may have to deal with.

If your DH has joint custody of his kids, he shouldn't have the option of picking and choosing when he wants to "parent" them...kwim?

The kids are his responsibility during HIS time with them REGARDLESS of what their issues, illness or whatever is during that time.

As a parent, you deal with whatever comes your way.

I also think it would send a poor message to the kids. You know, like 'Dad only wants them if they are in "good" condition'.

If I were the mother of those children, I'd be livid if their father didn't want to take them because of that.

I also understand that you have a child care but I don't think that should ever play into when he does or doesn't take his children during his scheduled custody times.

Hope that makes sense. Like I said, I am not trying to be mean, I am just seeing this from the other perspectives.

[itlw8]

Yes you are over reacting. I assume it is being treated. Keep it covered by clothes or a bandaid.

It is very common especially in the summer. pools, children playing anywhere in public, gyms all are places the fungus spreads easily

[Brooksie]

Here is the technical fact sheet I have about it:

http://www.hennepin.us/files/HennepinUS/HSPHD/Public%20Health%20Protection/Epidemiology/Daycare%20Manual/1575_s6RINGWM.pdf

I don't mean this rudely so please don't be offended but I think that it is just something you may have to deal with.

If your DH has joint custody of his kids, he shouldn't have the option of picking and choosing when he wants to "parent" them...kwim?

The kids are his responsibility during HIS time with them REGARDLESS of what their issues, illness or whatever is during that time.

As a parent, you deal with whatever comes your way.

I also think it would send a poor message to the kids. You know, like 'Dad only wants them if they are in "good" condition'.

If I were the mother of those children, I'd be livid if their father didn't want to take them because of that.

I also understand that you have a child care but I don't think that should ever play into when he does or doesn't take his children during his scheduled custody times.

Hope that makes sense. Like I said, I am not trying to be mean, I am just seeing this from the other perspectives.

Agree.

[LaLa1923]

Yes, I do!

Would you also refuse visitation if she had the flu or a cold. Should mom always have to deal with her when she is sick? This is your husband's daughter!

If you keep ringworm covered it will be fine.

Lori

Here is the technical fact sheet I have about it:

http://www.hennepin.us/files/HennepinUS/HSPHD/Public%20Health%20Protection/Epidemiology/Daycare%20Manual/1575_s6RINGWM.pdf

I don't mean this rudely so please don't be offended but I think that it is just something you may have to deal with.

If your DH has joint custody of his kids, he shouldn't have the option of picking and choosing when he wants to "parent" them...kwim?

The kids are his responsibility during HIS time with them REGARDLESS of what their issues, illness or whatever is during that time.

As a parent, you deal with whatever comes your way.

I also think it would send a poor message to the kids. You know, like 'Dad only wants them if they are in "good" condition'.

If I were the mother of those children, I'd be livid if their father didn't want to take them because of that.

I also understand that you have a child care but I don't think that should ever play into when he does or doesn't take his children during his scheduled custody times.

Hope that makes sense. Like I said, I am not trying to be mean, I am just seeing this from the other perspectives.

I don't disagree! I've said the same about my kids dads. However, when my kids are sick I keep them as much as I can. If there is a posibilty of it spreading then I can send them to their dads. It's not Ok that my clients come sick, why would it be ok if I allow my kids to be sick with something seriously contagious around them.

I also did not give you a lot of background, for that I am sorry....

Their mother does everything BUT parent!! She almost NEVER has her kids. MAYBE 1-2 days a week at MOST.

Only one time they did not come and that was when we all had rotavirus. That was to protect them from getting it, they were still able to come but we gave her a choice that time.

UGH, if we get it or the DCK gets it I will be absolutely beside myself...

[LaLa1923]

Also, I would be the one to clean everything, I would be the one to cover it, I would be the main parent this weekend......like I am alll the time....

[Brooksie]

I would just let your families know what she has and that you are doing your best to keep it contained. That covers you as far as being liable for any one else getting it. I can see keeping them out of the house with rotavirus, but not ringworm. That just seems a little bitter to me. I've had kids come back to DC with Ringworm and Staph infections, but I never had any one else get it. I kept it covered and during changes stuck to our normal sanitation routine. If you are thorough normally you wont have a problem. But definitely notify parents. Just as you would with any thing else.

[Blackcat31]

I don't disagree! I've said the same about my kids dads. However, when my kids are sick I keep them as much as I can. If there is a posibilty of it spreading then I can send them to their dads.

But you have that option because YOU choose to keep them. Personally, I would send them to their dad's whether they were sick or not if it was his scheduled time to have them. I've never read a visitation or custody order that includes a clause about not taking the kids because they are sick...kwim?

It's not Ok that my clients come sick, why would it be ok if I allow my kids to be sick with something seriously contagious around them.

Then you treat your DH's children like your own. If there is an illness in the house, you notify the parents so they can choose to come anyways or you choose to close to reduce the risk of it spreading.

I know you said you can send your own to their dad's to reduce that risk, but in this case, these particular children don't have that option but are still your DH's (and yours) responsibility.

I also did not give you a lot of background, for that I am sorry....

Their mother does everything BUT parent!! She almost NEVER has her kids. MAYBE 1-2 days a week at MOST.

Only one time they did not come and that was when we all had rotavirus. That was to protect them from getting it, they were still able to come but we gave her a choice that time.

UGH, if we get it or the DCK gets it I will be absolutely beside myself...

I'm sorry for you, your DH and the kids that this woman is not a good mother but HER mothering habits really have nothing to do with what goes on during your DH's scheduled visitation. Just because she is a bad parent and doesn't spend much time with her kids still doesn't excuse your DH of parenting during his designated parent times.

I also sympathize and empathize with you about the fear of this spreading and being contagious but it is what it is and it really isn't that big of a deal. You do what you can, you take precautions, cover the weeping areas and do a lot of separation, cleaning and sanitizing.

Hang in there.

Parenting IS messy and icky and step parenting can be even worse at times but it still doesn't change the fact that DH is responsible during his designated visitation times..... contagious or not.


:hug:

[youretooloud]

I think it's WAY overreacting. It doesn't even deserve caps.

But, I "get" it. I'd be a little grossed out, but not to the point of caps.

It's not really a worm. Just use good hygene, keep it covered, and use whatever medicine on it that she needs.

[jenn]

I can see why you would be concerned. My DCK's bring in enough germs and illness, I don't want to be purposely exposed to more.

However, in my experience, if ringworm is being treated and kept covered, you should not have any problems. I used to teach K and kids would come with ringworm. However, we didn't really have a problem with it spreading. If they didn't have it covered, we would just put a square bandaid on(not sure what they are called-ones that are adhesive on all 4 sides so that they can't scratch and touch it). I always made sure they washed their hands if they had been uncovered before arriving and I washed my hands after covering it.

A DCB had ringworm in several spots last summer, and it never spread to anyone. They treated it and covered it at home. I just told the other parents to be on the look out for symptoms, but we had no problems.

Good luck!

[sally]

When my oldest daughter was about 3 she had gotten ringworm while at her biological fathers house. I took her to the dr and was told to put athletes foot cream on it and let it air out when possible and at other times keep a bandaid over it. I spoke with my daycare provider I had and (she was an amazing awesome person and had dealt with everything at some point LOL) she said as long as we kept it covered she could attend daycare. Within a week or 2 it was gone.

[LaLa1923]

Ok ladies, thank you! I will do my best to keep it covered and everything clean.....happyface

[itlw8]

Oh as far as sanitizing no big deal either... make sure she has her own bath towel.. I use a fresh one every time any way... and sheets should be washed when she goes home. other than that put the cream on or if she has an oral med make sure she takes it every night .

[Cradle2crayons]

Really you don't have to do any EXTRA cleaning above and beyond what you normally do.

Yes, WAY over reacting

Just put a bandaid over it, put the medicine over it, etc.

Be sure she doesn't scratch at it.

Same hand washing you normally do unless she scratches at it.

No biggie really.