Is This Wrong Of Me?

[lovemykidstoo]

Sometimes NannyDe it is just not worth teaching a grown adult the rules over and over, and trying to do this while the kiddo is all over his home toy. I have parents that do this too. :confused:They can't say no, they feel guilt for having to work and leave the child, and want the child happy when they leave. I have put it in all my books and my newsletter and verbal. Parents ignore-

It sets up the child's day and the group for a downhill start from the get go. I don't argue with the parents and the kid in the morning, I just take it when the parent leaves and put it in the cubbie. I then tell the child, NO TOYS From home at daycare!!! They can't play or have it until they go home. This works the best for me.

I find that the parents don't understand or care why I don't want outside toys brought from home. They do what they want to do. So do I. I have enough toys that I don't need anymore unless they are going to be part of the daycare forever.

I agree the Mom is misbehaving, but I don't want to watch the parents and the kids too. This is a battle I have come to terms with after much aggravation over it.

The child usually will fuss for a few seconds and then be over it. If they keep up with giving me a hard time I usually ask them if they want me to put it in the trash? Stops every time. I am not talking about a lovey or blanket, I am talking toys/junk from home.

Parents think it is great when the child brings in a couple of the same toy/junk for sharing. NO Wrong answer- It causes all kinds of issues and problems and tears- No Thanks. They are having tons of sharing opportunities all day long with their friends, with my toys, that I share with the kiddo's and because I share with them, they need to share or I put the toy away.

lovethis

This pretty much is me. When I take the toy away, the child most times doesn't give me any grief about it. It just irritates me that mom is so obiously disregarding the rules. it will be fine. They're done at the end of the summer.

[lolaland]

Call me “crazy” but this is what I did:

Thursdays was the “share my toy day”...!

I would close the door of the room where I had the shelfs with the daycare toys.

Each kid had to bring a toy from home that they felt comfortable sharing and that was appropriate for the daycare. …

During free play kids would only play with toys from home and we would work on taking-turns/sharing/waiting skills. Very quickly they learned that if they wanted to play with other kid's cool toy they would have to share they own toy.

All the other days of the week they could not bring toys but could set aside at home the ones they would like to bring inn on Thursdays. On Thursdays they would choose one to share.

Worked wonderfully and on Thursdays I had no toys to pick up at the end of the day!

[Evansmom]

I don't have this problem but it reminds me of something. We had a teacher who had a "May Box". She told all the kids and parents that IF they brought a toy from home to her class and she found it, it would go in the May Box. Because "MAYbe you'll get it back in MAY, and MAYbe you won't" . It worked!!

[daycare]

I would hand it back to mom and let her take it back to the car.

this...

and what nan said.

it is so sad for me to have to witness a grown adult argue with a little child. WHO IS THE PARENT and how hard is it to say NO. I mean every language knows what that word means.

I had a parent the other day fighting their 3 year old who found half of an old candy bar in her car seat. First of all YUCK!! DCM didn't want to hear her cry so she gave in and gave it to her. I took it and threw it in the trash. I said sorry, no outside food, plus its only 730am, we need to eat food at this time not candy. DCG screamed, DCM looked at me like I was the devil. I smiled and said, bye mommy have a good day at work, she will be just fine.

I do believe that it was BC who has the hotel CA policy.,...they can come in but they will never leave.... I love to sing this to the kids in the parents in the morning. Changes both of their minds really quick. Especially when I say I know mommy would hate to have to go and buy you a new one, lets give it back to mom....

Hope you find something that works for you

[KDC]

I have a "Hotel California" rule about toys brought from home.

They can check in but they can never leave.

Yes, I've had both parents and kids not believe me.
Yes, I've had both parents and kids test this rule.
Yes, I've kept many toys. Permanently.

Fortunately not from the same families though....seems once I keep on toy, they "get it".

I lovethis this! I may have found my solution =) For me, repeat offenders brought their toy into my playroom, where EVERY kid had a VERY long turn with THEIR toy, because they MUST share... that slowed things down a bit

[lovemykidstoo]

This daycare boy is the same child I made the other thread about 3 yr old bully about. https://www.daycare.com/forum/showthread.php?t=62935

He came yesterday and told me that he had a "big bag" of toys in the car. Thought he was kidding because he lives 1 mile down the road, why does he need a big bag of toys. Dad said, yup, he HAD to have them. I said, well, as long as they stay in the car.

He also "refused" to put shorts on today. There are shorts in his bag. Oh okay, you can't manage to get sorts on your 3 yr old and you want me to do it? Don't think so, he can be hot in jeans. I would have no problem getting the shorts on him though, but if she can't handle it, that's her problem. Love that they let him dictate what goes on. Then he comes here and clubs kids over the heads with toys. Wonder why. UGH Can't wait for September for him to be gone!

[Laurel]

Sometimes NannyDe it is just not worth teaching a grown adult the rules over and over, and trying to do this while the kiddo is all over his home toy. I have parents that do this too. :confused:They can't say no, they feel guilt for having to work and leave the child, and want the child happy when they leave. I have put it in all my books and my newsletter and verbal. Parents ignore-

It sets up the child's day and the group for a downhill start from the get go. I don't argue with the parents and the kid in the morning, I just take it when the parent leaves and put it in the cubbie. I then tell the child, NO TOYS From home at daycare!!! They can't play or have it until they go home. This works the best for me.

I find that the parents don't understand or care why I don't want outside toys brought from home. They do what they want to do. So do I. I have enough toys that I don't need anymore unless they are going to be part of the daycare forever.

I agree the Mom is misbehaving, but I don't want to watch the parents and the kids too. This is a battle I have come to terms with after much aggravation over it.

The child usually will fuss for a few seconds and then be over it. If they keep up with giving me a hard time I usually ask them if they want me to put it in the trash? Stops every time. I am not talking about a lovey or blanket, I am talking toys/junk from home.

Parents think it is great when the child brings in a couple of the same toy/junk for sharing. NO Wrong answer- It causes all kinds of issues and problems and tears- No Thanks. They are having tons of sharing opportunities all day long with their friends, with my toys, that I share with the kiddo's and because I share with them, they need to share or I put the toy away.

lovethis

Laurel

[Leigh]

I recently went through a situation similar. Mom would apologize about the toys, but say that the kids INSISTED. I would take the toys away at the front door-they still were smuggling them in. I amended my contract (and all parents get an update when I do) to state that ALL toys that come from outside will start going directly to the trash. I threw away a figurine and 3 little cars the first week. Toys stopped coming from home after that.

[AmyKidsCo]

I have a similar situation, except I encourage children to bring a "lovey" or stuffed animal from home for nap. One family pushes the limits by letting their children bring HUGE animals or several animals - one time they each brought 5 animals! I always say something but I have a feeling they throw tantrums in the morning and mom gives in to make her life easier.

[Blackcat31]

I have a similar situation, except I encourage children to bring a "lovey" or stuffed animal from home for nap. One family pushes the limits by letting their children bring HUGE animals or several animals - one time they each brought 5 animals! I always say something but I have a feeling they throw tantrums in the morning and mom gives in to make her life easier.

I do allow the children to bring A "lovey" or A stuffed animal for nap time but the animal or "lovey" must fit into a 1 gallon ice cream pail or it isn't allowed.

That way, I don't get the larger than life stuffed animals or king size quilts trying to be passed off as "loveys"

[daycarediva]

I don't have this problem but it reminds me of something. We had a teacher who had a "May Box". She told all the kids and parents that IF they brought a toy from home to her class and she found it, it would go in the May Box. Because "MAYbe you'll get it back in MAY, and MAYbe you won't" . It worked!!

that is a CUTE idea!

[lovemykidstoo]

I do allow the children to bring A "lovey" or A stuffed animal for nap time but the animal or "lovey" must fit into a 1 gallon ice cream pail or it isn't allowed.

That way, I don't get the larger than life stuffed animals or king size quilts trying to be passed off as "loveys"

All but 1 of my kids all bring a blanket. They bring it in, put it in their bed and that's where it stays until after nap. When they get up, they put it back by the door. They are not carried around. That's why it's so bad when someone brings a toy. It's like some have the blanket, pacifier and then a toy? UGH!