Biting...

[Babybear911]

So here I am...needing some direction.

Have a dcb that is 2 1/2 yrs old that when frustrated will bite. Not a little bite...I mean a bite that leaves impressions in the skin and sometimes breaks the skin of other dc kids. He seems to go after the same little dck here. The smaller, quietest little person here. It doesn't happen everyday or every week. Maybe once every few months. When it does happen it is out of the blue. When they are playing nicely and then bam! He bites...I immediately comffort dck that was bitten and then address biter. Then at pick up I tell parents.

Problem...biter parents are very laid back..."oh at isn't good" or my favorite "she's only 2"

Child that is bitten... Parent is (and rightfully so) "I'm very concerned. What is e cause of this biting" almost pointing to me as though it is because I'm. It doing something?

Blah! Advice on dealing with both parents and biter please!

I always say "Ouch! That hurts when you bite!" and "we don't bite <insert name>" "teeth are for food not friends"

[daycarediva]

It's tough because it happens so infrequently.

I shadow my biters, they get to do NOTHING unless I am within arms reach, sometimes that even doesn't curb it. I also have a 3 strikes policy, 3 incidents and I usually terminate care. It is NOT fair to the other children in care.

I would tell the parents, and give them something written that they have to sign for your records and for theirs, and really explain that this is serious and not developmentally appropriate of a 2.5 year old.

How is the biter's speech? How is his development otherwise? Any sensory issues?

[Babybear911]

Speech is not what an average 2 1/2 year would be. Hence the biting. I'm frustrated as biters parents are so laid back and then kid who is getting bitten those parents are all over me! Blah!

It's tough because it happens so infrequently.

I shadow my biters, they get to do NOTHING unless I am within arms reach, sometimes that even doesn't curb it. I also have a 3 strikes policy, 3 incidents and I usually terminate care. It is NOT fair to the other children in care.

I would tell the parents, and give them something written that they have to sign for your records and for theirs, and really explain that this is serious and not developmentally appropriate of a 2.5 year old.

How is the biter's speech? How is his development otherwise? Any sensory issues?

[Crystal]

I'd talk to the parents of the biter and let them know, in no uncertain terms, that this will not be tolerated any longer. They need to take this more seriously, provide firm consequences for the behavior, stop making excuses. One more instance of biting and I would term. You are going to lose the other family if you don't.....I would let the victims family know that if it happens one more time that you are terming the biter, so that they know you are serious and looking after the best interest of their child.

I had the same thing going on with an 18 month old a few months ago....I did exactly what I said above, and guess what? They took it seriously and the child hasn't bitten since.

Good luck.