I Thought You Were All Exaggerating.....Until Today

[Happy Hearts]

I must admit, I thought that the kids and parents you describe as hard to manage was an exaggeration. But, today I had an interview with a mom and her 3 year old boy. Wow!

He was rude, aggressive and just plain bad. She made excuses for his behaviour. I had to giggle to myself as I was going through this that I really need to apologize to you all for being an unbeliever.

As the interview went on, I knew there was no way I was taking him. I put up all kinds of red flags with mom on purpose so that she would decide not to place him with me.

She said he doesn't nap.... I right out said then it won't work..... ALL my kids nap. She asked if he could quietly just read a book. I couldn't have been more blunt.. Nope, I need an hour to recharge. I thought that would be the end of it. She said, ok then you can nap him.

He pulled his pants down in the yard to pee..... I told mom that's not allowed, and that if Licensing saw that I would be shut down immediately. I turned around again and he's punching my dcg, I started running to her. Every time I looked at him he was misbehaving and being mean to the other kids. I out and out told mom he was not allowed to touch my dog or cat. She said, why not does the dog nip the kids? I answered that no he doesn't and I want to keep it that way. I don't think I could have been more blunt about his behaviour. I have never met a kid like this EVER.

Everything he did, I had to correct. I had had it with that kid. I'm pretty sure mom thinks I'm a cow. Whatever! that was want I wanted her to think anyways. So, I told her I would give him a two week trial. But, I think I'll just call her tonight and tell her no. I'll blame the napping issue.

[MamaBearCanada]

Or that DCG's mom called you about her bruises! Wow!! I would have been speechless at just seeing one or two of those behaviors let alone the whole list!

[nannyde]

She needs a NO everywhere she goes. If she's going to raise him to act like an animal then the world will just reject him. If she calls back tell her the TRUTH.

[blandino]

I had an interview with a family that sounds just like this boy. He was like a tornado. Everywhere he went, destruction followed. I had never seen anything like it. He was 26 months old, and had the self-control and listening ability of someone under 1. His mom thought he was hilarious. She said at home she will find him walking on the counter top, and when she asks him about it he says "Mommy I climbed" - and he thought that was just hilarious. :confused::confused::confused:

I was dying to just get him out of my house.

[Laurel]

She needs a NO everywhere she goes. If she's going to raise him to act like an animal then the world will just reject him. If she calls back tell her the TRUTH.

I would tell her the absolute truth. Somebody has to tell her. Wow.

Laurel

[Leigh]

I would tell her the absolute truth. Somebody has to tell her. Wow.

Laurel

Funny, but they never BELIEVE the truth-the problem is ALWAYS the provider, never the total lack of parenting.

[Happy Hearts]

I just remembered this..... she doesn't nap him so that he will go to bed at 6:30!!! I couldn't believe it. I couldn't help it, she got my WTF face.

[Leigh]

I just remembered this..... she doesn't nap him so that he will go to bed at 6:30!!! I couldn't believe it. I couldn't help it, she got my WTF face.

Oh, good God. What is up with these parents who haul their kids through the front door then head straight to their bedrooms?

[TheGoodLife]

I'm not sure why you even agreed to the 2 week trial in the first place That kind of behavior (and parenting) is not something you want to deal with!

[Cradle2crayons]

Sounds like e interview I had a few weeks ago.

I don't have openings right this minute but I still interview. I was interviewing for my ONE preschool position I'm offering school hours and days ONLY. He's 3.5 and at his current provider he's vegetating watching tv etc and mom heard about my program. She seems like a very supportive mom and actually wanted four day preschool instead of five because on Friday is her mom son day every week. Wonderful thing that most parents don't so.

So she brought the younger 14 month old brother and also asked about overnight date night drop ins which I do Ina limited basis. Fine, still no problems.

Then she sees my menu in the kitchen " oh preschool boy won't eat x y and z etc etc" and " oh he cants eat strawberries" and " oh he doesn't do quiet time" and then lastly she informs me at he doesn't wear underwear. He is fully pot trained but she said he doesn't like and won't wear underwear.

So about the time my jaw shut, mom is sitting down and picks him up to help him onto the couch, and in the process somehow catches his package on the seams of his jean shorts, hurting him.

She seems to be easy on the payment issues because she wanted to contract to pay two weeks at a time a week ahead which is rare in my area. She has no problem with my half day preschool rate, etc. but the feeding issue, nap issue, undies issue etc bothered me.

But his little brother, the one they wanted drop in care for. Oh. My. Gosh. He was like speedy Gonzales. He was zooming everywhere, after animals, throwing my handbook papers everywhere, you name it.

Lots just say I got the huge feeling hat, although she may enjoy spending time with her kids because she could ignore and overlook the bad behavior, I can't and won't do that.

Needless to say, I had to become suddenly "full" after that interview. Lol

[daycarediva]

There are some crazies out there!

I would have cut the interview short and stopped wasting everybody's time.

"Dcm based on what you have told me about dcb, I don't think he will be a good fit for my program. Now if you will excuse me, I have to get back to the other children. Best of luck to you." Remove paperwork, smile HUGE and stick out your hand for a shake. It shocks most of them until they are at least out the door.

[MissAnn]

Update? Did you call her?

[My3cents]

She needs a NO everywhere she goes. If she's going to raise him to act like an animal then the world will just reject him. If she calls back tell her the TRUTH.

I was thinking the same thing why would you even entertain a two week trial.

Then again I think we have all been there and want to think the best in people even when the red flags are surrounding us making a border-

[My3cents]

I just remembered this..... she doesn't nap him so that he will go to bed at 6:30!!! I couldn't believe it. I couldn't help it, she got my WTF face.

many parents believe this...... they don't understand that naps make for good sleep at night- UGH!

[Laurel]

Funny, but they never BELIEVE the truth-the problem is ALWAYS the provider, never the total lack of parenting.

I would probably just say that it isn't a good fit because his behavior is out of control. I can't have him hitting children. Sorry, it won't work out. If she persisted, I would just repeat Sorry, his behavior is out of control as many times as necessary.

She doesn't have to believe me she just has to leave. ::

Laurel