Remember my DCB that's been hitting???

[LaLa1923]

I'm just about at my wits end right now. My DCB keeps hitting my son in the head!! It's getting ridiculous! He's been my shadow, I've been trying to reinforce gentle touches! He a sweet boy when he's not being aggressive. I like his mom and she said they'd work on it, but now I'm feeling guilty as a mom! Like I'm setting my son up to be beat on! I feel like crying!



Example today: My son was playing with a blanket on the floor today. DCB walked up to him and banged him in the head with what he had in his hand!

He's done it three times today!!

I was right in the room changing my DCGs diaper!!

What do I do??

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

How old is he?

I'd put him on a behavior modification plan that outlines what will happen should it occur x amount of times again. If a child has 3 incidents here after being put on a behavior modification plan, I suspend them. If they have any incidents after the suspension (3 days), then they are terminated.

[LaLa1923]

He's 18 months old! He's being such a bully....

[LaLa1923]

How old is he?

I'd put him on a behavior modification plan that outlines what will happen should it occur x amount of times again. If a child has 3 incidents here after being put on a behavior modification plan, I suspend them. If they have any incidents after the suspension (3 days), then they are terminated.

Do you have anything in writing I could borrow??

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

Do you have anything in writing I could borrow??

I sure do! I've perfected it after dealing with the last, and only, child to use it. :: Can you private message me your e-mail address? I will e-mail the attachment to you.

[LaLa1923]

I sure do! I've perfected it after dealing with the last, and only, child to use it. :: Can you private message me your e-mail address? I will e-mail the attachment to you.

Thank you!!

[AnneCordelia]

I sure do! I've perfected it after dealing with the last, and only, child to use it. :: Can you private message me your e-mail address? I will e-mail the attachment to you.

Would you mind emailing it to me too? I have a toddler who is pushing the other kids and it's getting excessive.

[Unregistered]

You will have to separate every second.If you can't be right there,put him in a highchair or playpen. He has shown that he can not play without being aggressive. I've only had one child in my care that has ever shown aggression,he was separated from the group in a large octagon playyard until he could play with out hitting.I would try several times a day to allow him to interact with the kids.As soon as he started hitting I told him"No hitting!" and placed him back in the play yard.It took two weeks but he finally got it.
It's not really punishment because children this age do not play together,they play side by side.
Hope this helps!

[cheerfuldom]

If you cannot be literally right there every moment, ready to catch him before his hits, then it would be best to term. Shadowing isnt just watching him. Its being within arms reach and close supervision at all times. If you change a diaper, he comes with you to the changing table and is told to sit on the floor right next to the table while you change a diaper.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

Would you mind emailing it to me too? I have a toddler who is pushing the other kids and it's getting excessive.

Sure! Just PM me your e-mail address.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

If you cannot be literally right there every moment, ready to catch him before his hits, then it would be best to term. Shadowing isnt just watching him. Its being within arms reach and close supervision at all times. If you change a diaper, he comes with you to the changing table and is told to sit on the floor right next to the table while you change a diaper.

Exactly this. I tried and tried to make it work with the child in my care but I simply could not do this and it wasn't fair to the other children.

[missjenny]

You will have to separate every second.If you can't be right there,put him in a highchair or playpen. He has shown that he can not play without being aggressive. I've only had one child in my care that has ever shown aggression,he was separated from the group in a large octagon playyard until he could play with out hitting.I would try several times a day to allow him to interact with the kids.As soon as he started hitting I told him"No hitting!" and placed him back in the play yard.It took two weeks but he finally got it.
It's not really punishment because children this age do not play together,they play side by side.
Hope this helps!

a large play yard might work but she would have to check her state regulations about the playpen or high chair. In Cali you can only have kids in them for sleeping and eating respectively.

[Unregistered]

The California rules state yoy may not place a child in a pack n play or highchair as a form of discipline.You may,however put them in a high chair with a toy for a minue while you attend another child. The . Play yard I am describing is not like a pack n play,it's like a bunch of gates linked together.

[slorey]

I have one of those as well. My problem is that the aggressive one is my son (just turned 2) so terming is not an option. I feel so bad when he acts like that! He is a sweet boy except when my dck's are here. I feel bad as a mommy but from a different perspective. Hopefully you can solve the issue at your house. It is so hard to do this job without feeling guilty about things like this!