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I need to grow some and you all know what I mean haha! I work monday through Thursday 7:30 - 5:30. I have a dcb that comes 3 out of those 4 days. He is very enjoyable, but his mother, that is another story. She is pushy and just rubs me the wrong way. She asked me last week if I ever considered in a special situation to work a Friday. Told her no. She said that she has a special event at work and her mom can't watch her son. I said, well my daughter babysits, I could ask her. She's 12. She said that would work and would like it if she watched him at my house. I thought right then and there that I was going to ultimately say no. I think she wants me to have my daughter watch him here because I would be around to oversee what was going on. Therefore, in my opinion, I would probably be involved more than I would like and really might as well just work that day. I do not want to do this and open this door for her to continue to ask me. I just don't want to get ****ed into this kind of thing from her repeatedly. My June is also so darn busy that my fridays are going to be packed getting thing done. In the month of June, we have 5 graduation parties and 2 weddings. So, what would you do?
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"Sorry Jane, you are welcome to ask DD if she will babysit for you but it must be in your home. My insurance does not cover enrolled daycare children when I am not officially open for business, regardless of who is supervising him. I am sure you understand."
If you want to take a more humorous route, just tell her you can't bear to have "work" (her child) in your house on your day off.
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I will be honest in saying that I would not allow my 12 year old to babysit alone nor would I ever offer her up to a daycare parent as it is a conflict of interest. It opens you up to drama with the mom if your daughter is not available, does not mesh with the mom, or the kid, or any number of things that may happen, especially with a pushy demanding mom.Comment
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"Sorry, DD has plans that evening with some friends"
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I totally disagree. My dd babysits in the evenings and weekends for almost all my clients. She says yes and no to them at her whim depending on her plans. It's safe viable way for a young teen to earn money for themselves. My daycare families adore her and appreciate that someone can come to their homes that knows their children so well. They actually book her 6-8 weeks in advance alot now so they get their date they want. She started when she was 12 but for the first year she only took jobs when I was only a phone call away in case of emergencies.Comment
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Same thing with my dd. She is 14 now and has been babysitting for some of my families for 2 years. She says yes/no schedule depending, sets her own rates (and even charges more for after 9. That's my girl!
) I always tell dcp's that they have to ask my dd, NOT me, and that their arrangement has nothing to do with our arrangement.
NEVER in my home. Like BC said, that's too much like work. I always tell them that my insurance doesn't cover it after hours as well.Comment
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Yes, say NO! You will resent the situation.
When my daughters were first starting to babysit people knew I had this great child care addition on my home and would ask the same thing. I would make my daughters call them back and say they had to provide care at the families home.Comment
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Many of you said you would have your DD decline or would not allow your DD to babysit, but the OP's DD obviously DOES babysit or the OP would not have offered it.....
I think it depends on each individual child.
My DD was more than mature enough to babysit at that age. She had grown up in child care helping me tend to littles......
She babysit for many of my daycare families and made a fortune doing so...
She never babysat anywhere but the client's homes though.Comment
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My dd makes more an hour/kid than I do. She often has more in her savings account than I do. She makes more than minimum wage, and she has already said on more than one occasion that she will not be getting a 'real' job when she is old enough to get working papers....she would make less, not have the ability to say no if she had plans and work every week night & weekends making less money.
My dd has been helping me with child care for 7 years/half her life and is very mature for her age. I feel perfectly comfortable leaving her with her younger siblings, but would not leave them with most adults.Comment
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It's not that she should say her DD doesn't babysit, but that it sounds like she is uncomfortable sitting for that family- in which case jut saying that the girl is unavailable should save face if she doesn't want to have her do it, especially since she thinks the DCM really wants HER to each the child, not her DD.Comment
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Yea, my daughter does babysit a little. She was raised with me doing the daycare and as soon as she was old enough, she has helped me even with the babies. She has never babysat here though. That's the thing that bothers me. This is my day off and I don't want any of the dck's here while it's my day off even if my daughter is responsible. I don't know why the mother wants him here other than I think she knows I'll be overseeing. Which I may not. I might be out running errands. If she wanted her at her house, then that's another thing. I also don't want her to continue to ask for Fridays when I haven't worked a Friday for anyone in about 8 years and I don't intend to now. He's not here today, so I think I'm going to shoot her an email so I don't get into a big conversation with her about it tomorrow.Comment
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This is the email I just sent her. What do you guys think?
I wanted to shoot you an email because I don't want to forget to tell you. After looking at the calendar for that Friday that you were wondering about **** watching ***, it's just not going to work that particular day. We have 2 graduation parties and a wedding that weekend and it's just going to be nuts getting ready for that and also taking care of chores around here during that time. Also, she made the pom pon team and I'm not even sure when her practice will be for that.
Don't give up on her though, if there is another time that you would like her to come over to care for B***, let me know. I have a name of a girl I know that is a freshman in college if you want her number. Let me know.
Hope you had a great weekend. We'll see you tomorrow!Comment
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I don't allow my children to babysit for current clients because of possible liability issues - I learned about it through a webinar but can't remember which one.
Here's what's in my policies: "We believe it is the parents' prerogative to hire weekend and evening babysitters for their children, therefore we do not encourage our children to babysit for families while they are enrolled in our program. If a family wishes to hire one of our children to babysit, they must make arrangements with the child, and sign a Consent to Hold Harmless agreement beforehand."Comment
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Update
Well, my daughter did not babysit that Friday for her. She then asked if she could babysit this Friday. She asked that about Monday of last week. My daughter said yes that she could, but only for 1/2 a day. That was fine with dcm. The next day, she asked me how old my daughter was. Told her 12 and her mouth dropped. She said, oh I thought she was 15. HUH??? My son is 15 and she knows that he just did drivers training. Why in the world would she think that my daughter was 15 also? So, I told her that if she was uncomfortable with her sitting, then it's fine. So just last night (nearly a week later) she said that she got her regular sitter and that my daughter was off the hook for Friday. She said another time. Ahhh, no, that's not going to happen. I mean it's fine if she isn't comfortable with it, but I would not allow my daughter to sit if I didn't feel she could handle it. Secondly, do your homework first before you ask her to do a job for you. It shouldn't take you a week to tell her that you won't need her. If she's not good enough this time, then she won't be in a couple of weeks. Goofy woman! My daughter actually babysat for the neighbor yesterday for the entire day and did a great job!Comment
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