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Question: is this a parent who typically blames you for stuff? I'm asking because I don't see how she was blaming you for something and why she wouldn't get the benefit of the doubt that she really was just letting you know like she said in case you see her scratching. Wouldn't you want a parent to tell you that as opposed to dropping them off covered in bites and saying nothing?
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I guess the way the questions posed could be offensive. If you picked up your child and they had bumps all over their face that they didn't have before, wouldn't you question the person your child was with all day? Are you offended by the manner of the questions or the fact that a parent questioned?I've definitely gotten blamed for things like this too. It's unfortunate and it makes me defensive and I don't like it.
One time a DCM called me after DCD picked up DCB and said he had tiny bites or bumps in his eyebrows. I was like ok... She asked 1000 questions like, did we have fleas (no!), was he outside (of course) but not one of the other kids had any bites or bumps at all. So she asked had I let him go anywhere the other children hasn't gone? I was thinking "lady, are you crazy?!" I termed them later bc it became so apparent they didn't trust me or my care in the least.
Of course the tiny bumps were gone by the next morning at drop off...Comment
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It's because you all are dealing with the generation with entitlement issues who think they have everything so so hard
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I really do not know how you guys put up with it! My older cousin recently had a baby and she constantly goes on about how hard it is having this baby (mind you she also talks about having another one)... Kid is in daycare even when my cousin is off from work because how is she supposed to clean and show when she has the baby? Then she complains the kid gets sick at daycare and daycare is expensive... On the weekends she always drops the baby off at her parents house... even on mothers day because she has it "so incredibly hard".
I know this sounds really bad coming from a future counselor, but it's true! It's amazing what you guys put up with. And must be really hard to always be blamed by parents for irrelevant things or problems they have caused themselves.
:hug:Hugs to you allComment
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My DD was sent home from school last year from the nurse for a bug bite. She has a slightly worse reaction due to allergies but it was something she dealt with. After that I felt like putting her in a bubble to keep her attendance! Haha. I am hoping she grows out of this allergy soon.Comment
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Not sure why you are trying to start an argument......but I'll just quickly say that she arrived in the morning with her child. Her tone was accusing until I reminded her that I use deep woods off. She then changed her tone.
Since I'm not into this silly starting argument thing....
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In the post I wrote on this thread I wasn't clear enough to mention that the DCD picked up, but the DCM called later. The DCB didn't have tons of tiny little bites when he left here and neither did any if the other children. DCD usually took DCB to the creek to play after pick up. So I knew that if there were bites they could have easily happened between pick up and getting home bc they went to the creek first. However in my situation the DCM had many other instances of showing me she didn't trust me so I ended up terming. I was just trying to share my experience.
I've been in the childcare field for more than 17 years and I am really communicative with the parents I work with. I do not mind questions that are part of the normal communication and within the scope of a normal working relationship.Comment
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I thought of this thread this morning, I had a DCM tell me DCG had a bandaid on her ankle because she has a big bug bite, and asked me if the other DCK had any bug bites. IT WAS A MONDAY ! DCG has been home for the weekend, and the weather was yucky on Friday and we weren't outside. She wasn't accusatory, and said it could have happened at home - but I mean, looking at the facts - the odds are that it did happen at home.Comment
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On the other hand......who cares? It's a bug bite! Bug bites happen! Exactly why I started this thread.....why do parents feel the need to blame? Does it make them feel like better parents if a bug bite is not in their shoulders? Believe me, I feel like I'm a good provider even when kids get bug bites at my place. I just wish some parents would calm down a bit........when I was a kid and I got a bug bite????? No one knew it except me.....it's just a bug bite!Comment
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I completely agree. It is a BUG BITE, that's all. Not life threatening, not even a sign of someone not watching a child well enough. Bugs live outside, and we are playing outside - therefore your child will come into contact with bugs. The end.
I think from now on, I am just going to say "Well, we do play outside daily, and there are bugs outdoors".Comment
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