Aggravated and Venting

[bunnyslippers]

So, my two pretty princess DCMs strolled in my door, together, about 10 minutes late yesterday. No mention of why, no apologies. They KNOW my own son has soccer on Wednesday nights, and they have BOTH been late the past two Wednesdays. It feels very intentional, and I am sick to death of it. I didn't say anything, bc at this point it isn't even worth it.

Then pretty princess #2 looks at me on her way out the door and says "Oh, we have a meeting tomorrow. We should be done by 4:30." I close at 4:00, and my best friend is flying in this morning from NC for a visit. They KNOW this, and they also know I have preparations to make for my son's birthday party at school tomorrow, and that I have an appointment tonight that can't be missed. They also know about their meetings well in advance, and it felt like they told me at the last minute just to be mean.

These are the infamous two mean girls, who only act badly when they are together. I know I should charge late fees, refuse to work late, etc., but it isn't worth the fight. I am closing in 19 days, and just have to get to the end of the year, but I am so darn sick of these women treating me like a piece of gum on their shoe. I am a person, with a family and a life, despite what they may think.

It is so hard to do this job when you are almost done. I have been biting my tongue for weeks, and have come so close to telling them to go pound sand...but I can't for many reasons (the biggest one being that I think pretty princess #1 is going to be my son's teacher next year).

Thanks for letting me vent. Sorry for sounding like a broken record. I just needed to get it off my chest and somehow writing makes it easier. Uggggh!

[momofboys]

So, my two pretty princess DCMs strolled in my door, together, about 10 minutes late yesterday. No mention of why, no apologies. They KNOW my own son has soccer on Wednesday nights, and they have BOTH been late the past two Wednesdays. It feels very intentional, and I am sick to death of it. I didn't say anything, bc at this point it isn't even worth it.

Then pretty princess #2 looks at me on her way out the door and says "Oh, we have a meeting tomorrow. We should be done by 4:30." I close at 4:00, and my best friend is flying in this morning from NC for a visit. They KNOW this, and they also know I have preparations to make for my son's birthday party at school tomorrow, and that I have an appointment tonight that can't be missed. They also know about their meetings well in advance, and it felt like they told me at the last minute just to be mean.

These are the infamous two mean girls, who only act badly when they are together. I know I should charge late fees, refuse to work late, etc., but it isn't worth the fight. I am closing in 19 days, and just have to get to the end of the year, but I am so darn sick of these women treating me like a piece of gum on their shoe. I am a person, with a family and a life, despite what they may think.

It is so hard to do this job when you are almost done. I have been biting my tongue for weeks, and have come so close to telling them to go pound sand...but I can't for many reasons (the biggest one being that I think pretty princess #1 is going to be my son's teacher next year).

Thanks for letting me vent. Sorry for sounding like a broken record. I just needed to get it off my chest and somehow writing makes it easier. Uggggh!

I would just say NO - I know you don't want the drama as you area lmost done but I think that is all the more reason to hold firm. I would say tonight at pick up or text the princesses that as they know you close at 4:00 and due to previously scheduled appts you will not be able to accomodate a late pick-up.

[momofboys]

So, my two pretty princess DCMs strolled in my door, together, about 10 minutes late yesterday. No mention of why, no apologies. They KNOW my own son has soccer on Wednesday nights, and they have BOTH been late the past two Wednesdays. It feels very intentional, and I am sick to death of it. I didn't say anything, bc at this point it isn't even worth it.

Then pretty princess #2 looks at me on her way out the door and says "Oh, we have a meeting tomorrow. We should be done by 4:30." I close at 4:00, and my best friend is flying in this morning from NC for a visit. They KNOW this, and they also know I have preparations to make for my son's birthday party at school tomorrow, and that I have an appointment tonight that can't be missed. They also know about their meetings well in advance, and it felt like they told me at the last minute just to be mean.

These are the infamous two mean girls, who only act badly when they are together. I know I should charge late fees, refuse to work late, etc., but it isn't worth the fight. I am closing in 19 days, and just have to get to the end of the year, but I am so darn sick of these women treating me like a piece of gum on their shoe. I am a person, with a family and a life, despite what they may think.

It is so hard to do this job when you are almost done. I have been biting my tongue for weeks, and have come so close to telling them to go pound sand...but I can't for many reasons (the biggest one being that I think pretty princess #1 is going to be my son's teacher next year).
Thanks for letting me vent. Sorry for sounding like a broken record. I just needed to get it off my chest and somehow writing makes it easier. Uggggh!

Oh, no!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Cradle2crayons]

Oh, no!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I don't know about there, but here, if the teacher thing were to happen, you can go to the principal before the school year starts and they make the rosters, and let him or her know that having x person as a teacher would be a conflict of interest and why, and they will 99% of the time take that into consideration, especially if there is more than ONE teacher that teaches the same thing.

If she is the ONLY teacher available, then I'd worry maybe a little.

If not, then I'd stick to my guns

[bunnyslippers]

I don't know about there, but here, if the teacher thing were to happen, you can go to the principal before the school year starts and they make the rosters, and let him or her know that having x person as a teacher would be a conflict of interest and why, and they will 99% of the time take that into consideration, especially if there is more than ONE teacher that teaches the same thing.

If she is the ONLY teacher available, then I'd worry maybe a little.

If not, then I'd stick to my guns

It is that way here, too. The problem is, pretty princess #2 is the other available teacher for his grade level! It is a no-win for me, so I have to just play nice until I close.

[LittleD]

If you close at 4pm and have an appointment, I don't see why you can't tell her "OMG< I'm sooooo sorry! I so can't do it! I have an appointment that I just CANNOT reschedule, and at this point, it less then 24 hrs so I will get charged if I just cancel! I'm sooooo sorry! If I would've had more notice I would have rescheduled it with out a doubt!" Kiss butt, look really sad etc. This way you can close AND she still feels like she has you under your thumb because you are grovelling.
Just a suggestion anyways!

[preschoolteacher]

UGH!! I'm sorry for you. Hang in there for 19 days. It's incredible that people can treat those who care for their children in ways like this. Whenever my friend watches my son for me, I am so grateful that he's getting good care--I leave her favorite iced tea for her in the fridge and make something tasty for her to eat--or when my mom babysits, I "pay her back" by walking her dog! I could not imagine being spiteful and mean just because you can.

I agree with wanting to play nice until you close. I wouldn't want to risk the teacher taking out any resentment on my child if he was in her class the next year.

[daycarediva]

Push the mean girl in front of a bus (mentally anyway) and tell her "Sorry dcm, I need dck to be picked up at 4 because that is my closing time and I have plans. Here is the late fee for yesterday's late pickup. Please keep in mind that on Wednesday my son has practice so you need to be on time. If you are late next Wednesday it will be grounds for immediate termination."

Idc WHO she is, that is plain disrespectful and she is only treating you that way because you are allowing her to. Closing or not, put your foot down! ((((HUGS))))

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

If you close at 4pm and have an appointment, I don't see why you can't tell her "OMG< I'm sooooo sorry! I so can't do it! I have an appointment that I just CANNOT reschedule, and at this point, it less then 24 hrs so I will get charged if I just cancel! I'm sooooo sorry! If I would've had more notice I would have rescheduled it with out a doubt!" Kiss butt, look really sad etc. This way you can close AND she still feels like she has you under your thumb because you are grovelling.
Just a suggestion anyways!

If you HAVE to play nice, this seems like a good way to go.

[CedarCreek]

I wouldn't play nice.

If she tried taking it out on my kid next year,I'd have her fired so fast her head would spin.

[nanglgrl]

I would stand up to them. I think they will actually be less likely to "pick on" your son next year if they don't feel like you will make trouble for them. If they did happen to treat your son badly you go to the principal or further up.

[hope]

Try not to take it so personal and then maybe it would be easier for you to stand up for yourself. Maybe they are not treating you nicely because you are not treating yourself nicely. This is your business, your family, your life! So when your family needs you after business hours respect yourself enough to say NO to these mean girls. Make them realize you are a professional and should be treated as such. You run a business and this business has business hours that need to be adhered to. You don't need avoid the drama to keep them happy, you are already following the contract they signed. If they are no longer happy with that contract it is their own fault they are unhappy. Go about you life and let them be unhappy.
Please put yourself and family first, as you deserve, and text or call them. Explain that you are going to be unable to stay past business hours. No need to explain why. They signed. Contract for the hours they needed.

[DAYCAREPROVIDER242]

I would just say NO - I know you don't want the drama as you area lmost done but I think that is all the more reason to hold firm. I would say tonight at pick up or text the princesses that as they know you close at 4:00 and due to previously scheduled appts you will not be able to accomodate a late pick-up.

Agree with this!!!!

[DAYCAREPROVIDER242]

Push the mean girl in front of a bus (mentally anyway) and tell her "Sorry dcm, I need dck to be picked up at 4 because that is my closing time and I have plans. Here is the late fee for yesterday's late pickup. Please keep in mind that on Wednesday my son has practice so you need to be on time. If you are late next Wednesday it will be grounds for immediate termination."

Idc WHO she is, that is plain disrespectful and she is only treating you that way because you are allowing her to. Closing or not, put your foot down! ((((HUGS))))

I agree with this too.

Also, just because she may be his teacher does not give her the right to bully you. If she's doing it NOW, she will most certainly do it to you as the 'parent' of one of her children in class.

[Leigh]

In such a situation, simply restate your intentions: I need your child picked up by xxx time on xxx day so that I can take care of some of MY family's needs. If you have to work, I understand. Please call one of the backups you agreed to arrange when you signed on. I am unable to take your child past my closing time.