New DCP Wants To Stay And Watch For 2 Weeks

[lolaland]

She showed up today and everything was going well, until she said that for the first 2 weeks, she wants to come with the child for the entire time, from 8am-1pm.

My reaction to the grandparent - "You're kidding, right? You are too funny!!" ::

My answer to the grandparent - "NO!"

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

I'm saving it now, too, BlackCat. Thanks for saving it in the past.

[mema]

No way. I would explain that it's against licensing. Also, that it does not make the transition into care any easier.

[countrymom]

dumb question but why aren't the parents involved in this.

[MCC]

dumb question but why aren't the parents involved in this.

I got the impression that the parent's were not very involved in anything regarding the child.

[Michelle]

No way no how. Would she expect you to make her meals? Would she pay you to "watch" her too? Would she lay down at nap time like the kids? Sorry but way too much of liability in my opinion.

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you just gave me a mental picture of a grandma laying on a cot with her feet hanging over!

[wdmmom]

Not no way, not no how!

Here is the problem with observations: EVERYTHING!

I would simply tell her that you can't honor an observation period. I'd tell her that it's not you and you don't have anything to hide but ALL the other daycare families must agree to someone else being in the daycare during normal business hours and if you offer that opportunity to her, you have to offer it to every single parent and grandparent in the daycare and it's just not feasible. You'd have a host of people who want to do it and you'd never be able to run the daycare as such.

[mainemomma]

I would not allow it. There is a confidentiality issue with the OTHER children in your care. Not to mention, it would just be really awkward and uncomfortable.

THIS!!!! If I had a child in your care and I found out there was another adult present that didn't have a background check ect I would be upset...Plus she will there there during drop off's/pick up which means anything you discuss with other parents isn't confidential...I wouldn't allow it personally! Plus I would be so uncomfortable!!!

[lisawatsonis]

Blame Licensing

Licensing actually does not allow you to have anyone at your home that has not been through the rigorous background checks, fingerprinting, tb checks, etc to the extent that she's asking for. Offer for her to stay for a half hr each morning and then she can call a few times a day. Text her pics throughout the day as well so she can see that her g-daughter is happy and healthy.

[Meeko]

How did this pan out? Did you keep the child?

[Moppetland]

Does your licensing agency even allow that?

Mine wouldn't unless she had a background check on file with them.


I'd simply tell her that for the safety of all the children in your care you can't allow her to do that, just as if another family interviewed and wanted to hang out around her grandchild you wouldn't allow that either.

Yup. This is exactly the case. She will need a TB test and all things a part time assistant will need, because this is exactly how long a part-time assistant would be there. Through the policies at her and that should be the end of it.

[Cradle2crayons]

Yup. This is exactly the case. She will need a TB test and all things a part time assistant will need, because this is exactly how long a part-time assistant would be there. Through the policies at her and that should be the end of it.

The op said she isn't currently licensed so none of the tb, background checks etc are technically true. However, grandma doesn't have to know that

[renodeb]

Ok how can I put this delicately? HHHHmmmmm... well I cant so here goes:
Hell to the no!!!!!!!!!!! Can I even say that on here? I would tell her that you cant because its against dc regs, plain and simple!
I hear yeah that you want the child but not like that.
Deb

[MCC]

It ended up being a non issue, they never called back :: I actually kinda got the impression that she was trying to open her own daycare, and fishing for information/rates/contracts.

I'm so glad I didn't take her anyway. A daycare around the corner closed last week with no notice, and I filled up in about 3 hours happyface

[Patches]

It ended up being a non issue, they never called back :: I actually kinda got the impression that she was trying to open her own daycare, and fishing for information/rates/contracts.

I'm so glad I didn't take her anyway. A daycare around the corner closed last week with no notice, and I filled up in about 3 hours happyface

Nice!happyface